四十岁的婚姻到底该怎么过，不论你的婚姻幸不幸福都不要离婚了

 40sui，duiyushenghuolaishuo，meiliruhua，wulunnannv。40suidenanren:chengshu、wenzhong、shiyeyoucheng，shirenshengzuihuihuangdenianling。sishisuidehunyindaodigaizenmeguo？

 40sui0suidenvren：suiranrenmenshuoyige40suidenvrenjiuxiangyigeayi，xiangdoufuzha，dantashizaiwuzhishenghuobufadahejingshenshenghuobuchongshideguoqu。duiyujintiandenvxinglaishuo，40suizhishiyigeshengkaidejijie。chengshu、zhihuihemeilidemeilizaitamenshenshangbenfang……

40suibujinshiyigeshengkaidenianling，bujinshiyigechengshudenianling，yeshihenduorenduihunyinbuman，xiangyaolihundenianling。

一、现实情况不允许

duiyu40suiyihouderenlaishuo，ruguozaihunyinzhongruyi，neijiubuyongshuole，jueduimeiyoubiyaozhuiqiuaiqing。

 raner，40suiyihouderenhenshaoyouxingfudehunyin，yinweizaiwomendexianshishenghuozhong，henshaoyourenzhenzhengjiajiaiqing。yinci，duiyudaduoshurenlaishuo，40suiyihou，haizijiulaole。

 tamenkeyitengchuyixiejinglilaikaolvzijideshiqing，youqishitamenzijideqingxuwenti——tamenyizhiqidaizhezijidehaizizaorizhangda。dangtamendehaizizhangdahou，tamenbuzaidanxintamendehaizi，yebuzaikaolvtamendehaizishifouhuishoudaojimuhuojifudeyingxiang。

 raner，40suiyihouderenhushilexianshishenghuo：haizizhendehenda，womendeshenghuozhendekaishijiejinxiabannian。zaizheigeshihou，womenzhendeganlihunma？bijing，buguantamenshifouxingfu，zheiduifufuyijingzaiyiqishiduonianle。tamenbicirenshi。jishitamenbunengzaijieshouduifang，tamenyeyinggaizhidaoruhexiangchu，ruheyuzijihejie。

 womenyinggaizhidao，zaizheigeshijieshangmeiyouzhuanmenweiwomenershengderenyinggaishiying。ruguowomenhuanlelingyigeren，ruguowomenzaicijiehun，womenhuizhongxinkaishishiyingzheiyiqiema？ruguoshizheiyangdehua，kongpazaiwomenzhenzhengshiyingzhiqian，womenyijinglaole，yibeizidouzainulishiyingbieren？kongpazheiyangdeshenghuozhendehenyayi！

zaizhe，40suiyihou，womenhaiyoujinglitouruxindeganqingma？

 jinru40suishiyigezhenzhengchengshudenianling。duimeigerenlaishuo，dangtamenhuodaozheigenianlingshi，tamenjibenshangshenghuodehenhao。wojingliletaiduodejingli，kantoulexuduoshiwudebenzhiherenxing。

 duiyuaiqinghehunyin，40suiyihouderenmenmingbai，ruguotamenlihunshiyinweitamenmeiyouxinxiangan、guduganhegudugan，jishitamentouziyuyiduanxindeguanxi，jingguoyinianbandexinxianqi。

 zheiduanxindeguanxiyehuixiangyiqiandehunyinyiyang，manmandiyibuyibudijinrusuosuierpingdandeshenghuo——shenghuojiushizheiyang，zheishiyizhongrichangshenghuobixupin。zaipingfanzhongxunzhaojingrendeshiyihejulikenengshibukexingde。

yinci，dangrenmenhuodao40sui，mingbailezheigedaoli，henduorenjishihunyinzhongmeiyouaiqing，yelandelihun。

