20年的婚姻怎么挽回

　　20niandehunyinzenmewanhuiwanhuizhangfubingbushifangzhebuguanjiuhuirangduifangshenganneijiu，jinerlangzihuitou。yiyang，chuncuiyunyongqinpenghaoyoushijiayaliyebuyidingnengqushilaogongzhongguihunyinshenghuo。henduolaopofenshouwanhuihuanjiezhong，youyuduilaogongdeneixinshijiebugoulejie，erfanxiazhongduobuzhengque，zaochengercishanghai，zuizhongshidewanliuxiaoguobingbulixiang。neiyang，jiujingnaxieguocuoshiqizimenfenshouwanhuizhilushangdebanjiaoshini?

　　01

　　wanjiuhunyindeguanjiansuozaiduice

　　> fangzhilengbaoli

　　fenshouwanhuiaiqingdeguochengzhong，goutongjiaoliuhaowuyiwenshishifenzhongyaode。tongchang，fuqijianzuichuliefengqiyuanyuqianqueyouxiaogoutong，erzuizhongnengfouqudechenggongwanliu，yequjueyunengbunengzaicigoujianqiyouxiaodegoutong。renqingfenqi、zhongxinqidonghezuoshijianlixindehunyindejichu。zhangjiudewuyindikang，jilengbaoli，budanhuichanshengxinliwenti，gengrongyizaochengbicizhijiandejiaoliujiediheyishimaodunzhujianjiashen。dangyifangzaoyimaichubufa，erlingyifangquerengranyuanditabuzoushi，zheileishidiaozhuangtaibianwufaweichi。

　　bingdongsanchi，feiyirizhihan。dangganqingchuxianwentishi，tongchangyijingjileilezhangshijianfenqi。ruojixuxuanzelengbaoli，buqushenrufenxihechulizheixiemaodun，fanerhuirangbicizhijiandejuliyuelaiyueyuan，zuizhongkenengmaixiangliyizuizhongdejieju。yiner，fenshouwanhuideguochengdangzhong，shouyaodeshirenqingbingchengrendajiazhijiancunzaidefenqi，congerzhaodaoqigenyuan。genjureqinghechengxinlaizhongxinqidonggoutongjiaoliuheduihua，qingtingbierendexiangfa，shishifenzhongyaode。

　　zailengbaoliduizhideshiqi，yekeyichangshibofangshipinrouhedeyinle，yipingjingdekouqiyaoyuelingyifanggongkan。ruguoduifangxiangyaozuoxialaizhihou，hebudakaihuihuadedamu：“qinaida，dajialiaoyiliao。”zaiganqingzhong，nvshitongchangxuyaonanrendezhengqueyindao，yiyang，zaihunyinshenghuozhong，nanshiyexuyaochengdanqiyinlingdeyiwu。

　　> youxiaogoutongjiqiao

　　lingtingyupingdengjiaoliunenggoujiaqiangfufudelijieqingganlianxi。xuehuilingtingshiyouxiaodegoutongdeguanjiansuozai。zaiqingtinghuanjiezhong，buyaojizhetichujianyi，ershiyinggaiquanmianlejieduifangdexuqiuhetihui。tongguoxunwenhelingtinglailejiebiciqidaishouhuoshenme，erbushijiandandijiaoyutamenzenyangzuo。yucitongshi，tanchengdibiaodaguandianyuxuqiuyeshifeichangzhongyaode。qingqingchuchudegoutongjiaoliukeyifangzhiyingyong“xinlizhanshu”dengmohubuqingdesilu，nengrangduifangzaicaixiangzhongcuobai。biru，zaibicibiaoshulezijidexiangfahou，yekeyizhijieduitashuonideqingxuyuqidai，zheiyangkeyigengyouxiaodetuidongbicizhijiandelijieqingganshangdexiubu。

　　zuiyouxiaogoutongqujueyuqingganshangdebicijieshou，bingfeizhitingliuzaiyancifangmian。goutongjiaoliudepinzhibingbuqujueyujianghuashijianzhangduan，ershiqujueyuduifangshibushinengdaijihelidehuifu。zaigoutongdeshihou，yingdangningshizhelingyifang，genjumuguangxianghujiaoliu。zhenduisuotingjianzonghesuokandaodexinxineirong，yingjiyushidangerjianyuedefanying，biru：“wodongdele……”“yequeshiruci……”jiqidiantouzhiyi，zheidouhuirangduifangkanjiannidelingtingyuzunzhong。

　　02

　　常见的错误个人行为

　　> qingxubuwendingzhengzhi

　　20niandehunyinzenmewanhuizuixian，bumingshilideyoukuyounao。dangqizifaxianzhangfuchuguishi，xintaiwangwanghennancaozong，feichangrongyigunongxuanxukaizhanyoukuyounao。danshi，zheileiguojidexingweitongchanggaibianbulelaogongdewaiyukeguanshishi，shenzhiyoukenengjiazhongfenqi。zhangqi、pinfandizhengchaohaihuiranglaogongyi“hunyinpolie”weiliyoutilihun，laopozuihoubujinwufawanhuizhangfudexin，haihuiyinershenshang“hanfu”deexing。

　　> xianglaorenxunqiubangzhurenzhiwuqu

　　cizhi，xiangbicijializhangbei“suku”。youyixielaopozaibunengtongguoduozhongfangshiwanhuizhangfuhou，douhuixuanzexianggonggongpopo、jiedidenglaorenqiuzhu，xiwangtanengquandaolaogonghuiguo。danshi，zheizhongjiangsirenwentigongkaifabuzuofabiranhuidaozhijiazuguanxijinzhangnaizhiliekai。zhangbeimendeganyukenengyinfagengduowentimaodun，tongshihaihuiranglaogongjuedezizunsunshang，jinergengjiandingdishiyongyuxiaosanzaiyiqi。

　　> duixiaosandejiduanxingwei

　　zuizhong，“duiyuxiaosanshijia‘exing’”。youyixielaopozainaonuxiakenengduixiaosancaiyongjiduanxingwei，zheibujinwufachuliwenti，haihuiweifanfalv。yucitongshi，zheizhongzuofayehuishilaogonggengweidichu，juedelaopowufakongzhiqingxu，congergengjiajianjuedeliqu。

　　zongeryanzhi，zaiwanhuizhangfudeguochengdangzhong，womenyinggaibaochilixinghelixing，genjuyouxiaodegoutongqujiejuewenti，erfeicaiyongjiduanxingweilaijiazhongfenqi。