爱情地图：辛苦“复合”他不理你？

 aiqingfenxi，yijushujudiaochabaogao：zaixianshishenghuozhong，97%derendouganjuezishenguodehenjianxin，wulunnanshenghuanshinvxing，laozonghuanshizhigong，fuyouhuanshimeiyouqiande......neimeaiqingdinglvyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaiqingditudewenzhangba。

penyoujianyipengmiandoushihuimaiyuanyiliangju，“jianxin”yibianchengshixiayingyongpinlvzuidaderemencihuizhiyi。

 zaiganqingli“niwuxuneimejianxin”tingqilaihenyouhuo，jianxinxuduo zimeidouyaoxiangneiyangba，kexianshishenghuozhongtongchangbukeyidechangsuoyuan，yizhichuzaidanxinqingkuang：

huozheyinjiebushangnanhaierdexinxineirongjuedexinhan;

huozhejuedenanhaierjinqiduizishenlengmo，jiuwangbiduanxiang，caiyilingyifangshifouxiaishangqitanvshengle;

 yeyoudenvhaierwulunshichizemaiyuan，huanshisajiaomaimengzhuangkeling，bianshixiangranglingyifangduotengzishenyixia，ketongchangbururenyi......

zaiganqingwentizhongpengdaoshierjiuwanghuailixiangdenvhaishubushengshu。

jinqikanguo[mei]dannier·labotede《niyuanbenwuxuzheimexinku》zheibenshu，poyouganshou。

 dajiadexueshengjuedaduoshuquanshidalingdanshenqingnianren，youdejiatingtiaojianfeichanghao，aiqingfenxi，wenpingyegao，bianshinanyixunzhaoshihedeairen，huoshijibian zhaodao，doubuchijiu，jiaowangyiduanshijianjiuhuiyoufenqi，huxiangzhengchao，tiaolingyifangdequexian，turanzhijianjiusankai。

yinci jinrixiangronghewoduishubendesisuo，laigongxiangxiazenyangcaikeyiyouzheyiduanxingfukuailedeganqing。

一、掩藏的自豪是一种方式尤其的痛楚

ren，jinyourenqingzishen，donglebenshendeyoudianyubugou，caikeyizhidingchuheshizishenderenshengdaolufazhanqushiduice。

 zaiganqingzhong，nvshengjienabushangnanhaierdequexian，huozhenanhaierjienabushangnvshengdejiaogui，neiyangdeshiertaiduole，nvshengxiangzainanhaieryanqiandangxiaogongzhu，shenmeshiqingdouxianglaiding，wulunnanhaierjiebujiena，bixuyananhaiersanfen，zhangciyiwangnanhaierbianhuijuedezishenneixinhennanshou，manmanzhuanbianchengfenqi。

 shijishang，buguanshenmeshiqing，zuixianyaorenqingzishen，xianghulijiehejienalingyifangdequedian，yangzhangbuduan。yaoshimeiyoujienachabiedegongzuonengli。neiyangdezhenzhengdeaiqingburongyichijiude。

xueshengyuanyuanneishihoulaixuehaoshi，xuqiushitaohuinanyou，liangrenjiaowangqineiyizhiniantoubuyiyang。

liru：liangrenchuqulvyou，tashuoqunali，nanhaierjiuxuyaoqunali;

 liangrenqugoumaishouji，nvshengbenbuyuanmaideshoujishangyerangyingyeyuanyonglaikanyixia，bingqiehaobukeqidebashoujishuaisuile，nanhaierjiudenaqianpeichangjidianjia。huaidiaotahaibubi，haiderangnanhaierzaijitamaiyigexinde，liangrenyouyujianyibukeyidachengyizhichaodebuxiangwanglai，erqieyingbizhenanhaierbashoujimainadao;

zailiru，jiulianzhenbanfangjinnaxiedifangyongzheiyidiansuoshibixudaraodaoyishangwu。

jiaowangyiduanshijiannanhaierqueshimeiyouzixinxinjianchixiaqu，zuizhongjuecetichufenshou。

shijishang，yuanyuanfeichangaitadenanyou，jinjinzhanyouyutaiqiang，zuihouzaocheng guanlianliekai。

 yinweiwoguanchadao，xiangneiyangdenvhaierzijizaijiawulunbiedeshier，zuoshibukaolvdaobuliangyingxiang，zuoshenmeshiqingdouxiangxingshidongzhong，yishouzhetian，conglaibukaolvdaotarendetihui，kanbuqingchuzishen。

 judajiaxuehaoxiaoxiongjiaoshidechudepouxi，yuanyuanmeiyourenqingzishen，yayiganairenchongdongtaigao。neiyangdexiaohai，zaijialibabamamajiaodaoyankebingqiefangshibushan，erpangquanshibabamamadezhiling，zishenmeiyouzhujian，yidanbaituojiazhong，buhuishoudaobabamamaguanshule，jiusiwujidan。

neimazenyangcaikeyirenqingzishenni?

