真的无法挽回了吗？真实案例教你分析

zenmeyang wanhuinvyou ?fenshouzhihouzenmerangqiannvyouzaiciaishangleni，yaolaitashixuduonvhaineixindeyihuo。shizhelegezhonggeyangfangfazishizhizhongbukeshanguo。zenmeyangwanhuinvyou? wojuede，xuduoneishihouquanshirenmenshenbuduiti，huibuduiyi，aiqingdebenzhishixiyinzhu，fuhexingdeqiantitiaojianshiyaoxianghuyeyouqinggan。

fenshouzhihouzenmerangqiannvyouzaiciaishangleni，yaolaitashixuduonvhaineixindeyihuo。shizhelegezhonggeyangfangfazishizhizhongbukeshanguo。

wojuede，xuduoneishihouquanshirenmenshenbuduiti，huibuduiyi，aiqingdebenzhishixiyinzhu，fuhexingdeqiantitiaojianshiyaoxianghuyeyou“ai”，buranrenhefangshidoushitahuishierbujian，tadejijuruguobuailejiuhuijinigongkuiyikui，neiruhetahuizaiciaishanglenini?ruhewanliunvpengyou?

woshizhangting，wogennanpengyouyiqi4nianle，zuorishuoyaoyuwotichufenshou，tashuoleizhe，shuogongzuoyalitaida，woyoubulejieta，jiarugenwowanhun，zhihounenggouxiangxiangdedaohuizaochengxuduofenqi。ruhewanliunvpengyou?

woyixiaxiajiulengzhu，woshebude，wobuyuanyifen，woku，woqiuta，tahuanshihenguoduan，woyebuzhidaogaizenmeban，wobuxiangfangshou。

wojuederenmenyiqiantingbucuode，laiguoxuduodiqu，chiguoxuduotesemeishi，xuduonanwangdehuiyi，haiyangleyitouxiaogou。

wohetazaiyiqideqian2nianquanshifeichanghaode，feichangshaozhengchao，youquandounenghaohaodichuli。yingshuotagangkaishigenggai，yingdangjiushishuoyiqidedi4nian。

youyutahuanledanwei，changchangchulaipeiguke，jinchugezhonggeyangchangsuo，woyegangkaishidanyou，bingqietayulaiyumang，woyehuimaiyuantabupeizhewo。

zheinian，tajinguanhuanshiduinihenhao，keshixintailengdanlexuduo，juedebuxianggangkaishideneishihouneibanduiwomen，yongyouyanfanxing。

zhihouqiyeyongyoujiyudiaozhiyuanxiandedanwei，tashuoyaokaolvkaolv，rujinneilidefazhanqushijihuigengqiang，woyehenbulejiehetachaoleyitai。

youyuworenweiwomenxiangaizheimeduonian，bicibabamamadoujianle，yetidaowanhundeshier，rujinbenlaihaiyoujihuidiaohuiqu，wuxupaoyewu，niyizhizaikaolvdaonaxie，jiushishuobuyuanduiwomenchengdanzeren，zhujianwodexinlibianzongyouleweiman，changchangzhaotacha，naotichufenshou。zhendewufawanhuima?

worenweinijiranzheimoyangtaobizeren，yinweiwobuyuanzairenshou，woyegangkaishihetazhengchao，yuechaotayuebuyuanyingdui，lijidianhuayebujie，zhihoutajiuhuijueyuwogoutongjiaoliu，neiyangdeshirishizhongbuduanledabannian。

huoxutahuirangbude，zhongjiuwomenxiangaizheimeduonianle，meiyouxiangqi，piaopodayudeshierhaiyaodengzhewo。

wolejietaqiyede1genvhaigenwoshuo，tafangfohetamengongsibangongshide1genvdebumingbubai，lianggerenhaiyikuaierchulaikandianshiju。

jiedaozheiyixinxi，woqiduanle，hetatongdianhuachaonaoleyitai，tashuoneijinjinyibanpengyou，tajinjinduozhaoliaolemouxie，keshiwobenzhibuxiangxin，shizhongchanzhetachao，houbiantashuochibuxiaowo，yaoyuwotichufenshou。

