什么叫爱？分手后停止这些事

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yinci ，yaoxiangwanhuideyoukuaiyouzhun，jiuxuyaoyouxiaodiraokaixialiezheihaoduogejinqu!

一、挽回靠的是吸引住，并不是取悦

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二、你为他做得越大，挽回会难

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三、不必社会道德抑制另一方

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