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lengyanlengyujiuyaoshuoyixiesunhailingyifangganqingdehua。

 liru：“nizheiyangderenjiuhuogaidanshena”、“nineixinbushi”、“nigenbenjiubuaiwo”、“niruguozaiyishiwojieguohun，niyejiubuyinggaihewozaiyiqi”、“ganshenmehaidangexianghudeshijianni”zheixie。

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 dajiawanhuiaiqing，biaocengshangkanshiwanhuiaiqing，danshishishangshiyaozhaodaodeshizaizheiliduanqingganzhongbeidajiayishideneiyibufenzishen。

aipinshengjinrijiuxiaoyangdeshili，laijidahuoerjianghaoduogezaizhengjiuqingganzhongkaizhanlianghaogoutongjiaoliudejiejuefangfa：

第一：确立陌生感，不越境。

xuduo nvhaihuiganjuefenshouleyihoujiranhainenggoulianluo，neimewoshifourutongyiqianyiyanghetajianghua，zhaotapengmian。

 naizhiguihailingyifangfaxinxiliru“younaxiehuashifoukeyishihaohaoshuoshuo?”、“niweishenmebuliwo?”、“niyidingyaoneimecuicanwoma?”zheileidexinxi。

zhishangzheileiwulunshizhiyishide、poshishidehuanshiraowanzishi，quanshibuzhengquedegoutongfangshi。

zongshirangtaganshoudaowusuobuzaidegongzuoyali，rangtaganjuebulinicaisuanshiyigecongmingdejuece。

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 zaizheier，jidahuoeryigefeichangjiandandefangfa：gouxiangyixia，dajiarujinjiarujinjinyibanpengyou，ninenghetaruhejianghua?nidoushihuijiangxienaxie?

jinguanjinjinzheiyigexiaodediaojie，jiexianganmashangjiuquelile。

 wohaizaijutizhidaoxiaoyangxuexipeixundequanguochengzhong，dajiajiuyongzheiyitiaoguifantiaoxuanmeilexiaoyangxiangshuode98%deshixiaogoutongjiaoliuneirong。

yaolejie，zaishixia，wulunnishidijiandaohuichenli，huanshiqu“yimingxiangbo”，quanshijiyaoyaoyuzhuideguanlianshiliaobuji。

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第二：尊重事实，不用戏。

shenmejiaoai？xiaoyangdenanyoujuexinhetafenshoudeyigeguanjianyuangubianshiyouyuxiaoyangyizhizishenzaijiaxi。

 lirunanpengyouconglaimeiyouzaiyiguotadejieguohun，xiaoyangzishenquetebieqiangdiaotidao，zheirangnanyoushifenbiequ，ganjuehubianluanzao，yeyouyuzheijianshiqingyongyoujiedi。

yinci ，wojianyixiaoyangzaizhonghouqigoutongjiaoliuzhong，zhaojiyuyaobazheijianshiqingzaicihuiyingyixia，zunzhongshishi，youliyouju。

liru：lizailingyifangdeshijiaoshang，nanyoudaodishiruheduidaizheijianshiqingde，shijishangtayiqianshizenmejiangde，ruhezuode?

xiaoyangzishenyoushiyouyushishenmeyuanyinhuiqiangzhinanyouyigezuixing，jiqizishenneiyangzuoyihounanyoudetihuishisha。

dangxiaoyanglizaiyigexindejiaoduqujiangjielezheijianshiqing，buyongdijiandezhiqian，yebuyongrenkezishenhutu。

nanyoukucunjiyayijiudebiequbeijiandao，zheiyijiedishijishangjiuzaoyigangkaishisongtuole。

ziranjiejuexintaibingbingbushiyicigoutongjiaoliujiukeyichedichulide，keshijiejuedefangfagaimoruoshi。

 shenmeshixihuanshenmeshiai？womenzaigoutongjiaoliuzhong，zunzhongzijidexintaiyejiushizhongshilelingyifang，yiyanglingyifangganshoudaodajiadezhongshi，caihuixiangfanzhongshidajia，guanliandezaicichuangjiancaiyouchanshengdehenyoukeneng。