youshenmebanfanengranglaopohuixinzhuanyi,zaiganqingdezhangheli,dajiananmianhuiyudaoyixiequzheyutiaozhan。youshi,kenenghuiyinweiyixiebujingyijiandeyantanjuzhi,jiuyaoxinaidetafeichangshiwang,naizhishuochuneijulingrenxintongdehua:“woduinihenxinhan。”zheikezhenshigetianbengdiliea!danshi,biezheji,zhuweinantongbao,zuoweidajiadezimeitiqinggandashi,wojintianxiaobianjiulaizhizhizhao,jiaonimenzenmewanhuineiyigeduizijideshangxindenvxing,rangtazaiciduiniyouxinlai。
一、看清现况,直面问题

zuixian,ruguonitingjiantajiang“duizijidexinhan”shi,xianbiejizhebianbohuoshiduobi。nixuyaozuodediyijianshi,bianshipingjingxialai,shensishulvyixia,shishenmeyuanyinzaochengderangqiduiniyoulezheiyangdeganshou。doushiyinweinijinqigongzuomang,hushileduifangdeganshou?haizhishiyinweiniyixiehuaixiguan,rangtagandaojieshoubule?huozhenizaiyixiejinyaoguantou,bingmeiyoujitachongzudezhichihelijie?
kanqingxiankuang,zhimianwenti,shiwanliudediyibu。biechangshigezhongliyoulaiyanshizijiguoshi,neiyangzhihuirangqigengweixinhan。nixuyaoyonggandequmianduizishendebuzu,chengrenzijidecuowu,bingyuanyiweilegaishanerfuzhunuli。
二、真诚道歉,表述愧疚
ruguonizaoyiqingchudirenshidaozishendewentisuozaihou,xiayibujiushixiangqizhenxinchengyizhiqian。jilao,zhiqianbingbushijiandanlaishuoyiju“zhendeduibuqi”jiuxingle。niyaoyongniyanciyuxingwei,rangtaganshoudaonizhenzhihekuijiu。
nijiuzhaogeheshideshijian,yuetachuqu,tiaoxuanyigeanjing、lianghaodehuanjing,zuoxialiaoyiliao。gentashuo,nijiuyijingzhenqiedirenshidaolezijidecuowu,erqieaohuibuyijitadailaileshanghaixinhan。nixuyaorangtazhidao,nicaishiyouyiyaozheimezuode,ershiyinweinibingmeiyouchongfenzhongshiduifangdeganshou,huozheyinweinizijideyixiejuxianxingyubuzu。
zaizhiqiandeguochengdangzhong,nixuyaobaochiqianxunhezhenchengdetaidu,buyaoqingyiweizijibianjiehuoshizhaoliyou。nixuyaorangtaganshoudaonizhenzhihexinxin,rangqiwoxiangxinnishizhenxinyuanyiweilegaishanerfuzhunulide。
三、聆听对方的感受,了解他的要求
zairencuoyihou,niyaojitachongzukongjianheshijian,rangqikeyiqingtuziyideganshouhexiangfa。nixuyaonaixinqingtingtameiyijuhua,dongtadeyaoqiuheqidai。bubiqieduanta,buyaojizhebianbo,gengbuyaoqingyiyonggezhongjiekoulaitangsaita。
youshenmebanfanengranglaopohuixinzhuanyi,nixuyaorangtazhidao,nifeichangzaiyiduifangdeganshou,yuanyiqingtingtaxinlihua,bingyuanyiweileshixiantaxuyaoerfuzhunuli。dangtakanjiannidezhenzhiheguanzhushi,tadexinlihuizhujianbianruan,duinidexinrenjiuhuimanmanxiufu。
四、以实际行动说明你的更改

zhiqianhelingtingjinjinwanliudediyibu,gengzhongyaodehaishiyaoyishijixingdonglaishuomingnidegenggai。nixiangrangtakanjian,nibingbushikongxuelaifeng,ershizhendekeyiweiletaergaibianxianzhuang。
liru,tayaoshirenweinitaiguohushiduifangdeganshou,neimenijiukeyiduojishijianpeizhetashuoshuohua、sansanxin,huoshiyiqizuoyixietaxiangzuodeshiqing。tayaoshirenweiniyouyixiehuaixiguan,neimenijiukeyixiajuexinqugaizhengzheixiexiguan,rangqikanjiannidehengxinheyili。
jilao,genggaibingbushiyicuerjiudeshier,taxuyaoshijianhexixin。nixuyaojianchibuxiedifuzhunuli,rangqimanmankanjiannidediaozhenghefazhan。dangtakandaonidefuchushi,tadexinlibianhuichongchizhegandonghegaoxing,duinidexinrenjiuhuigengjiajiandingbuyi。
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