爱真的需要勇气,如何避免社交障碍

 beiweideai,meigerendouyoushejiaokongjudeqingkuangxia;nishixiangwagedongzuanruhuanshibatazuoweiyigegoutongjiaoliuchangjianguzhanghushidiao，zaiyunizenyangcongshejiaokongjuzhonghuifuzhengchang。jianyidishuo，zaibierenyanguangxiajuedezishenyou“yichang”huoshi“bumingbaishejiaomeiti”dezhuyaobiaoxian，tongchangbianhuizaochengshejiaokongju。zheiyouyibufenshiyinweineixierenmenheyoulvtarenduizishendeguandiandaozhide，yeshiyouyibufenshijueceyuwomenzaiduoduofangmianshangkaolvleshehuifazhanqidai。yinweidanxinbeiquxiao，shejiaokongjushiwomenbunengyutarenchongzugoutongjiaoliunaizhiyoudeqingkuangxiabeihuobandichu。youyixiehaodefangshijiniwuxudanxinshenxiannankandeqingkuanghuoshidanxinyutarengoutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxiachuxianshejiaokongju。meiyigerenbixuxuehaoruhechulishejiaokongjudezhuangkuang，erjibian nibipingchangrengengbudangshejiaomeiti，haikeyishizheyixiebaituoshejiaokongjudefangshi。wenzhongjiangxiangxijieshaoyixieneiyangdefangshi。neimeaizhendexuyaoyongqiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankananquangandeaidewenzhangba。

1、不只你一个。

 dabufenrendaogonggongchangsuodoushihuiyouqiyoulvzishenshifougentarenyiyang，zishenyoumuyoujitarenliuyouyigehaoyinxianghuoshishifourangtarenjuedewuqu。shishishang，womenzheihenduoyoulvhenyoukenenghuihuxiangxiangdi，shiwomendouchuzaitongyangdezhuangkuangzhong!

•meiyigerenhuoduohuoshaodoushihuiyinxiuse、shuocuo、rentichuanchushengxiangdengyuangu，beiweideai,nongluanyicihuihuahuogoutongjiaoliu。

 •danshi，ruguonijuedezishenyizhidouchuxianzheizhongqingkuang，neihenyoukenengshiyouyuniguoduodipouxishejiaomeitichangsuo，shitakanshangqushifencaogao，danshishishangbingbushizheiyang。

2、找到你社交恐惧的来源于。

 duihenduojingliguoshejiaokongjudereneryan，zheizhongganjuelaizijiaolvqingxu、haipa、zaodongbuanhuoshiquefazixin。yaoshiniyuanyijianjiandibaituodaodedixianbingxiangbanfachuangjianqixinxin，zheizhongnantidegenyuandoushihuidedaojiejue。

 •danhenyoukenengyeyouqitayuangu，ruoyouguobutaihaodeshejiaomeitilijing，ganjuetarengennibuyiyanghuoshibulijieni，neixiangxing(genxiusebuyiyang)，ganjueshiyouyugongzuozhongerpobudeyiherengoutongjiaoliu，laiyuanyuhuobanhuobabamamadegongzuoyalizheixie，nizhuyaobiaoxiandexinlibushufu，huoshiduizhoubianrendexingweihezhuguanyinsujuedemengbi。

•shizhezhaodaojinijuedenankandegenbenyuanyin，bianyunengyoumudexingdichulita。

•xiusequeshihuixiandingshejiaoxing。bulunshitongguozixuehuanshiqiuzhu，xunzhaohelidefangshilaibaituoxiuseshihenzhongyaode。

•nengkan“zenyangbaituoxiuse”dedao daliangcailiao，yaoyishidaoxiuseshichedinenggouqingchude。

3、尽管在同一个人的身上能够主要表现出内向型和羞涩，但二者是不一样的。

 •neixiangxingzhexiaidujuewutaijuguangdengheshejiaomeitichangsuoyouyutamenxiaojinrendehuolibingqieneixiangxingzhebixinggewaixiangzhegengxihuanbenzhidegoutongjiaoliu。

 •erhaixiuderenqidaibaomingcanjiaxiuxianhuodong，dantamendanxinnankanhuoshibeiqingchuzaiwaimian。shejiaojiaolvshiyigebijiaoyanzhongdexiandingbiaozhunhuozheyigerenkaizhanyiqiezhengchangxuexipeixun、gongzuozhonghuoxiuxianhuodongdezuai。shenhuanshejiaojiaolvderenquxiangyuyuqinrenhexinrengandepenyouweichihunyinguanxi，erfangzhiquanbugonggongxingrenjijiaowang。

 •anquangandeai,shejiaojiaolvshilaiyuanyuyizhongkongjuxinli，bingrenjuedetarendeguanchashiweilegenghaodiquruzishen，yincijuededanxin。•jiarunishenhuanshejiaojiaolv，huodeshidudejishuzhuanyexiezhushihenzhongyaode，youyunibutaikenengduziyirenbaituota。yuxiuseyiyang，shejiaojiaolvnenggouheliyizhi。

4、确定了造成 你社交恐惧的觉得后，你应该试着认可这种觉得。

 zainijuedenankanhejiaolvqingxudeqingkuangxiayishidaozishenderentitihui，ninenglejiedaozaocheng niyaotaozouhuoshipazhebudongdeyuangushishenshangxianjisudemengzeng。

 •dangzheileiqingkuangchanshengdeqingkuangxia，xuehaogaozhizishen“wotashijiaolvqingxudefanying，womeishide，wokeyizhuyaobiaoxiandehenlizhi。”yishidaojiaolvqingxushi，yuedadexinlianshi，niyuenengguanliziji。

 •guanjian!jiarunidejiaolvqingxuchaoguoleyibanrendejiaolvbuanshuizhun，neimeniliyingyishidaoshenglixuyaoduinideguodufanyingzaochengleweihai，danniyiyangnenggoucaozongzheixiefangmian。bubiyinerjuedezishenshigecaogaodehuoshibudangshejiaomeitideren!

 •aizhendexuyaoyongqi,jinguannidejiaolvqingxushifeilixingxingweide，danniderentidefanyingshizhenzhengde，niwubizaixuexipeixunpingfujiaolvqingxudeqingkuangxiabazheiliangyibufenfenli，yiner，niwuxuzhizezishendanyaogenggaiduigerenxingweizuochudefanying。