相亲很尴尬，初次见面不知聊什么？第一次相亲见面说什么

 yanyanggaozhao，chunguangmingmei，qingxuzaodongdeshibushiniyedaolianaidejijieleni？diyicixiangqinjianmianshuoshenme？qinpenghaoyou，penyoushifouyou“suoshi”nicanyugezhonggeyangxiangqinyuehuileni？nideshenpangshifouyexiangyouyigetani？xiangqinxiangxigonglveyounaxie？

 danshizhenduixiangqinyuehui，dajiatongchangyoudianershouzuwucuo。liangrenmubujiaojie，diyicijianmiandejiaolvbuan，shiruowudugaishuoxienaxie，nongdechangjinghenshinankan。qitihuranyuelaiyueqingjing，fenweiyuelaiyuehen“leng”，buhuiliaotian，buzhidaozenmeliaotiandeni，zaizheicixiangqinyuehuizhongzhongjiuyehuiyibuchenggongjieshu。

 yaotanlianaijiudenengtanyaoshuo，ziranbingbushixiangyaoni“youqianghuadiao”。jinyougenjutanheshuo，caikeyibicizhijianjiaoliuxinxi、qingjiehexinlihua。genjubiaoshu、goutongjiaoliucaikeyizhuangjichuaiqinghuohua，gengfeichangrongyiyinranganqingdehuomiao。zhongjiu，sheiyebuyuanyiheyige“sinaojin”zainazuoxialaixiangxue。

 diyicixiangqinjianmianshuoshenme？diyicijianmian，“tan”dehaojiuhuiyouqidaiqudechenggong，“tan”debutaihao，zhiyougebendongxi，meiyoudiercipengmiandehenyoukeneng。keshi，xianshishenghuozhongbingbingbushimeiyigerendounengtanyaoshuo，diyicijianmianliaoshenmejiubianchengxuduoxiangqinnannvtoutongdenanti。meishier，rujinbangnichuli:

1.依据自然环境气氛，找寻话题讨论的“核心点”

 diyicijianmianyibanquanshizaimouyigonggongchangsuo，ziranyeshiyoukenengshimouyifangdejiazhong。nenggougenjuzhoubiandeshiqing，ziranhuanjingbuju，xiongmeidengjinxinghuatitaolun，shanyuguanchahepouxi，huatitaolunbianhuiyuanyuanbujue。fenweijiuburongyilengdiao。genjuzheizhonghuatitaolunnenggoulejieyigerendesixiangyishi，pinxingconghui，weirenchushidengcengmiandeshuizhunheyishi。ziranyinchulaiyigehuatitaolunyaojinkenengdangran，fangzhi“jiaotashi、chaxunhukoushi”detichuwenti。

2.紧紧围绕个人爱好，寻找话题讨论的“共鸣”

 meiyigerendoushiyouzishendegerenaihao，jibianyigebushanyancideren，zailiaodaozishenyouxingqudeshiqingshiyehuiyuelaiyuekankanertan。yinci，zaibuqingchushuoshenmedeshihou，jiuliaoyiliaogerenaihaoba。ninengxiantanyitanzishendegerenaihao，zailaiyigekaichengbugong，suihouzaibicizhijiandegerenaihaolizhaoxungongming，cihoutishengzhangwohetuijinbicizhijiandeqinggan。zhaoxunbicizhijiande“xiangtongdian”，xunzhaoyigequweixiangtouderen，fangbianzhimenyidankaiqi，xinfeiyejiusuizheerkai，xiamianbianyongyoudaliangkeliaodehuatitaolun。xiangqinxiangxigonglveyounaxie？

3.紧紧围绕社会发展，找寻话题讨论的“兴奋之处”

 shehuifazhanyingyoujinyou，niyizhizaigongzuozhongherichangshenghuozongshihuiyouyixieganshou、xiangshuodehua、xiaihuoyanfandeshiqing。yinci，zaijiaotanfasheng“kazhu”shi，hebuliaoyiliaoshehuifazhanba，zonghuiyoumouyigehuatitaolunhuiyinqitadexingquaihao，dadongtade“xingfenzhichu”。genjuduiyixienantideguandianpingjia，jinerzhangwobicizhijiandesanguan，guannian。

4.紧紧围绕工作追求完美，找寻话题讨论的“亮点”

 meigerendouduizishendegongzuozhong，jianglaiyouyixieqiwang。yexiangyaozhidaolingyifangduizhihoudegongzuozhongrichangshenghuoyounaxiedezhengtiguihua。keshibubiyikaishijiuliaozishende“hongweilantu、hongdalixiang”，neibanhuikanqilaijiaoqing，hebuxiancongzishentongniandelixianghuatanqi，jianjiandizailadaojianglaidegongzuozongtimubiaoshang。congqingsongzizaiyouyisideqifenzhujian，younengqingchujiaolvbuancujinganqing。

 gongzuoshiyigerenlishenchushideyagen。yiqieyigeduigongzuo、duirenshengdaoluyouzhuiqiuwanmei，qinfenxuexideren，yidanherenshuoqigongzuozhong、renshengdaolucengmiandenantidoushihuiyongxin、yansurenzhen，erqiekankanertan。yiner，bawozhulingyifangzaizheizhongcengmiande“liangdian”qushencengcifajuehuatitaolun，jinerzhangwoniyaolejiede，yehuirangqifenyuelaiyueruhuorutu。xiangqinxiangxigonglveyounaxie？

 genjuzhuduohuatitaolundezhengqueyindao，genjulingyifangdeyantanjuzhi，dounengtigaobicizhijiandezhangwo，jinerlaifenbianshifou“heshi”nideneiren。ziran，xianliaoquanguochengzhongshidushifangyixianifengqudefengcai，qifenhuigengweihemuqingqingsongsong。

 diyicixiangqinjianmianshuoshenme？xiangqinyuehuibukongbu，xunzhaohuatitaolunliaojiuburongyinankan。qidaizheizhongzhenduixiangqinyuehuizhongdeninengyouxiezhu，zhuzaorixunzhaoshengmingzhongdeneiyigeta!