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qinglvjianlangmandeshiyoushenmeni？woyouyigelihundenanxingpengyou，tazaihunyinshenghuozhongyouyicichulegui，taxifushenmedoubuxiangshuokuanrongleta，tabuyouzizhudijuede，waiyuzheijianshiqingburongyiweifanxifudedaodedixian，congzheiyikeqiyizaiwaiyu，ertaxifuyezishizhizhongmeiyouzhuyaobiaoxianchunaonuhebumanyi，zhizhiyouyitian，taxifuhuranlijihetamingquetichuleliyi。xianrujinjinguanzaoyifenli，keshizheimingnanxingpengyouhuanshiyizhiyaoxiangheqizizaihun。tagenwoshuo，ruguodangshixifuzaitadiyicichuguihoujiugentatiaomingbiaomingtaidu，tayihoushiburongyizaiwaiyude，gengshiyinweibuqingchuxifudedaodedixianzainaer，zuihouzaocheng leliyi。neimeqinglvsupeiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanqinglvxinwudewenzhangba。

zaizheijianshiqingzhong，nanrendiyicidechuguihenkenengzaoyiweifanlenvrendedaodedixian，ernvrentiaoxuanshenmedoubuxiangshuoyuanliang，neineixinyinggaishiqidaigenjuzheileirouhedefangfa，rangnanshengyoucuojiugaibubizaicifasheng。keshiyinweinvrenguoduorenshoudezhuyaobiaoxianerqiemeiyoulijijiangdaodedixianquelibiaoxianchulai，zaocheng nanshengchedibuqingchushibushipengchulenvrendedaodedixian，zheilingnanshengshouzuwucuo，yincizaochengxincunjiaoxingzaicijiechuan，jinerzaidufancuowu。

bubijixiwangyunanshengnengchedilejienvrendesixu，gaishuomingdaodedixiandeqingkuangxia，yidingyaojianjuemingquetichulai。

zhiminghunlianjiemu《feichengwurao》shangcengyouyigewangluohongren，shiweinvboshi，youyiciwohaizaitadeweiboshangjiandaoneiyangjige：“wobuhuiconghui，yinci zuifanganshangdangshoupian，neishiwodedaodedixian，fajueshangdangshoupiandeqingkuangxiazongyouyizhongzizunxinsunshangwoshidabendandejuede，zheileinaonushinanyishihuaide”，qinglvjianlangmandeshiyoushenmeni？“meiyigerendedaodedixiandoubuyiyang，youxierenganjuewaiyucaisuanshidaodedixian，danyijianshieryan，sahuangjiangwodanghoushuabianshidaodedixianle，wodezizunxinchibuxiao。huoxushizihao，keshishangdangshoupianrangshiwoshiluogan，yinci woxuanzedujueaisahuangderen，dahuoerzuorendeyuanzebuyiyangbale。”

woxiangzhe，tashiyiweihenyoubiaozhun、henyouguidingdenvren。

danshini，yihoutayoufaguolianggenxinlangweiboshuo：“woxiangchuyiqianjiugaozhiguota，wofeichangfangantarenmeinaqian，tayetongyibumeinaqian，jieguodabannianlaiyizhizaipian，worichangshenghuozaiyichuanhuanghuazhong，zhihouyibuxiaoxinjiechuanhoutatongyizaiyebukengrenle，buranbuliangyingxiangdengtongyuwaiyu，jieguotahuanshiyoupianle，zheileizhicuobugaibuduancaiwodaodedixiandegerenxingweiqueshiwufarongren。”“shijishangdajiarujinbianshiyigeboyidequanguocheng，tajinguantongyilezaiyebuyijianshishuohuang，keshibingbugan，yinci buduanshizhewodedaodedixianzainaer，zaoyiyongleshuohuangkanshifouhui'beifajue，siyaohuanghua，wenzileiyouxidenggerenxingweilaijiechuanwodefanying，yihantaxiaokanlewodeguzhiduheduihuanghuadekerongren。wodexixinbijiaoyouxian，zaoyijingshitazhongzhiboyigerenxingwei，zaiboyijiuqueshimeinaixinpeitawanle。”jiandaozheier，wojiushitixiaojiefeile，zheijiushitashuobailededaodedixian?xiangchuqian，tazaoyiqueligaozhilingyifangzishendedaodedixianshimengpian，danshini，xiangchuquanguochengzhong，nanxingyoumengpiangerenxingwei，tajiechuanhoukuanronglelingyifang，guanjianshihaibuduanchuxianleshuci，nengyierzai、zaiersankuanrongdeneihaijiaodaodedixianma?!liangrenbingbushiyizhiquwandetinghenhuandema?xingba，dajialaikepuyixia，jiujingshenmejiaozuodaodedixian?

