原生婚姻家庭的“毒”，沒有砒霜

怎么 经营婚姻 ?原生家庭的危害，不仅在表层或一时，它对儿女导致的损害，远比大家想像时要长远长期得多。近些年来，在很多求助者中，人们发觉了一个状况——在“新生家庭”里遭受外遇、家庭冷暴力等家庭问题的人，60%左右都拥有一个相相近的“原生家庭”。对于这一难题，人们何不从电视连续剧《很好》中找找缘故：

 sumushiyigewubiqianghanderen，yikaishikan《henhao》deneishihou，jijuedeqinaoyouganjueyilv：yiyangshiqinshengfumuzinv，weiheduiguinvsumingyujiunenggourucidelengdanhejueqing?zaiyigezheibanqiangshidenvrentoulingxia，budanshiguinv，xiangxinjialidemeiyiweizuyuan，zaoyishiqugaiyoudesuiyiyuzhudaoquan。zenmejingyinghunyin?poxiguanxizenmechuli?

 huiwangrenmenderichangshenghuo，jianghuidahuoerhuiganjue，zhuangkuanghaimeixiangjulineibanshengdong。danzuigaigaojiedeshi，dananzizhuyishijiatingcunyoudejingdiannanti。yincicaizuigairenmenyongxindechixuziwofansi：zishendejiatingshibushiyechuxianleyiyangdezhuangkuang?zishenshibushiyeyiyangshuoguozheizhongsunhaixiaohaideyuju?

 erzuoweifumudeyifang，zuixianhaiyaodangdanqineifenyiwu，guanniandaodananzizhuyizongshiduiguinvdaozhijudadexintaichuangshang。yizhiyuzaochengxiaohaidaozhixintaizhuangtaishangdebujunheng，jinerrangxinlidequanbunaonu，jinershoulianjingyingshejishenpangdemeiyigeren。jiaruzhangqixingneiyangxialai，tamenjiangmeibanfacongdajiashoushangzhonghuoxinlaiganheguishugan。zhideyitideshi，tamenduishenpangderenyeyiyangzaochenggehe。

 youyudajiazaoyizaitamenshoushangchuangjianqilianluo，ertamenyufumudeguanlian，doushitamenchengnianrenhouhebierenchuangjianguanliandejiben。huanyizhongjiaofa，jiaruyigerendefumujiyutazhongshiyuganqingshangdefuwei，tamencaikeyizaishenxinjiankangdejiatingfenweizhongchengcai。yexurujinduixiaohaidemeiyixingwei，zhengshenshendiyinhenzaitamendejiyili。

 “yuanshengjiating”budanyoumamadeweihai，zhenduinvxing，fuqindeweihaigengjiazhangyuan。sufuwubideruanruoruanruowuneng，budanzailaopoyanqianmeishenmezhudaoquan，duizinvdoushiyifubuwenbuwen、shibuguanjidexintai。kexueyanjiushuoming：“yuanshengjiating”fuqinhenverdeqinmijiechuheshengshu，huizaochengguinvxinlideanquanxingyilaihexurongxindechuangjian。

 nvxing“yuanshengjiating”defuqinheqiguanlianshengshulengdan，huizaochengxinlizaochengduinanshibennengfanyingdenaonu，suihouzaitamenchengnianrenzhihoubazheileixintaisongdaohunyinshenghuoli，jineryingshejizuoweinanshide“laogong”。

 yinci，yigenvrendehunyinshenghuo，youtadeyounianshiqiyufuqindeguanlianjuece。jianyieryan，jiushishuo——qianquefuqindeaidenvxing，zuizhongdoushizhaoyigexiangfuqindelaogong;ertaduifuqinde“yuanqi”，yehuiyinerqianyijilaogong。erzuihou，jiushishuobeijujiatinghunyindeminglun。

 sumingyushibeijude，youyutachushizaineiyangyigejiatingli。danlingwaitayeshihaoyunde，beijiatingjiqichuqudeqianli，rangtabianchengyigezhichangnvren，haiyinchayangcuopengdaoleyigewuchangkuanrongtadehaolaogong。keshi，dianshilianxujuquanshitonghuagushishihaomengdeyanchu。zairenmenderichangshenghuozhong，youyoujigenengbaozhenghetayiyang?

 dangniyouyigeguinv，ninengqidaitazhihouzaoshouyiyangdechujingma?wulunwoxianzaishizhishen“yuanshengjiating”，huanshizaoyijianlile“xinshengjiating”，douqinghaohaodisisuoyixia。bubirangyuanshengjiatingzhishang，weizisunhoudaikeshangminglundeyinji。poxiguanxizenmechuli?