爱一个人有错吗？挽回绝情前任她只用了一封信

 aiyigerenzhendeyoucuoma？xinxinhenanpengyouzouzaiyiqi，chedishichunshuouran。xinxindepengyoulizhi，benlaiguishuyupengyougenzongdeguke，gongzuojiaojiedaotashoushang，jieguoxinxinhegukelianjiefangyijianrugu。suiyewuliuchengmeitantuo，danshilianggerendaoshixiangshixiangyu，zuizhonglaidaoyiqi。neimeaiyigerenyoucuoma？cuoyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaiyigerenyouduokudewenzhangba。

 zaizheiliyiqian，xinxinzhitanguoyicitanlianai，qiannanyouchuguizaocheng detichufenshou，yinci zhenduizheijianshiqingtafenwaibijiaomingan。danshi，rujindenanpengyouzairihuayongpinpinqiye，qiyenvshidaliang，meiyicinanpengyouqiyehuodanweijuhuihuodong，xinxindoushihuifenwaijiaolvbuan，buduandetongdianhuachaqin。jibian nanpengyoupoyouweici，danmeiyicidoubeixinxin“weidajiadeganqingkaolv”erduhuilai。

 lianggerendebaofa，shizaidiyicijianbabamamaqingkuangxia，xianghumeiyougoutongjiaoliuhao，xinxindebabamamarenweilianggerendianjizhexiangqinjiehun，lijiwennanpengyouhunyinshenghuocengmiandeniantou，jieguohuiyingyiju：“rujinhaimeiyouneiyangdeniantou”。

neiyangdehuayuhenrangxinxinbabamamadangzhongchuchou，genxinxinshuo：“tadoumeidianjizhegennixiangqinjiehun，huanshijiuzheiyangba。”

 xinxinziranmeiyuanyi。danzongganjueqingmianshangbuhaoyisi，huanshigennanpengyoudachaoyijia，xinxinnanpengyoumingquetichu，jiranlianggerenyishicunyouchabie，haishifenkaiba，xinxinhenwunai，zishenmeiyuanyibabamama，zhishigentazhantongyitiaoxianshang，xiangbudaohuanshineiyangdejieguo。

 xintaiyishangqu，jiuyuanyilenanpengyoudeguiding。danmeiertianjiuzhuihuimoji，tameifajienaneiyangdejieguo，danchangshiquzhaonanpengyou，quefajuetaxinlizaoyijienaneiyangdekeguanshishi，duitadetaojinhumeiyouyiqiexintaishangdeqifu，henlengmo，neiyangxinxingengweiwufajiena。

难道说就需要接纳那样的結果，暗然离去吗?

 xinxinhenanpengyouliangrendeqinggan，congqinmiwujianmaixiangliekai，kanqilaishijianbabamamashidebuyukuai，aiyigerenzhendeyoucuoma？keguanshishiqueshizheibanme?

shishishang，zheizhiyousuanzuodaohuoxian，zhenshidenantiqujueyulianggerenzhongjiankandaiganqingdeluojisiweichabie。

bujinxinxin，tongchangnanhaihenvhaiganqingliekaideyuangu，doulibulezheijigefangmian：

 1.xiguanxingyizishendeniantouweibiaozhun，gangbiziyong，bukaolvdaolingyifangdeniantou。danchunxingdeganjue，zishendeniantoubianshiduiganqingchengdan，danchedihulvemeileairendeniantou。

 2.meiyoukuanrongxinlizhuangtai，quefajichudegoutong，zaibixulianggerenxianghuyingduideyijianshishang，bixutizaogoutongjishi，erlianggerenchuxianjianyishangdezhengqishi，gengbixugoutong。bingqie，kandainantijinjinjiandanzhijiedechuli，zhuguanyiduan，bukeyicongyuantoushangjiejuekunnan。

 3.bumingbaibiaodaganqing，xinlingshenchuduibicideganqinghenzijintouru，danbumingbaibiaoda，naizhiyongdebiaodafangfazongshirangyiqiechaozhefanxiangkaizhan，zaocheng liangrendeqingganebian。

挽回防范措施：

 xinxinquwanhuiqiannanyou，jibian taojinhu，danyingduideyiranshitadelengdan，lianggerendezhuangkuangdangranbingbushijiaxingfenshou，danyebingbushiyouduobijiaoyanzhong。

【理智】

 rujindeqiannanyouyijingshengqi，bixujixianghucaogaodexintaijianggewen。zheiyidianheshijuedaduoshuzhuangkuangxiadewanhui，yigexiangzou，yigexiangliu，lianggerenzaizuijichudejianyishangmianmeifazuodaoyizhi，youruheheshiwanhuini?

 xianjixianghuyigelengjingqi，rangxianghudoupingjingxialaiba。jinidexintaixiufupingwen，yeshitaxintaihuanjiechulai，sisuoyixianeiyangguoduandewanbiganqing，shifouyoudianerbulizhi。

【揭穿】

jixianghuyigelizhishijian，guoyiduanshijian，nenggoukaizhanjiechuan。

 genjuxianliaodefangfa，nenggouduitadexintaikaizhanjiechuan。rujindeta，henyoukenengxintaizaoyihuanjie，danshiyiranbuyiliaoganqingcengmiandehuatitaolun，zhaoyigeshihedeyuanyin，jitamenyigejietixia，rangdajiazhongjianxiufulianluogan。

liru，richangshenghuomoujianfanzadeshi，xunzhaotadexiezhu，huotazhuanyetezhangdeshishangdezixun，zaihuoshijiedongxi。

yaoshituociyouxiao，tajiuburongyiganjueshengying，yiqiekanqilaidouhenpingshi，xianghujianbianhuihenqingqingsongsongdexiufulianluogan。

爱一个人有多苦？当两个人复建联络，相互间有充足的沟通交流，一切挽回者的心里都是会焦虑情绪，惦记着提升相互的关联。

 xiangrangbicizhijianshengji，zaiyicimaixiangqinmiwujian，“lijigaobai”shizuibuyidefangfa，youyuzheihenyoukenenghuizaiduzaochenglingyifangdebumanqingxu。

 zhenshiheshidefangshi，shihuanzhongweiwandefangfa，jitamenyizhonganshizhe：niyizhizaiguannianhexingdongshangmianzaoyigenggai，duitalaijiangniyouyicipojufengcai，nirujinjuecesheqizheiyiduanganqing，henyoukenenghuizijintouruxiayiduanganqing。

ziran，yaoshinengzuodaonidemudijiukeyi，yingyongdefangfashimeiyouxiandingde。

zaijiaoshidejutizhidaoxia，xinxinjiqiannanyouxieleyifengxin，guanjianzuinengtixianxiabianzheizhongneirong：

1.biaodaqianjiu，renkezishenzaoyiyishidaobuzhengquezainaer;

 2.zheiduanshijianyizhizaisikao，zishentaibulizhi，ganlesunhailingyifangdeshi，danrujinyijinggenggai，zhihouyebuhuihaiyouneiyangdexingweiqushitakunhuole;

3.zhuiyiyixiayiqiandexingfu，danpianshubuguozhang，yibidaiguo;

 4.zuizhong，biaomingzishenjuecexuehuifangxiazheiyiduanganqing，yinglaizhihouderichangshenghuo(baokuoganqing)，duitashuozishendezhengtiguihua，bingqiebiaomingzishenyijinggenggai。

 aiyigerenyoucuoma？falezheidiyifengxinhoubushangyizhou，xinxinxunzhaolaoshishuo，qiannanyoujijizhaotaxianliao，yegangkaishijijimingquetichufuhexing。