花镇觉得没效果可以退款吗？暧昧是什么？

 jingchangganjuetongxi，yixieyuanbennenggoufeichanghaodeyouyiyouyulingyifangyijuduiniyouganjueerwufahuitou，jiaruyifangmeiyoufanying，zheiyiduanyouyihaoxiangyewufajianchixiaqu。zheiyeguaibudeyouderenhuiyinerbuyuanmaichuzheiyibu。

yiqianqingchunnianshaozhinendeqingkuangxia，youyigenvhaichangchangzaiwanshangdadianhua，yibuxiaoxinbianhuiliaodeshengengbanye。

worenweitashixihuanwode，jinjindajiasheiyemeiyoushuochurukou。

zongsuanyouyitian，taqianzhelingyigenanshengdeshouchuxianzaiwoyanqian，shuo，jintiandetianqifeichanghao，bushima。

wohaizaineixinshuo，duia，haodegenmorilailinyiyang。

 neiwan，wozuoleyigemeng，mengjianwogaobaile，tayetongyile。woyoudianerhuanhuqueyue，nanyixiangxiang。menglibiantashuo：shazi，buxiangxinninengniezishenlianya。worenhuoyibeizile，suihouwoyexingguolai。

zhihouwoziwofansizheiyiduanguanlian，caizhidao，zheijiushichuanshuozhongdenuanwei。

zhizhihenduonianhou，woliangbujingyiliaodaoyiqiandeqingxu，talveganchuxianyiwaidiyichengxiangdaidao：

 xuduo qingkuangxiatarenlianluoni，jijiyueni，shijishangbingbingbushiyouyutarenduiniyouganjue，zhishiyouyutamenfeichangrongyijuedegudu，yinci xiaizhaoxiangyaotingtamenjianghuaderen，wolejiedezheiyangderenhenshao，keshiwoqiahaoshizaiqizhongyige。baoqian，jiniwujiele。

zheijiugengkelianle，nijuedelingyifangshizaigenzishennuanwei，jieguofajuetagenbenlianneiniantouyemeiyou，zhishengyuniduzidengdai。

 wobuhuimingquetajiangdeshifoushuoshihua。danwomingbai，nuanweibianshinuanwei，dangyouyifangyouyulingyifangdeyantanjuzhierzaochengxingfudexiangdaoshi，tajiuzaoyichuangzao。jiarunizijibuganjue，jinjinrenweilingyifangxiangdetaiduo。neizuishaoyesuanzuogebujingyiguocuonuanwei。

zaiyihouderenshengdaolu，woyanjielaidaoxuduo nuanweideqinggan，chuaimozhe，sisuozhe，yeyongyouzishendeguandian。

暧昧是什么?

worenwei，nenggoufenchengzhuguanxingyukeguanxing，jijiyuchuyubeidongsigeshijiaopouxi。

主观性者

 rutongshangbianwodeshili，yexugengjiduanhuaxie，youyuxiangdaogongzuonenglitaifengfu，balingyifangyigeweixiao，yigemuguangdouguodujiedu，renweilingyifangduizishenyouqu，erzaochengtanlianaihuojiangyaotanlianaidehuanjue。

 shijizhong，dequeyouderenyushengjulaixingqingrouheshanjierenyi，xiayishiduitarenhao，zaiyifanglaikanxishupingchangdexingwei，lingyifangzehuixinchaopengpai，zigaozida。

ziranzheizhongjiushijishaoshu。dabufenrenhaibuhuiziyiweishidaolaocaiyitarenaishangde。

客观性者

 daxueshidaijingchangchuxianzheileitaosexinwennanhaihenvhai。changchangyiqichuxian，yiqizixiu，yiqishangfangxue，xianliaodeqingkuangxiamingmoushanlaixingyingbuli，jishitamenzijimingxianfouren，yehuibeirenminqunzhongdaoluansuoshi。

xiangjinzheileiaimei，shijishangshilianghaode，zheileinuanweizishen，zaoyihaoxiangyizhongtanlianaideyuanshihuanjiele。

 ketongchangshidangshirenbicijinguanxianghuzhijiandouyouhaogan，quekaolvzhongzhongyuanyinmafangongbuhuoxianghudoudengdailingyifangmaichuneiyibu。jisitingxide。

 dabufendianshijuzhong，nanhaihenvhaizhurenwengdeganqingzhichengli，quanshizhuyaobiaoxianzaiaimeishangde。xiangneileiyichuqubianshiyuanjialuzhaixianghuzhijiankanbushunyanbanzuihusunde，guanzhongmenyiyanjiugaoqingchutamenzaowanshiyidui，jinjindoubushihaodaieryi。

dangtamenzuihouqiqifufuyinyuanjihuizongsuanqianliyinyuanyixianqianhou，zheijuyejiuchabuduole。

 zheishijieshangzuiwukenaihedexibianshiguanzhongmenlejieniaitayeaizheni，dajiazishenbenlaiyelejie，kebianshisheidoubuyongshuo，nijuedejibuhuangren?pianyaoguanzhongmenhaixiangyaokanxialai……

