爱上一个人怎么办？把“在吗”换成这些

 aishangyigerendeganjueshishenme？henduorendoushiyouneiyangdeyilv：weishahuitashimiaohui，tahuiwoxiangxunhuanni?pengdaozheileizhuangkuangwogaizenmezuoni?neimeaishangyigerendebiaoxianyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaishangyigerendeganjuedewenzhangba。

dajiayijuhenduodejingdiananliguina，fajuezheileizhuangkuangdaduoshushiyouxialiesandayuangudaozhide。rangwomenyiqikanlaiyixia。

缘故一：谈恋爱关系中影响力的不对等。

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缘故二：心直口快，话题终结者。

 youyigenanhaierhedajiaxunqiubangzhushuo：woshigechengxuyuan，meirihehenduodeshujuxiangchu，renyixiedaiban，gongzuoyaliyefeichangdayinci haidaizhuyixieqiangposiwei。

jinqijiazhongbangwoxiangxijieshaoleyigenvhai，wodoutingxiaide，keshijuedetabutaixiailiwo。

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缘故三：话题讨论贫乏，无话可聊。

 jianxinhenduorendoushihuiyouneiyangdejuede：yikaishixianliaoshifengaoxing，zhenshiwuhuabutan，fenweiyeshifenhemu，liaobuwandehuatitaolun，zhenshigenbentingbuxialai。

danshizhihoujiaowangjiule，bicihuranyuelaiyuemeiyouhuashuo，zheishishenmeyuanyinni?

youyunidejingyan，nideshixianjinxianci，lingyifangdeyixiehuatitaolunshejidaolaidaonidezhishimangqu，niyakouwuyan。

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renquanshiyoumingxiandeqiuzhiyuhehaoqixinde，nichangchangdailailingyifangshenmigan，lingyifangcaihuibeinijinjinxiyinzhu。

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 aishangyigerendebiaoxianyounaxie？ruguonibaozheng，buguanlingyifangshuoxieshenmenidounenggoutuokuanchuquweideneirong，lingyifangdangranhuimishanggennixianliao。