什么叫爱一个人?懂他更让他懂你

 tangruoniyaowenlianaizhongyoushenmefangfa，neiwonengduinishuoyouhaoduohaoduo，danruojiushinixiangyaozhidaolianaizhongshenyeshizuiyouxiaodefangfa，neiwonenghenhaowuyiwendegaozhizhuweizimei，neiyidingshi“goutongjiaoliu”。goutongjiaoliushirenherenzhijianguanlianjianlidegongluqiaoliang，erzailianaizhongdouhuiyouneiyanghuoneibandenanti，chulizheizhongnantidezuishidangfangfazeshigoutongjiaoliu。neimeshenmejiaoaiyigeren?younaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanshenmeshiaiyigerendewenzhangba。

 zhengchuzailianaiqidenihaowuyiwenhuifajue，suirandajiazhongjianxianghuhuxiangxiyinzhu，danshijishanglianggerenbingbingbushichediqiehede，yinweiyiqianxianghurichangshenghuodefangfabuyiyang，jiatingqingkuanghekexuejiaoyuyedouyouchabie，dajiazhongjiandeyishishangdangranyehuichuxianxuduochabie，erzheigengshizaidajiazhongjiandenantidian，zenmejiejuezheizhongnanti，zenyangcaikeyifangfanyuweiran?

 bidingshigoutongjiaoliu。genjugoutongjiaoliudajianenggouxianghulejielingyifang，chongzudeshushilingyifangxinlideniantou，bingzuihouzuodaojizhiderongqia。neimazailianggerenjiaowangzhongyouyidingdemegoutongdejiqiaoni?

沟通的技巧一：倾听

 shenmeshiaiyigerenniyidingtexiangdongta，yegengdianjizheshitalejienide，dannulizuodaozheizhongshixiangyaonitourude。zaipingchanglidajiadegoutongjiaoliuchongzuduoma?henyoukenengnisuolejiedegoutongjiaoliu，jinjinjianyidixianghugoutongjiaoliu，genjuxianghujiandexianliaochuangjianhuxiangdelejie，zheijinjinjianyidegoutongjiaoliubale，shijishangshuotashi“xianliao”yebusuanguo。yaoxianglianggerenyouchongzudegoutongjiaoliujiyu，neimenishouxianliyingzuodebianshiqingting，zaidajiapingchangdexiangchuzhong，nishibushijinjinhuichangchangkankanertanni?erzhenduinanpengyoupingchanglideyixiezhenduirichangshenghuodebaoyuanyuju，huotayixiemojidegerenxingweinishibushijuedeyixiehenwunaini?

 yingduita，nilidangweichiyikelingtingdexinli，xuehaozaixianliaoshilingtinglingyifang，xunzhaotayujuzhongdeyanwaizhiyi，gaoqingchulingyifangdezhenchengxiangdai，zheiduininengyoushifendadexiezhu。

沟通的技巧二：眼神交流

lianggerenjiaowangdegoutongfangshishisha?shiyoukankanertandehuatitaolunma?huanshixianghujianbaozhengwuhuabushuo?

 shijishangdoubingbushi，dangdajiadeguanlianhaodaoyidingshuipingshi，nikenengfajueshijishangyixiehuatitaolunyagenbuyonggoutongjiaoliu，zaiyingduidajianenghuodetongyidehuatitaolunshi，zhibixuyigemuguangbiannenggouzuodaodegongshi。dangdajiadeguanlianzhubupingwenshi，pingchanglininengpianzhongyusuzaozheiyidian，tishenglianggerenmuguangzhongjiandegoutongjiaoliu，yongmuguangjiaotandajiahuiyulaiyuxinyoulingxide。

沟通的技巧三：学好理智沟通交流

 danglianggerenchuxianjianyishangdemaodun，youfenqijidaichulishi，ninengfajuegoutongjiaoliushijiejuekunnandefangfa。zirannantichanshengshi，yidingyaojilaoxianpingjingxialai，xiangzuodaogoutongjiaoliushangdedegongshi，wubishouxianconglingyifangdeshijiaodulisikao——

 shenmejiaoaiyigeren?dajiaweishenmehuichuxiannanti?genyuanshinali?xiangyixiangzheizhongnanti，erbushiguanxinsheiduidaodishisheidecuo，suihouzhaoshijianyiqitanyitan，erqiuhuodedechulifangfa。