有多少爱可以重来?想要挽回前任，就不该死心

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buqingchuniduineiyangdeyantanjuzhishibushilejie：

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⑤wozaiduozuoyixie，tashifoubianhuihuijiale。

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 changgerenxingweihuo“xincunjiaoxing”。tongsuyidianshuobianshi，budanyaotianbuyiqiandebugou，yeyaoyaoyuandechaochuyiqiezhengchangzhuangkuangxiadeyugu，naizhizuodaoyoudianyingxianglidezhuangkuang。

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1.减轻以逸待劳的焦虑情绪

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jiarunijuechadaolezheiyidian，gujinikeyigaoqingchuniduitahaodeshenhou，daodishizaiganma。

2.待在工作能力的舒适圈

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