婚姻生活中最伤夫妻关系的那些事

婚姻生活 怎么过?近期，英国《防范》杂志期刊引发热议，评比出了婚姻关系中最非常容易损害情感的两件“烦事”，由英国著名婚姻关系学者得出分析和对策。

 1.yizhiweitongyangdeshierzhengchao。fuqiyizhibuduanweiyiyangdeshiererzhengzhi，jiuhaosizaiyuandipaobu，bukeyichuliyiqienanti，haihuiyuechaoyuenaoxin，shenxianwuxianxunhuan。(hunyinshenghuozenmeguo?fuqizhijianzenmexiangchu?

 zhuanjiafenxi：zhengchaohebianbodeshenhoushikongjuxintai，youyufuqibicixinlingshenchudoudanxinbeiyiqi、beihuijue、beijuedeyouwenti。zhinengfuqibicichedidexianghuzunzhong、wutiaojiandeailingyifang，liangyouxiurencaihuizhanxiangerenquedian。xunzhaozaochengmaodundedaohuoxian，qinfenduofangmiangenggai，caihuifangzhibuduanweiyiyangdeshiereyuxiangjia。

 2.xinqingdiluohuxiangyingxiang。yiweilaogongshuo：“dangnixiabanlefanhuijia，wojuedefeichanggaoxing，danqiziquehenpijuan，bingqiehaichengdanzhegongzuodegongzuoyali。zheiyehuilewodehaoxinqing。worenwei，rangtarenqingxuyuechabilingrenqingxubianhaoburongyideduo。”

 zhuanjiafenxi：xiaochenxintaidequefeichangrongyihuxiangyingxiang。danshi，dajianenggoutiaoxuanbuhuishoudaozhixiqinshuxiaochenxintaideweihai，danglingyifangxinqingdiluoshi，zishenyidingyaoweichikailang。zhangciyiwang，yifangjijizhudongkailangdexintainengtuidonglingyibanbaituoqingxudedichaoqi。

 3.xianghuzhijianjifenglengchaorefeng。yixierenjuedebiaoshutihuibixianglingyifangdakaixinfeigenganquanxing，shubuzhizheijianghuipojugongjinengli。youyu，zheijianghuixianglingyifangchuansonglefahuo、xiaochendengxintai，ermeiyoubiaoshuchunidezhenzhengniantou。

 zhuanjiatixing：gaoqingchuzishendezhenzhengniantouheyuanyishuodehua，zaijiangjilingyifang，qianwanbieyingyongbiaolu“fennu”he“yanfan”deyuju。

 4.taiguoyoulvlingyifangdeshenxinjiankang。qizichangchangmaiyuanlaogong“bubazishenshenxinjiankangdangyihuishi”，congerganjuetaduijiazhongtaobizeren，buailaopo。

 zhuanjiafenxi：tashiyizhong“bingcun”hunyinguanxi，yifangjuedeyaoduilingyifangdeshenxinjiankangchengdan，yinerduilingyifangjiayikongzhi，zheihuirangrenxiaochen。bipolingyifangbanshizhiyouzaochenghuxiangweimanhezenghen。henduofuqijuedewubibudiaoyizhicaikeyixingfukuaile，shubuzhibuyiyangrenzhongjiancunyoutingdachabie，yingdangzhongshizheizhongchabie。

 5.maiyuanjiawuzhizefengongbukexue。yifangfanganlajixiangmanshifeiqiwu，yibanhuijijizhudongqudao，danyoujianghuiganjuezishendanfuguoduo。

 zhuanjiafenxi：jinguanjiawushisuoshi，danbicidouyingdangjijizhudongdanfu，dadaojiawuzhizefengongxieyishu。jiaru“jiawuxieyishu”beibaituole，bicibixuchengzhichengrencuowu。

 6.richangjiatingshenghuozhongtaisuibian。yiweiqizishuo：“wozhangfuchangchangdageer、qingsangzi，zaijialigaochutingdadexiangsheng。zheifanlaidaowo，dantahaoxiangbingbuzaihu。”

 zhuanjiafenxi：richangjiatingshenghuoyebukeyiguodusuibian，zongshineiyangdehua，lingyifanghuiganjuebuhuishoudaozhongshi，biciyingdangzhuyaobiaoxianchuchongzudewanshanhezhongshi。

 7.zaikandaiernvcengmiancunyoumaodun。yiweiqizishuo：“renmenzaizenyangkandaizishenhaizinantishangcunyoumaodun，wolaogongxiangduojitamenxielinghuaqian，worenweimeiyoubixu，zhengzhiyinererzaocheng。”

 zhuanjiafenxi：zheiyangdeshiqingxia， yingdangcaiyongshiganxintai，zuozhelai，chengxindipingdinglinghuaqianshiduoshaodelibi。jiaruhaibuhao，neimajiuyongxintingbiedepenyoudetiyi。

 8.xinggewaixiangxingqing、neixiangxinggenanxiangchu。yixiefuqiyifangxiaishejiaomeiti，lingyifangzexiaizaijujiafengshuizhe。zheiyoushihouhuizaochengbudiaoyizhibuyizhi。

 zhuanjiafenxi：yifangnenggoushuo：“wojuedeniyaoyiqibaomingcanjiazhutihuodong，youyujiarurenmenbukeyigongxiangziyuanneiyangdeyishizhuxing，renmenjiumeifabianchengguanlianmibukefendefuqi。”lingyifanghaiyaokuachuyingyongdeyibu，youyuhunyinguanxizhong，zhinengshiduzuochuyixierangbu，fuqicaikeyigengweihemu。fuqizhijianzenmexiangchu?