woneishihoujiubenkuile，woneimerenzhenquweizheixieqinggannuli，worenweizheijiushiwojihumeiyouxiangguode，worenweirenmenjinjinchaozhengchao，shineinvrenyinyouta，buhuineiyangjiutichufenshou。

zhendewufawanhuima?wogaizenmebana，woturanlianzijidedaoludoubuqingchuzenzoule。woshizhongganjuezishenbuhuishi1gerouruoderen，weihewonengxiangrujinxiangtongdewunai。

难题深层次分析

neimazhangtingzaizheixieqingganzhong，zhuyaobiaoxianchuqude“zuo”degerenxingweijiujingshiweihe?laoshizaihezhangtingshencengcigoutongjiaoliuhouzongsuanzhaodaocankaodaan。

1. 没有安全感

youyuershimeiyoufeichanghaokaolvanquanxingdeyaoqiu，zhangdayihougexinghuayishenyigui，shiquziwo，meibanfazhenshixinrentaren，richangshenghuojianghuibijiaojingxing，jindaolianqingguanlianyebitarenjiannan。

zhenduitamenlaijiang，qingganzhongshishichuchuqianfuzheweiji，1geyibuxiaoxinjiuhuibeiyiqi，yincitamentixindiaodanweihubaoyangqinggan，youyufazifeifudebuxinlai，buduankankannaizhiqingchalingyifang，zuihouweihaiqinggan。

shubuzhi，zhongyouyitian，youmouxieshierlingyifangwufabaozheng，yincitabiannengsuanchushizhongduozangzaixinlingshenchudeyiju——tabenzhibushuoaiwo。

2. 沒有自身，依靠心重

zhangtingjianghuizaibierenyanzhongshifendandu，conglaibuxiangyaobubiantaren，keshishijishang，tahenjianghuizaiyuanshengjiatingzhongbingmeiyouhuodeguoxinidezhaoliao。

yinci，zaipengyouguanxizhong，huifanbeisuoyaotameiyouhuodeguodeguanxin，jiuhaoxiang1gejuying，zaipengyouguanxidebaobeili，zhilejieshenchushou，yaobushangjiunaoren。

keshiruguonizuodeneishihou，nidenanpengyoudouhuixiangxienaxie?

ruguoniyoushihouzuodeneishihou，wonengganjueshifenkuijiu，erqiexiangfanbeipeichangni，jinigaoxing。

keshizuodeduole，wonengganjuenimanbujiangli，wobumingbai，weisharenmendeguanlianzhong，tuoxiedeyizhiwo，yexujihumeiyouyisisirangbu。

niqueshiguanxinguowoma?nilejiewodegongzuoshijizuoxienaxie，meiriyaogongzuozhongduozhangshijian，youshiduoshaoshijianpeizheni，qingtingni?wokeyipeizhenideshijianjianghuifeichangshao，danzheihuoxuzaoyijiushiwonengkaolvnidesuoyou。

niyuanyizenyangdeshenghuo，wodoushirenzhengongzuoqukaolvni，danshijiarumeiyoushijianpeizheni，niyouhuiguaizijihushileni。wojiujingyaoruhezuo，nenggouqueshijinilingrenmanyi?ninengfouduokanyixiawobaozhengdeyibufen，duiwomenduoyidianlejie。

niyizhishuoniyeshiduide，keshiwoshicuode，wodequehuichengrencuowu，danneijiushiyibianhongren，wocongbuganjuezishenqueshibudui。

zuowei1ge“zuonv”，zenyangzhengjiu“zuohuai”deqinggan?

xiantingzhuquanbuzishi，wulunniganjueshibushihuijihuamaodun，manxialaiwenyiwenzishen：wojiujingzaiganma?dangdajiadeqingganzhiliposui，yiqiehuizaochengdongdangbuandeshierquanshifengxiande。