相亲后聊多久确定关系？想确认关系被女生“慢热”婉拒，把我当备胎？

xiangqinduojiuquedingguanxicaihao？manrederenshijishanghenhaoxiao，ruguonimeifazijintourugengjiashenrudeqingganshi，lingyifangbixuronghuani，ruguonireqilaideqingkuangxia，lingyifanghenyoukenengzaoyizhujianlengle。xiangqinhouliaoduojiuquedingguanxini？

zaixianrujinkuaicanshilianaideshiqi，zaiwangshangguangweiliuchuanzheneimeyijuhua：

ganjuebuhao=bingbushiqiongbianshichou

再考虑一下=滚蛋

tunqu=naliliangshuangnalidaizhequ

不主动=基本上够呛

miantian=wohaizaidiaoniyanikanbuchuma？xiangqinhouliaoduojiuquedingguanxini？

zainvhaidedeshenshang，“miantian”fangfojiubianchenglebalingyifangdangzuobeiyongtaidetuoci，bianchengnvshenggaoduixiangzulan。xiangqinduojiuquedingguanxicaihao？

01.我不会厌烦，对你挺有好感的

xu（biming）zaiyijiaqiyechurenyigejingyingtuanduidexiangmufengxianguanligongzuozhong，pingrilihenmang。zaigenjuhunlianguanlizhongxindexiangxijieshaoxialejielenvhaixiaoya。zaishejiaowangluopingtaishangliaoleyiduanshijian，ganjuenvhaifeichanghao，shitaxihuandeleixing，yincilibaitianyuetachuqujianmian。，danzuoweinanhaizihuoshiyaogaobaiyixia。

youyushigongzuozhongriqinei，woliangdouqinglejia，dianjizhexuangediquwanyixia。wojiangdazhongdianpingwangwanleyibian，xuanbuchulaiwanshenmeyouxi。shubuzhizuoweiwonvpengyou，tarutonggewoxingwosu，yiqiedoudengzhewolaifenpei。zhenduiwolaishuo，qingrenjieshiliangrenyitongdejieri，youxiaodianxindenvhaidoushihuigennanpengyouyiqizuotiaoxuan。

yinciwoyeyoudianerbupinghengle。woxunwentashifouyoujiangwodangzuonanyou？tadehuiyingyaowolengzhule，buqingchuhaixuyaobubizaici。tajiang：

“wojiaomanre，xiangzaiduochupengyixia。”

shijishangnvhaiquanshizhuiqiuwanmeiyouxindeshijiyiyiheguanjiandian，xiaowuzaizhuiqiunvshengdefangfajirendejuedebianshi，dairuyiqieyigenvshengdounenggou。zaiqingganjiaowangzhong，huaxuewuzhishijibenmeiyoucuo，danrang2geshengmingaijindeshijingshenshizhi。

jiaruyigenanshengjinjinzaigenjuhuaxuewuzhishangdewupinlaibiaodaaiyi，neijinvhaidejuedeshibuzuchengxin。jiaruniqidailingyifangcanjiajuece，neimeninenggoujijiyaoyuetahuoshizixunta。

03.相互之间投入，沟通交流

A.富兰克林效用

fulankelinxiaoyong，zhideshibuhuizaimangmugenfengdiweilingyifangtouru，zhishijiyulingyifangjizijitourudejiyu，lingyifanghuiyouyuzishendezijintourujiqinidejijizhudonghuifujuededadao。zuijingdiandeyunyongbianshizai《xiaowangzi》zhong，xiaowangzidianyingduimeiguihuadexixinzhaogu，caishitatihuidaotademeiguihuahebiedemeiguihuaduibideduteshijiyiyi。

b.zaijingshenshangdexiyinzhu

xiaowuganlexuduoshierququyueyigeren，keshifangfaqueshizhengquelema？jitasongli、qingtayongcan、kandianshiju，zheizhonghenpingshidezhutihuodongshijishangbingbukeyijiyujilingyifangjiaoweigaodezaijingshenshang。youqishigenjuxiangqinyuehuilejiedelianren，zailingyifangyouhaodubutaigaodezhuangkuangxia，nixuyaoxuehaojiyujilingyifangjiaodadezaijingshenshang。zaixianliaoshiduogenlingyifangzuoyixieganqingshangdegoutongjiaoliu，huoshijiazhiguannian、renshengjiazhiguandetaolun，lajingenlingyifangdexinlijuli。

shijishangxuduonvshengshuobailedemiantian，shijishangshizaiyouyu，youyubuquedingxing、miantian、xiuse、niuniunienie、shengxingduoyidengyuangu。xiangqinyuehuibingbuxiangpenyoujiaowangbianweilianren，meiyouzaoqidelejiejiben，bulejielingyifang，dangranburongyiqinglvduiyigerenhenjijizhudong。

xiangqinduojiuquedingguanxicaihao？zaizhuiqiuwanmeimanrexingdenvhaishi，jiarunimeiyouyigechongzudexixin，neimejiuqingjinkuaisheqiba。yinweitabixuyiduanshijiancaihuibeiniganqidao，caikeyiduinichuanchujiqingdefanying，zhuiqiuwanmeidequanguochengsuijianxin，dantaaishanglebianshiyibeizi！