爱的困惑有什么呢？供养者和情人

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yaranshixiaoxianxia，yebixudajiasisuo，weihenanrenhuineiyangxiang?

zheiershejidao“haoyangyu”he“haojiyin”defenqi，zheishijishangbianshinvrendezhangzeyuduanze。

 daerwenzhuyijuede：haokandexiongyabingbushihaobaba。zheidaibiaozhenanshide“haojiyin”(haodegezi、zhangxiang、zhili)he“haoyangyu”(touruxinliziyuanduixiaohaikaizhanqinzhixiangmutouzi)dabufenzhuangkuangxiabukeyigongcun。zairenleishehuizhong，dajiahaikeyijiandao：“haojiyin”deshuainantongchangmeiyouduoshaoqian，er“haoyangyu”deshizairenquejingchangxiangmaopingping。

 zhenduinvshilaijiang，yaoxianghaojiyindexiaobaobaoyouyaoxianghaoyangyudefazhanziranhuanjing，zenmebanni?haa!tamenchangchanghuikaiyan“dongshixisu”degouxueju，aidelilunyoushenmeni？yejiushizhaoyigechushi“haoyangyu”degongyangzhe，lingwaichuguihuodeyifen“haojiyin”，jiqianmianyizhongdaishangdailvmao。

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 dangnvrenchuguizhaole“haojiyin”，gongyangzhequemeiyoufajue，haa，tajiuzhiyou“xidangdie”，jinerjiyinjuezhongle。jiyinjuezhongdaibiaoshenmeyisi?huanjuhuashuo，yigenanrenzhiyaoshichedibugaoduzhongshizheiyidian，tajiumeiyouzisunhoudaishengcunchulai。

 aidelijie,nvrenduigongyangzhexingfuma?yeshiyou，wenzhongdegangkaishiyetijileai，neidequezhenai，youyuzaishuqianwanniandeyanbianquanguochengzhong，nvrenbidinghuiyanbianchuweichiyugongyangzheguanliandeqiadangfangfa。keshinvrenduigongyangzhedeaiheduilianrendeaishijiongranbutongde!zaigongyangzheyanqian，nvrenqianghanbaqicelou、wujuwushu，duitazhaozhijilaihuizhijiqu，chixumolianta;zailianrenyanqian，nvrenwenroushanliang、wenroutitie，duitaqianyibaishun，beitazhaozhijilaihuizhijiqu。

 kaichangtanjidenvren“naota、reta、fanta、qiyata”，shishishangbianshijiangzheiyinanrenshizuogongyangzhe，taqueshi“ai”zheiyinanren，danyagenshijiyiyishangtaaideshizheiyinanrendeyangyushiyongjiazhierbushitadejiyin。nvrengenju“naota、reta、fanta、qiyata”zheizhonggerenxingwei，laibuduanzhengdeherenzhengnanrenshibushinengduizishenkaizhanzhangqixingqinzhixiangmutouzi。neiyangzuodenvren，jinanrendaishangdailvmaodegailvshifenda。

 ernvren“qinpeita、hongzheta、guanzheta、kanjiantajiuxingxingyan”，zeshiyiwufangu，buguanshibushinenghuodenanrendeqinzhixiangmutouzi，doushihuixiangjizheiyinanrenshengxiaohaicaihuichuxiandexingweijuzhi。tashinvrenduilianrendeai，tazhenshimishangdeshinanrendehaojiyin，nvrenjuebunengjilianrendailvmao，tamendouzongshichuguirendezhong，laijibiedegongyangzhedailvmao。woyizhishuodejianshaopu，bianshirangnvrenbagongyangzhezuoweilianrenkandai，shitajuedezishenjiushinide100%lianren。

 zhengyouyunvrenduigongyangzheheqingrendexintaichedibuyiyang，yinci dangyigenanrenganjuenvrenjinjinbatadangzuogongyangzhe(jiehunduixiang)erbushilianrendeqingkuangxia，tahuijuedezheiyinvrenshiyoufengxiande，nanyihuihetawanhun。youyucikedenvrenjiurutongyigelouledezhulan，nanrenziranburongyichundaobazijiquanbudeshengjidandoufangdaolibian。

 aidekunhuo,jiarunvxingmoucengmianbiaozhunyouqichuse，gongyangzhehuoxuhuizaizuikaishirenshouchulai，danyaoshinvxingbiaozhunshaoweixiacuo，bianshinanxinghuranbuxiangjiehun、linhunkanjia、jiehunhounizhuan、duixiaohaimobuguanxinhuoshiqinzhixiangmutouzijiaoshao，naizhidengnvxingnianmaihouwaiyuhuoliyidenggezhonggeyangbuxingdegangkaishi。