挽回妻子得做些什么正确事情，妻子如何调整心态

 qipianshiduibanlvzuidadeshanghai，keyidapoaiqing、hunyinhejiatingdejishi。yinci，dangxuduonvxinglaifangzhetandaozheigehuatishi，tamenhuishikong、fengkuanghebengkui。wanhuiqizidezuoxieshenmezhengqueshiqing？

 henduonvxingyudaobeipanhou，xiangmashangchudiaodisanzhe，danxintaibuwending，zaiduodewanhuijiqiaoyewufashishi，hennanjiejuechuguidehunyinwenti。yinweinvrenqingxuhua，zhishangyouxian，bunenglixingchuli。

丈夫出轨后，妻子如何调整心态？

 dangyiweilaifangzhezhaodaowomenshi，zhenggerendezhuangtaidouhencha。tafeichangjiaolv、jusangheqingxuhua。tameitiandouxianghedisanzhedajia，xiangzheruherangzhangfuhuilai。

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tadezhangfudaoqian，chengnuohuidaojiali，bingzhudongquyuetadeqizi。wanhuiqizidezuoxieshenmezhengqueshiqing？

一切看似稳定。

danjigeyuehou，nvrenfaxiantadezhangfurengranheqingfuduanlianxi，suoyouzheixienvrenzhinengjiazhuangbuzhidao。

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qingxuyingxiangrenzhi，renzhiqudongxingwei。

mianduizhangfuchuguizheizhongshi，nvrenyikaishishibukesiyide，tongkude，fennude，zaizheizhongqingxudeyingxiangxia，tamenhuixiang：

zhanan！gun！youzui！woyaochengfani！

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youhenduonvren，nanrenfanfuchuguihou，chuletongku，tamenhaiyoulingyigexiangfa：wobugouhao，tahuichuguima？

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xinlixueshangyouyigejiaozuoziworentongdegainian。

gumingsiyi，jiushiduizijiderentong，chulezixin，haiyouduizijishehuijiaosederentong。

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ziworentongyehuicongzheixiejiaosezhonghuodexinxin。

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zheijiushiweishenmehenduonvxingzaiganqingbuhaodeshihou，gongzuoheshenghuodouhuishoudaohendadedaji。

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yinci，womenqiangdiao，zaijiuzhangfuzhiqian，yidingyaochulihaozijidexintai。

neime，ruhediaozhengziji，dapoqingxu-renzhi-xingweideexingxunhuanni？

zhongsuozhouzhi，qingxushizuirongyishangshengdedongxi。nisuoyouchongdongdexiangfahexingdongdoushiyouqingxuyinqide。

 womendedanaojiegou，youyigejiaozuoqianeyededifang，keyirangwomenlixingdifenxishiwu；danyeyouyigebianyuanxitong，jiuxianghuoyaoyiyang，yidandianranyinxian，henkuaijiuhuibaozha。

 dangfashengshiqingshi，danaodebianyuanxitonghuifanyingdegengkuai。zheijiushiweishenmehuiyouqingxu-renzhi-xingweideguilv。zheishixiantiande，bunenggaibian。

zhiyouzhaodaoqingxuhexingweidezhongjianquyu，jirenzhi，cainengcongrenzhizhongtigao。

一、降低期望值

xuduonvxingzaihunyinzhongbuxingfu，qizhongyigeyuanyishi：duihunyindeqiwangtaigaole。

ganjue=jieguo-qidaizhi。

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huidaohunyinxiufudehuati。

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xiwangyouduoda，shiwangyouduoda。zheizhongshiwangduinihetadoubuhao。

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二、出轨的本质是你们夫妻关系有问题

nanrenchuguihou，nvrenzongshixiayishidirenweishidisanzhedecuo，shidisanzheguyigouyinzhangfu，zhangfuhuichugui。

woxiangshuodeshi，zheizhongsiweihuibasuoyoudezerendoutuijidisanzhe。

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yaokanqingshiwudebenzhi，yaojiejuefuqiguanxidewenti，hunyinshilianggerendeshi。

mianduichuguihoudeouduansilian，niyeyaoqingchudirenshidao，zheishichugui，muqinchulihaozheijianshixuyaohenduonaixinheshijian。

dangniyoulezheiyangdexiangfaheyishi，nijiubuhuichengweiyigefennudefuchouzhe。

zheiyang，jiukeyimanmanjianlihuifuhunyindejibentiaojian。

三、正确承担自己的责任

 zhengruwomenqianmiansuoshuo，yixienvxingrenweitamendezhangfuzuobishiyinweitamenzuodebuhao。jieguo，tamenyuexiang，jiuyuehouhui，yuenanguo，jiuyuebunengzhengchangshenghuo。

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zaizheiduanhunyinzhong，jishinizuodebuhao，nanrenyehuifangenglipudecuowu！

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zheixiezhishinizuodebugouhao，bushinimeidebuhao，yebushinizuodebudui。

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womenyeyinggaizhidao，meiyouwannengdefangfakeyiranghunyinmanzusuoyouren。

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zheiyiqiedeqiantishinibixuyoudulidegexing。

zaichulizuobizhiqian，zuizhongyaodeshidiaozhengnideqingxuhexintai。

 wanhuiqizidezuoxieshenmezhengqueshiqing？zhiyoudangnichuyulianghaodezhuangtai，nicainengzaiyudaojihuishizhuazhuta，youyulirangshiqingbiandegenghao，youzibenmianduitiaozhan。