 renshiziranhuanjingdewuzhi，xiangyuanyuanrujindeqingkuang，jiubixutabaituojiazhongdejushu，xuexipeixuntarendeyoudian，yexuehuixinshangtaren，yaocongjichuxueqi，baituozishendeshejiaoquan。

changyandao：bolanqunshubibushangshiyuzuxia，shiyuzuxiabibushangyuerenwushu，yuerenwushubibushangjingenchenggongzhedebufa。

jiaoshirangyuanyuanquduoxueduokankan，liru：

 goutongjiaoliucengmian，kanyixiahaoguimizaishenghuoqijuzhongshizenyanghenanyouhudongjiaoliude，wenyiwenqingxiweihebierenhuineimezuo，lingwaiyegenyuanyuanyiqiganshoubuyiyangdegoutongfangshi。

 zaijiaoshidexiezhuxia，yuanyuanmanmandebaituotayuanyoudeyigeluojisiweishejiaoquan，jibian fenshou，tagennanyouyekeyishuoshangyiliangjuhua，bingqiexintaiwanshandao，linglingyifangyeganjuenanyizhixin。

zouxiangshijieduokankanduoxue，yangzhangbuduan，moheqizishen，yuanyuanzheixiefangmianbaozhengle。

 congkeguantiaojiankaolv，yongxinduizishenkaizhansikao，zhaodaozishendexingquaihaosuoshu，bukeyibazijidejiaozongqiangjiazaitarendetouding。

 liru，nenggoubaomingcanjiayixieyoushehuizhengnengliangdezhutihuodong，kanyixiapenyoushizenmedairenchushide，duibizishennaeryouxiaci，jinerniduirichangshenghuozaochengjudadexingquaihao。

 gengguanjiandeshirenjinyoutiaoxuanleshihezishendetujing，caikeyichongfenyunyongzishendeyoudian，huodeqingqingsongsong，xiangfanjianghuodehendanxin、henjianxin，yueqinfenliqudechenggongyuezhang，jixiaohaoleshijianhehuoliyoudabushangyaoxiangdejieguo。

二、违反了客观现实，会让自身更艰辛

 henduorenhuodebukaixindeyuangushi：jinanyirenshouxianjieduandeqingkuang，youbunuligenggaizheiyiqie。nenggouxiangzhuyiyanglansan，quemeifaxiangzhuyiyangbuxianglisuodangran。

jinyoujiangzishencongbubiyaodefanmangzhongbaituochuqu，duizishenkaizhanjianquan、tigao、caikeyijiejuejianxin。

haishuoyuanyuan，tayeyouciwaiyigenanti——

bianshibuguanzuoshenmeshiqingdouxiangjigongjinli，henanhaierjiaowanghaibuwanshan，jiuguidingnanxingmaifangwanhun，zheizenmekenengni?

weifanlekeguanxianshi，huirangzishengengjianxin。

xiaoxiongjiaoshijutizhidaota，xiangzaizheishijiechengxianzishen，banshiyaotatashishi，gongdaozirancheng;

yaoxianggoujianyouliangdelianaiguanxigengbixudajiayibuyibudequzuo。

nizuoleshenmeshirangqingganfazhanqushichenggong?

jinifuxianglianpiandeneirendeshenshang，younaxiezhiliangxiyinzhuni?

niyizhizaiguidinglingyifangyizhaonideyixianglaixingdongshi，zishenyouganlenaxielaiganenhuikuini?

 yaoxianghuode，nijiuxuyaoxuehaotouru，yaotouruyeyaojianchibuxie;jiaruniqueshiganjuenanyi，neinijiusheqi，jiarunifangqilejiubuyaobaoyuan。

renshengjiushineiyang，quanqiushijunhengde，meiyigerenquanshigenjuzishendeqinfenqujuecezishenrichangshenghuodemoyang。

aiqingdinglvyoushenmeni？yuanyuanzaigennanyoujiaowangshi，quefadebianshizheileihudongjiaoliu。

 lijingshencengdefenxiyihou，yuanyuanxiangqizishenhenanyoudepingshi，tadeziwoweizhongxin，butinglingyifangfayandegoutongfangshi，yeyounanyoudechudeyijianfankuizheixie，shijishanghenzaoyiqianyiqianjiuzaoyiba“tichufenshou”dezhengzhaozhanxianchulaile，jinjintazishenbuzizhibale。

dannier·labotezaishulixiedao：

 yaoxiangwanchengbenshendeqipan，nixuyaojizijishedingzongtimubiaomingxi。jiarujiniyitazongtimubiaomingxi，qingba“qipandejuede”xiezaishangmian——chuyuzuituxiandebuwei。”

yuanyuanxinlideqipan，shizaicidedao sangshideganqing，yinci tabixudongxixinli，zhaodaobingmingquezishenzuizhenzhengdeyixiang。

duiyucishi，zuixianyaorenshizijizuiyaoxiangdeshiheshenme;

cizhi，aiqingditu,qinfenzuozheixierangzishenzaochengneileijuededeshi。