中年婚姻踏入三无状态 该纵容還是拯救

怎么 经营婚姻 ?如今的社会，绝大多数中老年的婚姻正踏入“三无状态”。什么是“三无状态”呢?“三无状态”就是指没有话说、无架可吵、无夫妻性生活。

 xuduozhonglaonianfuqibiaoda，zaixiaohaideputonggaozhonghuanjie，liangrenkeyiweihaizijiaoyunantierbaijiaqifang。keshidangzishendexiaohaimaixiangxiaoyuanneizhihou，liangrenzhongjiandegoutongbiandegengjiashao，hunyinjindaojibenshanglinggoutongjiaoliudekunju。(zenmejingyinghunyin?poxiguanxizenmechuli?

 wancanzhihou，liangrengemanggedeshi，xingtongluren，jibianyougoutongjiaoliuyejinjinjianyidanshi“jinyechiyiguome?”zheileideketaohua，neiyangdehunyinkeyishuoshimingcunshiwang。

 duiyuqingkuang，youderenbiaoda，yiguoneimahenduonian，meiyoushenmeguoduodehuanenggouliaole;youderenbiaoda，hunyinlaidaozheier，jiucouhuoguoba;youderenbiaoda，daolenianling，zaojiushiqujiqing。

zairujindeshehui，bansuizheyishizhuxingshuizhundebuduantisheng，zheilei“sanwu”zhongnianhunyinzhuangtaibiandegengjiabijiaoyanzhong。

neima，shishadaozhizheiyizhuangtaidechuxianni?

 keguanxingeryan，daozhizheiyiqingkuangdeyaosuyouxuduo。keshi，zhuazhongzhongzhizhongeryan，juedaduoshude“sanwu”hunyinchangyouyigequexian，neibianshiyouhuabukeyihaohaodishuo。

夫妇两人中间的沟通常常是始于和睦，止于争执。

 gongtongyuyandequeshao，goutonggehedetigao，doushihunyinliefengchuxiandeguanjianyuangu。zhenzhengdeaiqingyishizhuxingdemijiqujueyu“haohaoshuohua”。

 keguanxingeryan，nanrenguishuyukeguanxiaodongwu，nvxingguishuyulixingxiaodongwu，nanrenyunvrendeliaotiandehuatixuqiuhuiyoutingdadebuyiyang，yinci，liangrendejiaoliuyuelaiyueyuelaiyueshao。

liru，nanshixiaohuobanmenduilishishijianzhengyeshifenhenganxingqu，ernvxingmenzeduijiawuhuoxiaoshishifenfangzaixinshang。

dangnvshuojiawuhuoxiaoshi，ernanrenliaolishishijiandashiershi，bicimianbulexianghuzhijiankanbushang，yizhiyuzhengzhi。

yinci，bawoshuohuagoutongdeyishushifenguanjian。

yongxinlingting，haohaodigoutong，shichuli“sanwuzhuangtai”nantideguanjianfangshi 。

zixilingting，xixingoutong，zhangjiuyiwang，liangrendeqingganzongshigengweinonghou，yurijuzeng。

要了解夫妇两人能走在一起是非常大的缘份。

zaihunyinzhong，nanrenxiangshan，nvxingxiangshui，zhinengbuduangoutong，caikeyikanshangqufengjingxiuli，baihuashengkai。

yidanxianghuzhijianlengdan，quefawendu，mairudezhinengyipianpinji。

 yiner，bubiranghunyinzaierrumurandelengdandangzhongzoulaidaozuishenchu，tashiyijianshifenkeshideshier，yidanzheishichansheng，bicidoushishenxianwuqiongdehouhuimojiyutongchudangzhong。

 duiyuzhongnianhunyinde“sanwuzhuangtai”，zheieryouyixietiyi，baozhengzheizhong，hunyinpoliehuoxunenggoufangzhi，bingqieliangrendeguanliannenggougengshangyicenglou。

liangrengangzaiyiqideneishihoushitianmei，bicidoushijianglingyifangdeyoushichixubianda，hushilingyifangdequexian。

 zai“sanwuzhuangtai”chuxianzhihou，dajianenggoushizhehuiyiyixiadajialianqingneishihoudegezhonggeyangxingfu，duoxiangzhelingyifangdeyoushi，bubizongshijianglingyifangdequexianbiandahua，neiyangzongshijiqifenqi。

goutongshiliangrendeshier，eryouliangdegoutonggangkaishiyuyouliangdehuatitaolun。

yaodongdexunzhaoliangrendouhenganxingqudegongtongyuyan。

wuliaoshi，duoliaoyiliaoliangrendouhenganxingqudegongtongyuyan，budanyouyiyuhunyinhemu，haiyouyiyuliangrendeqinggantiwen。

 yaodongdeguanlizijidexingzi，yaolejie，lingyifangshiyinweiaini，caihuijijixiangnitichuwentihuoshigoutong，nigengyaoxuezhequlingting，quxixindijieshi。

bubiyouyulingyifangdenantidelingsuieryanjuan，gengbubibanuhuoyuyuanhendoujiaojilenizuiaideren。

zhengshuobaile，xingfukuailehemudehunyinshizhushiyouliangfazhanqushidekaishi。

 zaihunyinzhong，meiyigerendouyingdangbaoyouyikekuanrongzhiqing，yongxixin、zixi、shanxinkandaixiangzhixiangxijishiniandelingyiban。poxiguanxizenmechuli?