夫妻也需一声“感谢” 幸福婚姻的几个冷藏规律

婚姻生活 怎么过?据国家民政部《2013年社会服务发展趋势统计年鉴》显示信息，2013年在我国现有350万对夫妻申请办理了离婚手续，粗90后离婚为2.6%。。而2003年仅有133.1万对离异，90后离婚为2.1%。。人们这一以前称为“全球婚姻最平稳的國家”，正承受着“中国式离婚”的明显冲击性。

 kexueyanjiufajue，hunyinxingfunenglingrenrentijiankang，kejiaruhunyinbushun，duibicijiatinggongzuodaozhidesunhaiquanshiwufatianbude。meiguolaisidaxuehebinxifaniyadaxuedexuejiafajue，yujihundetongnianlingrenduibi，lihunzhesangshengyiwaishigudegailvgenggao。meiguoniuyuedaxuelangongyixuezhongxindekexueyanjiugongzuorenyuanzefajue，lihunzhehuanxinnaoxueguanjibingdefengxianxinghuitisheng5%。(hunyinshenghuozenmeguo?fuqizhijianzenmexiangchu?

 yiner，hunyinbixuweihubaoyang，huashuheluozuanqibushangtianjiajiherunhuayedegongxiao。xingfuhunyinyouzishendeyitaoguilv。jinqi，meiguo《duzhewenzhai》zaiwenxiaojiebanghunyinlengzangde12tiaotiyi。jiarufuqibicidouxiangyaozunxun，nengjiangdixuduomoca，zengjiahunyindeqingkuang。

每日说次“感谢”

 hunyindehemuqujueyupingshirunhua，biehushilekanqilaixiweideshi，yebiebalianrenjinizuodeyiqiezuoweilisuodangran。shizhemeirizuishaoyicibukoumendibiaoshuganxieba，jiusuanlingyifangjinjinxigewan、qingsaoxiahuanjingweisheng，douyingshuoyiju“ganxie”、“xinku”。zheileixiexiejinguankanqilaishengfen、jianwai，queshibiaoshujianronghehaowuyiwendeguanjianfangfa，yekeyirangniyuairenganshoudaoqingyi。

改版热恋期的烂漫事

 qinziweitazuodianxin;songtayishumeiguihua;zaitapibaolisaizhangqiuaidezitiao;jitaxiefengtianmeidebiaobaixin……zheizhonglianqingshiqichangzuodeshizaihunyinzhongjiukanqilaifenwaibaogui。budanlingrenhuixiangdaodangchudewennuantianmei，gouqikaixindexintai，zheiyiyiwaidejingxi，hainengshilingyifangganshouxindeganshou，rangqinggantiwen。

做另一方的“聊伴”

 “lianqingshi，renmenyizhiyouliaobuwandehua，weiherujinjinshenglejianmo?”xuduofuqidoushiyouzheileijuede，jiaowangjiule，zijuedehenzhangwolingyifang，jianjiandihushilegoutongjiaoliu，youyueganyehuibansuizheneifenjianmoxiaotui。lianggerenbixumeirizhaojiyuliaoyiliao，zhidinggejiazhongshijian，tangongzuozhong、jiazhongxiaoshidoukeyi。

 nanshengguanxingongxianyuzizun，nvxingguanxinxintaiyuguanlian，fuqiduolizailingyifangdeshijiaokaolvdao，yingyongzuiheshidegoutongjiaoliufangfa。shaodianmaiyuanhejiaolv，duoyixiejilihediaokan，jijizhudongfanmiandexintaihuirangxianghudegongzuoyalihuodegengqiangdejianqing。bingqieyuyandegoutongjiaoliuhainengshengchanzhizaoxintaizhuangtaiyuyuegan，tebieshizaiduigengqipanqingtudelaopomenyouli。

造就机遇彼此相处

 xuduoyihunzhemaiyuan：“jiehunle，meiyoulesuiyi”。doushuojulichanshengmei，“duju”dequenengzaiyidingshuipingshangkaolvduisuiyideyaoqiu。danyebiewangjixiangchudebiyaoxing，erzheyingdangyouyidingdejunheng。fuqinenggouyouxinshengchanzhizaoyixiegongtongxingdong，liruqinglingyifangbangzhujinxingjiawuhuo，dingpiaohuanjuyiqikandianyingdeng。budannengsuzaobicideqinmiwujiangan，jiangufuqiguanxi，keyiduozaojiuxiexingfudejiyili。

让另一方感受到关注

 meirizaochenchumenkou，wenyiwenlingyifangjinridefenpei，jianghuitazhengtiqianzhunbeijianyigeguanjiandeguke，huozheyouchangjiaolvbuandezhaopinmianshi，yijuwenhaonengranglingyifangganshoudaonidetiexinheguanzhu。chukaiyuyankuanwei，helingyifangyiqifentanrichangshenghuodedashixiaoshi，baohanjiawuhuo、huiji、zhaoliaoxiaohaideng，yekeyitahuiganshoudaozheifenaihezhichengdian，biandaqizaihunyinlidecunyoushiyongjiazhi。

