利用圣诞节和前男友复联，创造彼此约会的机会

 xiang wanhuiaiqing dehuazenmezuo?zaiganqingzhong，dangnanpengyouxiangnimingquetichufenshouhou，xuduonvhaifenshouzhihouyizhiwufashihuai，wanliulingyibanduinidelengdan，budahua，dajiaduanjuelelianluo，zaochengniyizhizaifenshouhoudeshangtongzhongjiujiuzoubuchuqu，keshijiaruniyaozuiaiderenzhelingyifang，haiyaobaituofenshouhoudejiongjing。yiqi，yunyongshengdanshengdanyegengshi1gezuijiashiji，yunyongshengdandejiyuhenanyoufuchouzhelianmeng，genjumouxiefangfazaojiupihaoyouhuidejiyu。wanhuiaiqingmijiyounaxie?

yi、baituofenshouhoudejiongjing，weifuchouzhelianmenggaohaochongzudetiqianzhunbei

转移视线法

 xiangwanhuiaiqingdehuazenmezuo?ninengzuorenhekeyinixinshenyukuaidekuaishi。xijingde，nijinenggou zhaogepengyoutanxiaofengsheng、gonghuatiandihaikeyiyuanlichenxiaojiejinquanlizijintouruziranjiedehuaili;xidongde，niyefanbuzhezaiqianxinwankuyayiganneilingnixinchaopengpaidemaoxian，ninengzaiyiciyouyiciduinengliang、sulvdewanmeizhuiqiuwanmeizhongbaochiduizishendekuayue。buguanshengxiang，nidounengzaitongwaibudegoutongjiaoliuchupengdequanguochengzhongxunzhaoxindejunheng，niyewuxuyouyidibipozishenquwangque，yuefabipojieguofandaojiazhonglejiyili。suiyueran，qianyinidejizhongzhuyili，yiqiandezheixieshiqingjiujianjiandibeiwangdiaole，yexuyekeyiyingcongtongchudegudizhongbaituochuqu。

换还是生活的方式

 congyonghengbubiandederichangshenghuoquanshenertui、zhongzhilejiedezhutihuodongmaikaixiguanchengzirandedingshiduibaituofenshouhoudeshangtongshifeichangguanjiande。yaogenggaimuqiandeyishizhuxingfangshi，ezhiqiannvyouduiniyishizhuxingdeshenru，ninengcongzuoxishijiandedaziranhuanjingxiashou，huoshulizaluandewuzihuoduinidewuzikaizhanxiaogengxingaizao，zheizhongnenggoulingnikuzaofaweideyishizhuxingrongguanghuanfachuxinxiandeqichang，jinideyishizhuxingzhongxinkaishi。nibubiyinyishizhuxingdegenggaieryuelaiyuehuangkongbuan，tuichenchuxinnengjinixunsudizouchuqu。

提升本身生活品质

 xiangwanhuiaiqingdehuazenmezuo?“wanliutarendeshizhishixiangtarenguodexingfukuaile，neiweihebubazishenyuelaiyuehaoyidianer，bashenghuopinzhitishengyidianer。”zhinengtishengshenghuopinzhi，buduantigaoxingfuganbingshishidixianglingyifangzhanxianniquanxindewaimaojiqigaopinzhideyishizhuxingqingkuang，nenggourangtaduiniranqiaihuo。nibiannenggengyuanmandiwanhuiaiqing，rangai，meiyouquehan。

er、zaishengdangaibugaifuchouzhelianmeng?yingdangzenyanglianluolingyifang?

 shengdanlaila，bizhaoshangnianyoutashouhoudenuanren，2019niandechuantongjierijiniganjuefenwaiqingleng，jiusuanzhoubianquanbushipengyoujinjinweirao，jiusuandajieshangdujiaqifenshizaitaishenhou，nidexinlirengranbeixiangnianpuman，shibushinizaidianjizhe“buqingchutarujinzaiganshenme...”，jiranzheiyang，weihebushizhelianluoyixiaxiatani?xialieshiwanliuqianrengonglvezhizenyangyunyonglianluolaituidongwanliu，qidainideshengdannengyoudianerxirendeganshou。

 kefoulianluozaiyudajiazhongjiandefenqidiangaobugao，huanjuhuashuolingyifangduinidedichushuipingzenyang。dangnigentazhongjianyiranchuzailianxidianhuasuoyoudoubeijiaruheimingdandezhuangkuang，neimagenjuguoduanshijiandelengzanggentigaoyihou，shengdanzhenghaoshinenggou yongyujiancelianluodedian。yong“shengdanjiekuaile”laizaicijiashanglingyifangweipengyou，jiarulingyifangduiniailibuli，neibiaomingdajiadeguanliandouhaimeidao“jiechudongjie”dechengdu。bubiqinei，zaicitigaoziji，zaigenjubiededefangshi ranglingyifangjiandaonidegenggai，liru，lingyifangzhenghaozaishengdanjieneitianbaomingcanjiaxianghupenyoudezhutihuodong，nideyoubeierlaiyexunenglajindajiadejianju。huoxu，qiantitiaojianshicaozonghaoyaoqiugan，shifangyali、dazirandizhanxianzishen。