shuobailedaodedixian，shijishanghe“bukeyijiena、wufarongren”shiyigehanyi。jiushizhidangnanrenzuochulenijienabushang、weifannidaodedixiandeshierdeqingkuangxia，nitichuyaoqiu，tawubigai，ruobubian，niyejiuwubiyidinglikejijihetatichufenshou。

danzaidabufenzhuangkuangxia，nvrenyierzaizaiersandishuo“jienabushang”，jutishi，jinguanbuyuanjiena，keshipobudeyishijiyoupobudeyijiena，suihouyoujiaoqingdinuhoujienabushang。shijishang，neiyangdenvrenyagenjiumeizigeshuojienabushang。

yiner，yidannanshengzuocuoshi，nibiaomingbukeyijiena，xuanchengshiweifanlezishendedaodedixian，danyiranliudaotashenpangmeiyoulikaidehua，neizheijiushigaohunlezishendedaodedixian，caitazishendedaodedixian，jinerjianshaolezishendeshiyongjiazhi。

qinglvxinwu,rutongyigewupindingjiawubaiyuan，yingduiyouchengxindeguke，shangjiachengzuishao450yuan，gukezaitaojiahaijia，shangjiacheng450yuanshizuidijiaweishaoyifenqianyebumai，gukebianhuilejiezheijiushishangjiadedaodedixian。erjiaruyingduigukedetaojiahaijia，shangjiashuoneimejiu350yuan，neimagukeyidingjuedezheihaibingbushidaodedixian，jiaqianhainengzaidi。nannvzhijiandeboyiyiyangyeshizheiyidadaoli。

zaishijizhong，youerzhongzhuangkuang，feichangrongyizaocheng nvrendedaodedixianmomohuhu。yizhongshiguoduorenshou，liru，wenzhongkaichangxiaogushilinagenvren;yizhongshitaiguokeke，yejiushidaodedixianyouqidi，nanshengdaxiaoshidouhenyoukenengweifantadedaodedixian。erzheileidaodedixiantongchangquanshi“weidaodedixian”，shuoshuoeryi，nanshengyejiuzuoweichaoxiaotingyitingeryi。

zheierhaishejidaoneiyangyigeshehuixinlixuedingyi——xidexingwuzhu(learnedhelplessness)，youyingguoxinlixuezhuanjiasailigemanyu1967nianzaikexueyanjiuxiaodongwushimingquetichu。tayonggouganleyixiangjingdianshiyan，zuichubagouguanzaitielongli，yaoshifengyinqiyixiang，jiujiyubushufudegaoyadianji，gouguanzaitielongliduobibushanggaoyadianji，shucishiyanhou，fengyinqiyixiang，zaijigaoyadianjiqian，xianbalongmenkaiqi，zheishigoubujinbutaozhishibuyigaoyadianjijiuxiandaozaidigangkaishijiaoyinhefadou，yuanbennenggoujijiduobiqueshiluodidenghoutongchudedaolai，zheijiushixidexingwuzhu。xidexingwuzhushizhiyouyufanfudebuchenggonghuochufaerdaozhideyizhongduishijideyaoyaowuqi、wanbanwunai、tingrenbainongdegerenxingweihexintai。

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