积极者

 tamencongyikaishijiuyishidaozishenzainuanwei，yelejieruhequnuanwei。rutongwanyichangxiaomoshiguangdeshoujiyouxiyiban，congyikaishijiuzhongjiuburongyiqianxin。tamenyuqingguzong，yuqingguzong，gangrangniyizhongqinqiegan，yizhuanyanyouxiaotuiwuying。baihuacongzhongguo，pianyebuzhanshen。

weihetamenyaoneiyang，youyutamenganjuexingmingguozhang，renshengwuqu，laoxiangzaitarenxiaidemuguangli，xunzhaozishencunzaidejiazhi。

yeyeshiyouyutamenqingxidelejiezishendeyaoqiu，yinci caihuigangkaishizheicinuanweishoujiyouxi。

“xiangfengdeneiyike，wojiuzhidaotaburongyizaiwoxinlizhuhaozhangshijian。”yiweiaimeigaoshoucengzheibanyijianshitiaomingtadexinji。

nuanwei，bianshiaibugou。aibugou，jiunengyinzangziji，zhanqianguhou。

 henduorenbiaocengjiqing，qishixinlilengdan。jiufangfodabufenrenshuoxiaiqukanshu，shijishangtongchangshidakailiangye，jiuzaiyebuhuixixinkanleyiyibenshu，xianzhizaishuchuli，youshihouyeshenrenjingshiyongyongliuliu，caihuizaitiaosanjiansizhongzaicijuqi。

zaixurongbayugududehai，tamenyitianmeikaogang，jiuyitianburongyizhongzhizheicibodongbuduandechaoxun。

处于被动者

 nidedequequetihuilaidaolingyifangneibuxunchangdeyinyouqichang，danruguonixianggengaijinyibu，lingyifangquenenggouguoduandixuanzelikai。

nijuededenuanwei，tongchangshineirenzaiyunyongnidezhenxinzuodeshoujiyouxi。

niyuedongxin，lingyifangyuechunfengdeyi。

 jiufangfobeiduishouzhanfudeqiufan，quebeiyouchiyouhezhaodaizhe，huazhenjuedemeixiaoguokeyituikuanma？yitianmeiyoujiandaotufu，jiurenghuailicunhuodeqiji。

feidedaolingyifangbahuamingshuole，caikeyijidaohuixinyiji，wuleihongding。

lingyifanghaoxiangjileniduijianglaidexiangxiang，kexixinyixiang，youhaoxiangshadoumeiyouquebao。

lingyifanghaoxiangjileniganqingdexingfu，kexixinyikan，youhaoxiangzishizhizhongzaihuangkongbuan。

 tashiyichangganqingzhendizhan，niyaoyiguzuoqishi，huazhenjuedemeixiaoguokeyituikuanma？lingyifangshenlongbaiwei;niyaoanbingbudongshi，lingyifangmingguleilei。

nigangkaishicaiyizishenshifouaishanglebukenengderen，erlingyifangquechangchangwuyijiantiaoqinixinlidemianruan。

 nidelixingmanmanbeichonghui，nidejiaoaojianjiandibeixishiye，nigangkaishihusiluanxiang，ziqingzijian，dengyigedianhuayitiaoxinxineirong，denghouyichangyinyueyouchajuedaoquebukenyingduidechuxianyiwai。

zhenduineiyangdebeinuanweizhe，jiarunichajuezijizaoyishenxianqizhong，xiangduinishuo：

“renshengdaoluguoduodebubian，bianshiqujueyushuoyesshuodetaikuai，ershuonoshuodehenman。”

 yidanlejiezishenaishanglebukenengderen，yaoyaoganliqu，zheiyeshiyigerensiweichengshudebiaoxian。guoduoderendaobuzhiderendeshenshangxiaohaoleguoshaoqingganyuhuoli，qiedaozuizhongyebukenxing，lingrenyihanyuwukenaihe。

xihuanyigerenyuanshiyijianduomedexingfudeshi，tayingdangchanshengwennuanyuquanyu，pingjingyushuxin。

 erzhenduizheixiexiaigenrennuanweide，wozhixiangshuoyiju：duiyigenimingzhidaotaxihuanni，danniyoutaoyantaderen，qinghaijidebaozheng，buyaozaigududeqingkuangxiazhaota。tashiduiqinggandezhongshi，yeshiduitarendehulve。