 wanhuiaiqingmijiyounaxie?jiarudajiazhongjiandelianxidianhuahaiyao，nenggou genjuwuyaoqiugandefangfalailianluolingyifang，zuilijidejiushishuoqunfaxiaoxizhufuxinxi，liru“shengdanjielaogonggongguopangle!miluzaimeidong!xueqiaozuoxiabulai!yinciwozigaofenyong，wolailaitidaitafenzhufu，yuanwodehaopengyoushunshunlili!shengdanjiekuaile!songninongnongdezhuyuan!”zheixiegaileidexinxineirong。jiarulingyifangmeiyouhuiying，neimajiugenjuweixinpengyouquanlaizhanxianzishendegaoshiyongjiazhi，jiaruniyizhizaitadeyinxiangzhongshiyimingbudangshejiaomeitideren，neimawoyezhuyaozhanxianzishenderenjijiaowangnengli，lirubaomingcanjiaparty，shidudeyixingpengyoucijixingyehuirangtaduiniyinxiangyousuogaishan;yiwangniyeshiyimingshejiaomeitidaka，cicizanqiejiuzhanxiangenqinrengongdushengdanjiedechangjing。erjiarulingyifanghuiyingle，neimaninengzaiciliaoxialai，“daihuiwoquzuozheijianfeichangyouqudeshi，huijiayihouzaishuo”，zaochenglingyifangdeqiuzhiyudeyiqiyetishengletaduinideshijianzijintouru。

 jiarudajiazhongjiannenggou pengmianle，neimanenggou zaishengdandeqianjirixiantizaogenlingyifangyuehaopengmian，“shengdanjieneitianqiahaoshilibaitian，yuehaolagenpenyouyiqimoumoumouwan，niyeyiba”。youyuchuantongjierirengongliuchanjuji，pengmiandedizhibixuyaotizaoyudinghao。

 huanjuhuashuo，jiarushengdannengzuoweilianluode1getupokou，neimaniyingdangbawozhucicijiyulaituidongwanliudefazhanqushi。erjiarushengdanmeifalianluoqiannvyou，yebiezheji，xianguohaozishendeyishizhuxing，zaishejiaowangzhanshangzhanxianzishendegaopinzhiqingkuang。jiuruganqingzhuanjiazaiwanhuiaiqingdequanguochengzhong，jiarulianluobukeyiduiwanliuzaochengxiezhudehua，ningkebubilianluo。ruguoniyeyouwanliudequdongli，tazongyouyitianhuijiandaonidegenggaierzaicibeinixiyinzhu。

san、zaojiuxianghuyouhuidejiyu，zaicixiyinzhulingyifangdexin

yunyongweixinpengyouquangouqitade“xinmao”

 yuanyigenju“shengdan”yuwanliulingyibanxiufulianluoshiyaoshuodaofangshi de，dangnijinjinmaomaorandeyuetachuqu，jieguojianghuihuiyinxiaoshida，yinciniyuanyiyueta，yebukeyineimade“jiandanzhijie”。ninengshizhezaishengdanqianye，zaiweixinpengyouquanlibianfamouxiedajiayikuaierlaiguo，henyouliunianshiyongjiazhidediqudezhaopian，youhuozhedajiachengnuoyikuaierxianglai，keshiyoumeiyouqudediqudezhaopian，zaijialiangsanjujianyideshengdanzhufuyu。yixiaolezhidewenhaohaoxiangbaokuozhewanyuqianyandexiangnian。buguantarujinzhengchuzainaxiedeqingkuang，tajiandaonideweixinpengyouquanjiufeichangrongyihuilianxiangqidajiayikuaierxingfudeyiqian。neiyang，yekeyiweilenijiexiaqudewanliujinkuaimaixiafubi。

造就相互碰面的机遇

 wanhuiaiqingmijiyounaxie?youguanyouhui，jianghuiniyaoshuobuguannizenyangkaizhanyaoqing，doufangfoniniuruhaixiangtong，meiyoudehuisheng。wojuede，zheijinjinnidefangshi yongbudui，ninengyongbiededefangshikaizhanyaoqing。shengdanjiushishuo1gefeichanghaodeyaoqingjiyu。ninengqingdajiazhongjianxianghudepenyoubangzhujuxing1geshengdanpaidui，suihouyaoyuewanliulingyibanyikuaierbaomingcanjia。zaishengdandangrijiangnizheizhongshirizhijindegengxingaizao，jiangnishideyibianzhanxianjilingyifangkan。lingyifangjiandaonidezhuanbianzhihouhuiduinizaochengxingquaihao，jiuhuishunlichengzhangdizaiciguanxinni。dajiazaicixiufulelianluo，yongyouneiyangdegangkaishi，wanliudexitongjinchengyedaziranjiuyuanmanduole。

yongxintiqianzhunbei1geshengdanjieyouhui

 jiarudajiafenshouzhihouhaijixubaochizhedepengyoudeguanlian，neimawanliujiugengweijianyile，ninengnenggou yunyongshengdandenuanweifenweituidongdajiadeqingganguanlianshenhuafazhanqushi。zaishengdandangrijijixiangwanliulingyibanchuanchuyaoqing，hejiudedifangtiaoxuanzaitianmanzhuiyidelaojiefang。suihouzaijianiyongxintiqianzhunbeideyican“shengdandacan”，ruguonikeyiranglingyifangtihuidaonizhenshidewennuan，juededaonihuadesixu，neimawanliu，daziranyejiushishuoshunlichengzhangde。

 wanhuiaiqingmijiyounaxie?shengdan，shi1geyoujinianxingyeshishijiyiyidechuantongjieri，zhenduiwanliulaijiang，yeshiduocinannengkeguidejihui，tongchangzaishengdanqiandeyiyue，wanliulaoshijiuhuigangkaishixiashoutiqianzhunbeishengdandewanliujihuafangan，bianyujiejuegezhonggeyangdejinjizhuangkuang。yiner，ruguonikeyibawojihui，yongqiadangdefangshi quyongxintiqianzhunbei，neima，niyizhizaiwanhuiganqingdelumianshangjiukeyiwangqianmairuxuduo。