二、几乎找不到“一条心”的人

duiyuzaihunderenlaishuo，meigerendouhenqingchu，tongchanghennanzhaodaozaihunderen，buguantamendenianling“yitiaoxin”deren。

 suowei“yitiaoxin”jiuxiangchuhunyiyang，fuqiliangyiqisikao，yiqinuli，weileyigegongtongdejia，weilefuqigongtongdehaizi，nulifendou，nulifendou。sishisuidehunyindaodigaizenmeguo？

 duiyudierduiyihunfufulaishuo，jishitamenxiangyaoyikexin，yehennanzuodaozheiyidian，yinweitiaojianshibuyunxude：zaidiyicihunyinshibaihou，fuqishuangfangdouzhidaoyigezhenli，neijiushi，yidanfuqilihun，tamendoubushishei，yemeiyouguanxi。

 zailijielezheigezhenlibingkanchuanlehunyindebenzhizhihou，zaicizoujinhunyindamendefufukaishiyinzangzijidexiaosuanpan，bingjinkenengduodiweizijideliyizuojihua。tongshi，yuanlaidehaizibushilianggerenshengde。

 zheiyang，duiyuzaihunfufulaishuo，hunyinsuishikenengpolie，jiatingsuishikenengpolie，haizishilianggerendegongtongdian——zaizheizhongqingkuangxia，fuqizenmenengtongxintongdeni？womenzenmenengnuligongzuo，weiyigesuishikenengpoliedejiatingernuligongzuo，erbushiyigegongtongdehaizi？

 yinci，duiyuzaihunfufulaishuo，zuidadekunnanshitamenzijidexinlizhangai，zheihennanzhaodao“yitiaoxin”gongtongqianjin“tongluren”，jihudouzai“dahuoguorizi”，guoleyitiansuanyitian。

 yinci，40suiyihou，hunyinbunenglikai，yinweisuiranzheiduanhunyinbuhao，danwulunruhe，fuqirengranyougongtongdehaizi，huoyigezhenzhengwanzhengdejia，fuqirengranshiyikexin。ruguolihun，zhongxinjinruxiayicihunyin，zaihunfufusuoweidejiazhishiyigelinshizhusuo，yinweifufudoumeiyouzhangqideanquangan。

 zhiyuhaizi，bushifuqigongtongde，buguanfuqishinayifang，zenmekenengbuchanshengni？“zanian”zenmeyang？bushicongzijishenshangdiaoxialaiderou，sheixinteng？

zaihunfuqi，gengbuyongshuole“yitiaoxin”zheishijueduibukenengde。

三、四十岁以后，即使你的婚姻不幸福，也不要离婚，除非你想好了，决定一个人独自生活

 40sui，keyishuoshirenshengdefenshuiling，shishangbanshenghexiabanshengdeguoduqi。haowuyiwen，40suishiyigecongqingchundaoshuailaodenianling。

 40suiyihou，wulunyigenanrencengjingduomeyingjun，wulunyigenvrencengjingduomeyouyamiren，zaishenglinianlingmianqian，doushirucicuiruo，shenzhimeiyoudikangdenengli。womendelianshangyouyuelaiyueduodegongzuorenyuan，xiachuideshentiqingchudigaosuwomen：jishiwomencengjingnianqing，40suiyihou，womenyemeiyounenglibinianqingrengengnianqing。

 youxierenkenenghuishuo，womenkeyibijiaonianqingrendemeili、chengshuhemeili。raner，womendouzhidao，zheixiemeilideciyuzhishiweileanweiwomenjijiangshuailaoderen——nianqingrenzaiwomenzheigenianlingyeyouchengshu、meilihemeili，womenbuzaiyouqingchundemeili……

 yinci，40suiyihou，wulunnidehunyinshifouxingfu，doubuyaolihun——yinweiwomenyijingzhidaoruheyuzijihejie，yinweiwomenzhidaoruhezhaodaolingyigeren，yexuburuxianzaideren。jishinihoutuiyiwanbu，niyebixianzaiderenqiang。

 sishisuidehunyindaodigaizenmeguo？liangsannianhou，hunyinrengranshiyiyangde，rengranguduhebukuaile。ciwai，womenzhidao，zhaodaolingyigeren，bukenengshiyikexin——bushiyigexindehunyin，bushiyigexindefufu，bushiyigexindejia，buzhidezhemoziji。