老公有外遇了怎么办，挽留和舍弃怎样做取舍?

 laogongyouwaiyu zenmeban?laogongchuguilezenmeban?woxiangyaotingjianzheiyihuatitaolundeneishihoudabufennvxingdoushishenxiansisuo。shiwanliuni?huanshitahuizoukai?neixinlidedanxinshuipingyexuzhinengbeigaofangzishencaizuiqingxi。

 laogongyouwaiyuzenmeban?chuguinanrenhou，nvxingzenyangzuoqusheyebutaiguo，nichedinenggoujuqiganqingdeqizhi，jiangzheiyizhananerguangshandaoshiwanbaqianliyuan;youhuoshinilaishunshououxinlixuepanqiunanrenyouyirikeyihehaoruchu。wojuededoumeishier，100gerenkeyiguochuyibaizhongshenghuo，hunyinyeyiyangzheiban，ruhezuotiaoxuanwojuedenizhibixukaolvdaohaoxialiehaoduogenantijiuneng。

一、我可以为这一男人努力是多少?

 henxianeryijianrujinzheiyinanrenzaoyiwaiyule，tashibunengzhenglundekeguanshishi。neimazaizheizhongqingkuangxia，yingduineime1gebukekaodenanren，niyaoxiangyaoweitanulima?niyouxiangyaonulishiduoshao?nixinliyoumuyouyibingkaoliangdecheng?xiangqingxizheiyinantihenzhongyao。laogongchuguilezenmewanhui?

 nibukeyipingjiemanqiangnuqijiuyaotazoukai，yihuoshijinjinmangmugenfengdejianxinzheiyinanrenzhiguishuyuduziyigeren。buguannayangquanshiquefasisuode，niyuanyihuodexiangtongwupin，nibidingbixuyongdaliangdewupinquhuhuan，zheijiushishuoshehuifazhanguilv，xiangqingxizheileifuchudaijianixibuxihuanfuqianhouzaizuojuece。

二、我确实可以接纳1个外遇过的男人吗?

 henduorendouyouqinghuai，tebieshizaishizaiganqingli。zaikaolvdaowanhuizhangfuyiqian，nibixuwenyiwenzishenjiujingjiebuzaiyi1gewaiyuguodenanren?

 zheiyidianerbixuyongxinxianggaoqingchu。nibukeyibenlaihenzaiyi，danyibianzhengshizishenbidisanzheerchuse，yibianyuanyizhenghuiyixiazijiumeiyoudixiandedequwanhuizhangfu。jieguowanliule1gezishenmeifajienaderen，neiyouhekuni?daobingbushishuochuguinanrenhoujiubunengkuanrongle，jinjinmeiweidezhuangkuangbutong，nibixurenshizijidezuijutiqingkuang，suihouzaizuojuece。

三、男人的外遇，自身理应付是多少义务?

 laogongchuguilezenmewanhui?buguannanrennvren，waiyubidingshiyouyuangu。tongchangwaiyudeyuanguyebing budoushidanfangdaozhide，daliangdeshiyoufufubicixianghudaozhi。

chuguinanrendejidayuangu：

1、yishizhuxingkuzaofawei，kuzao，zhuiqiuwanmeishenmigan，cijixinggan。

2、xifumeiyoufengcai，hunqianhunhouzhuanbianhenda，zaochengjidadexintaizhuangtaiqifu。

3、jiazhongjiatingbuhe，yishizhuxingbuhemu，qianquewennuangan。

4、waibuyinyouhenda，erjiazhongyoumeishenmeyouhuoli。

 ninengduibizhechaxun，zaizheili4tiaozhong，zishenzuoweixifu，jiazhongdezhurenjia，niqueshiyoubaozhengjigema?woxiangyaobuyidingba!yigebazhangpaibuxiang，zhangfuchuguixifutongchangtaobuguoganxi。yexuzaibuzhibujuegengshinideliangsangexingwei，rangnanrenyuanyitaochuzheiyijia。dangnikeyikanqinggerenquedian，zaiyuanyijiuzhengdelingwai，nanrenyexiangyaojidaoneiyang1gejiyudehua，neiyangdehunyinhuanshizuigaizhengjiude。

 libuliyi，tiaoxuangensheiyiqiquanshisuoyourendezhipeiquan，jibianchuguinanrenniyebukeyisangshitadeliyi。kanqingzishen，yekanqingzheiyiduanhunyindelingwai，niyaoxiangyaowanhuizhangfudehuajiuyingyongquzuo。

 huoxuniruguojuedezishenjiushishuosiburencuozheileipanbiangerenxingwei，yuanyilihundehuayewukefeiyi。wulunnizuochuneileitiaoxuan，yaoshishishensishulvzhihoude，shixiangyaoyincichengdanzerende，nijiubuyongzaihutarendemuguang，pingzishendexinnianquzuojiuhaola，meiyoushenmehaohouhuimojide。