花镇靠谱吗？这种男人，恋爱久了，热情消减最快

 zainvshifengkuangdiaokan“gangtiezhinan”dejinrihuazhenkaopuma？，youyizhongnanrenshishifenshounvshireliehuanyingde，neibianshikushuai、lanman、satuode“tianyalangzi”。keshizheileinanshengyibanyebuzhuanyi，wufaquyuwending，yinci xuduonvshizaitiaoxuanjiehunduixiangshi，yiranhuiraokaizheileimubiao。

 danhuishoudetianyalangzi，neimejiubuyiyangle，pinpaixingxianghaoqizhiduanzhuang，lanman，zhuanyizhongshi，cunhuoshiyongjiazhiyefeichanghao，duinvshiyongyou zhimingxingdexiyinzhu。

 xiaolinbiyehouhou，jiufanhuijiaxiangxianliganleyinlelaoshi。tababamamashiwangbaodedianxingxingdezhongguoshifumu，gaoxiaodeqingkuangxiabuxutanduixiang，gaoxiaohoubihuncuichan。shangniancai25suidexiaolinjiubeifenpeileyichangyouyichangdexiangqinyuehuiju，rangxiaolintongkubukan。

 danxingyundeshi，genjuxiangqinyuehuitayushangletademr.right——30suidezouyu(biming)。zouyugaoxiaodeqingkuangxiaxuexipeixundeshigequ，yiqianyizhizaiyidihepenyouzuletuan。

 nianqingshi，nenggou wujuwushuzhangjianzoutianya，danbansuizheshijiandeliushi，babamamanianjimanmanbianda，bixurenzhaoliao，tabixuqudanfuyixiejiatingzeren。

 yinci ，2nianqian，tatongyibabahuijiaquyuwending，yibianzaixuexiaozuoshenglelaoshi，yibiankaichuantongleqigerengongzuoshi，youshihouyehuiquyedianzuozhugechangshou。

 xiaolinduizouyuyijianzhongqing，erzouyuyeduigaoyanzhi、xinggewaixiangjiqingdexiaolinpoyouhaogan。rutongqingchunouxiangjulineibanfazhanqushi，tamenbianchengqinglvle。

 zuichu，lianggerenaideqinmiwujian，nanfennanshe。danjianjiandi，bansuizhereqingqiyiwang，xiaolinfajuezouyuzhujianmeineimajijile，xiaolinhenjiaolvbuanyeshangxinyujue。

 yinci，yidanzouyuhuixinxihuidemanyidian，dabantianmeijijihetajianghua，yelimeihetawanan，tabianhuibiaoshuzishendebumanyi。

 yingduizheileijingong，zouyulijigenxiaolinshuominglezishendelianaiguan“qidaibicixiangaiyexianghudandu”，erxiaolinganjue“nanshengjiuyingdangbanvyouchongdexianggongzhuyiyang”。

 lianggerendabuledegongshi，zhinengmeiyouxiawen。dannantiburongyizishenchuli，zouyuyuelaiyuegengweilengmo，xiaolinjiuyuelaiyuegengweifengkuang，zongsuanzouyushoubule，jiumingquetichuletichufenshou，yuanyinshi“bushihe”。

 xiaolinzaizizhuwanliuweiguohou，tiaoxuanlezixunbaoai。zaijierentadeanjianhou，zuixianshibangtapouxilezaizheiliduanqingganzhongdenanti。

①感情认知能力不正确

 yiduanwanshan、xingfudeganqingyidinghuilijingsigehuanjie：bingcun(tianmeiqi)—fanyilai(fenqitifuqi)—dandu(fenqitufaxingqi，yeshitichufenshougaofengshiduan)—xianghuyicun(wendingxing)。

 xiaolinchukaizouyuyiwai，zhitanguoyiduantanlianai，yinci zhenduiganqingderenzhinenglihaizhiliuzaiyixiewenxueleiyingshijuli，ganjuewanmeideaiqingyingdangyizhichuzaitianmeiqi，yinci tacaihuiquefaanquangan，yizhitichuzhiyizouyuduitadeqinggan。

 neiyangdeguandianhuanshihenguangfande，jibenshanggeyiduanshijianbianhuiyounvshizixun：“weihetayiqianyijianshihenhao，rujinquezhujianlengmole，tabuaiwolema?”

 dankeguanshishishi，jinguantianmeiqinanshenghuibaifenzhierbaidizijintourutouru，neiyangnvxinghenxiangyou，dantabutaikenengshiyigechangtaihua，youyuneiyangdeqingkuangshiguozaide，tamenshijishanghuijuedehenfeijing。

yinci ，zouyudezhuanbianshizaishiyiqiezhengchang，jinjinxiaolinyonglebushidangdefangfalaijiejue。

②恋爱经历与生活经验不对等

 zaiershichutoudexiaolinlaikan，“ganqingdarutian”，taqidainenggou meishimeikehelingyifangzhandaoyiqi，jiushizheiyangshenmeshidoubuzuodouhaihao。yiner，taduizouyudexuqiuganyouqigao。

 dansanshiduosui、ganqingjinglifengfuduocaidezouyuhuiganjue“bianchenggenghaodeziji”caisuanshirenshengdaoluzhongzuiguanjiandeshiqing，erganqingjinjinrenshengdaoludeyigeyibufen，qidaixianghudouliuchuyixieshineikongjian。

 yinci ，dangxiaolinbaganqingdangzuorichangshenghuodezhongxindian，duitaguodujiqingdeqingkuangxia，tahuiganjuexiaolingenzishenbushiyiluren，danxinhexiaolinxiangqinjiehunhouguoneiyangyizhongbeijushuderichangshenghuo。

③对两性心理专业知识了解不够

 shijishang，xiaolinhezouyuzhongjiandenantibingsuanbushangduo，jiarunenghaohaodigoutongjiaoliu，yiqiedounenggoudedaojiejue。dancaogaodeshi，xiaolinduinanrenxinliqianquezhangwo，bumingbairuhequrangnanshinenggougenghaodijieshoudaotadeyaoqiu。

 tazishenshigeshifenzhilvdenvsheng，dangzouyubuhuitaxinxideqingkuangxia，xingqinghaixiudenvshenghenyoukenenghuimiantianyixiazaiwennanyouweihebuhuixiaoxi，dantahuilijijiufaxinxizeguaizouyu。