在别人前重视另一方

 wulunshibaomingcanjiajiaojijuhuihuodong，huanshichulaiguangjiegouwumaishuiguo，doububisuiyijilingyifangmianse，gengbukeyitahuigongranganga。duiweiwandewomenzhongguoreneryan，qingmianshishifenguanjiande，tebieshizaizaiqunzhongchangsuo。fanguolai，yingdangjilingyifangyigeaidebicizhijianshujuxinhao。liruxingzoushiqianzhutadeshou，lanzhetadejianbu，zheizhong“judong”dounengchuansongfuqizhijiandeqingyiheqinmiwujiangan。zaizheidianershang，xiuyubiaoshuqinggandewoguofuqiyingdangduoxiangxifangrenxuexipeixun。

别着急着给另一方下分辨

 “nijiushishuoshuaishouzhangju，shashidouwulun”、“tuogedidoutuobutaihao，niyaonengganshenme”dengxiangjindezongjiexingyanyu，shuoduolehuirangzishenjianxinlingyifangdequecunzaidewenti。erqie，beichizederenqingxuxiaochen，jianjiandiyehuimorenshezhizheileixiajielun，fandaoxiangbiaoshidefangweifazhanqushi，zuihouzaochengjiatinghuanjingjiaolvbuan。

爱屋及乌

 zhongguoshijiaoyudehunyinyuqishuoshiliangrenderonghe，daoburushuoshi2gejiazhong。keyijieshouhezhongshilingyifangdejiaren、penyou，shixingfuhunyindeyigebiaozhun。guanjiandeshiriyaoyuelingyifangdeqinqipengyoucanjia、zaitamenbixushitanchuyuanshou，quanshiaiwujiwudezhenxinshiyizhuyaobiaoxian，haowuyiwenhuiranglingyifanggengaizheni。dangfuqichuxianlenanti，keyixiangzheizhongqinpenghaoyouxunqiubangzhu，tamenyexunengbangzhujiechu“sijie”。

理智处理决定不合

 fuqijianyibuheqimaodunshi，bubideliburaoren，chaodelianhong，haiyaofangzhizhengzhichanshenghou，jiujizhegenlingyifangshuo：“woxianggennitanyitan”，zheileigoutongjiaoliuhuiyinweibicichuzainaonuzhongerxuangaowuxiao。youxiaodefangfajiushishuopingjingxialai，nenggouyaoyuelingyifangyiqiwaichusansanxin，yifangmiandujuezhengchaodizhi，lingyifangmianmanmanjianqingxingfendexintai，gengfeichangrongyijiangchuzishenzhenzhengdeniantou，yejililingyifangjiangchuzhenxinhua，youliyuxiaochuwujie。

赏析这份爱人

 chuduixiangshi，ninengganjuelingyifangshizheiyishijiederen，zheileishangxishidajiaenaibingtaruhunyindejiben。danzairifuyiridexiaoshizhong，zheixieyiqianshangxidewupin，quejianghuibianchengyinqifenqidedaohuoxian。bukeyizhijiandaomeiguiyouci，eryingjiandaocizhongyoumeiguihua。hebuyongyizhonglianghaodexintai，bazhongdianjizhonghuazailingyifangdeyoushishang。nenggouxiexieganenriji，meirijiluxialailingyifangjinizuodeshi，keyishiguanliangenghemu。

不约束力和操纵另一方

 “zheiyijiajiujingjiushinilaiguanhuanshiwolaiguan?”jiaozhujialide“lingdaoquan”bianchengxuduohunyindefenqidianfushichuangxin。xingaoqiao，bukenqianrang，dequeshizaidushengzishoushangcunyoudebijiaobijiaoyanzhongdenanti。liangrengouchengjiazhong，yingxianghuzhongshi，jiangdilingyifangdebiequ、yapogan。yingdanggaoqingchulingyifangshiyigedandu、suiyideren，bubiguoduoyueshuli，busheqiulingyifanganzishendeaihaogenggai。

按时小结婚姻感受

 gongzuofangmianjingchanghuixiefennianzhongzongjie，laihuiwangzheiyiniandesuoshigerensuode，bingyaoqiugaishan。hunyindoushizheiban，fuqilianggerenmeiguohaoduogeyue，nenggoufenbiexiefenrichangjiatingshenghuodexiaojieganshou。helingyifangyiqitaolunhunyinzhongcunzaidebuzu，bingjijizhudongshangyijiejuefangfa。zhongxinganxiehainengshuoshuoxinlihua。haikeyibaqianliangniandexiaojienachuqubizhaoyixia，rangbicidouguanniandaoxianghuweijiazhongsuozuodeqinfen。fuqizhijianzenmexiangchu?