什么才算爱?秀恩爱很可能是你分手的主要原因

 shenmeshiai?zairujinhulianwangjishutongxinjiqifazhandezhuangkuangxia，meiyigerenmeiridoushihuilijingdeyijianshiqing，bianshisagouliang。neimeshenmecaisuanai?aiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanshenmejiaoaidewenzhangba。

yaobukantarenxiu，yaobuzishenxiu。

keshi，niyoumeiyouxiangguo，niyiqianzaoshouhuoyijingzaoyudefenshouheqingganweiji，bianshiyouyusagouliangzaocheng deni?

henduorenhenyoukenengbulijiezheibicizhijianyounaxiebidingdelianluo。

 shijishang，sagouliangzheiyijianshier，jiarubianweiyigezhongzhangxianfazhanqushideqingkuangkanlai，dailaibicidehenyoukenengshixinlizhuangtaiqifuzaochengdecaiyi。

怎么理解呢?

我举个事例：

liruyouyigenanshengduinifeichanghao，meiridoushihuizhunshizaiqiyeloudixiajienixiabanle，fengyujiancheng。

 turanyouyitian，henyoukenengshiyouyucaogaodejiaotongtiaojian，shenmeshiai?huoshihenyoukenengyouyulinshixingyouzhejideshi，zheiyinanhaizichidaole，nishifouhuiyouyizhongkongdangdangdejuede?

youderenzaiyingduizheileiluochagandeqingkuangxia，huibiaominglejie，bingzishenxiaohuaxishouzheileichengkonggan。

danyeyouyibufenren，bianhuigangkaishiganjuezheiyinanhaizibuxuance，shifouduizishenyibuguanzhule，burongyizaiduizishenhaola。

neizheiyibufenren，bianshifeichangrongyiyouyusagouliangerzaocheng zhengzhi、caiyihefenshoudequnti。

 nifajuemeiyou，shijishangzaizheigequanguochengzhong，niwangwangganjuelingyifangmeiyouyuanxianrenzhen，meiyouyuanxianduinihaola，quanshiyongzhiqiandeyizhongchangtaihualaizuoweicankao。

huanjuhuashuo，niyizhizaizheiyiquanguochengzhongzaochengle【bizhao】。

youyigejichulilunchengwei【guanxinglishidiaoxiaoyong】。

 jianyieryan，bianshiruguonizaizhangqishoutongyigewaizaiexingshijianweihaideqingkuangxia，ninengjianjiandixiguanxing，dangdanyouyitianzheiyiwaizaiweihaixiaoshile，ninengzaochengyizhongshidiaogan，ermeiyigerenzaochengdeshidiaoganshibuyiyangde。

 huanjuhuashuo，ruguonigangkaishishidiaodeqingkuangxia，henyoukenenghuibazheizhongganjuefenbianbianchengtabuainile，huoshitayiqingbielianle。

zheileixiangfayidangangkaishishenggenfaya，dajiadeguanlianyehuichanshengbianzhi。

shenmejiaoai?zheileixintai，zaiqingganzhizhonghuanshisuanjiaoweiqingweideyizhong。

zaiyihoudeshenghuoli，lveweijiaduoyidianduilingyibandeguanxin，jiukeyinengqingqingsongsongdeniuquzheileijushi。

也有另一种状况，是较为难处理的。

bianshinizaizaochengleguanxinglishidiaoyihou，budangangkaishicaiji，bingqiegangkaishizhaoxungezhonggeyangzhenxiangquzhengshizishendecaiji。

woyiqianyouyigeqiuzhuzhe，genwoshuotananyouzaiyikaishideqingkuangxia，meiridoushihuizaixinlangweiboweixinshangsagouliang、xiuenai。

 zhihouyouyicitafajuenanyoufabuweibojingranmeiyou@zishen，tajiuganjuehenjingya，gangkaishicaiyishifounanyoushigehuaxinnan，bu@zishenbianshiweilegenghaodiqiaoqiaoyinyoutaren。

 zhihou，tayongleertianshijian，fanchulequanbunanyoumeiyou@zishendexinlangweibo、weixinpengyouquan，bingyiyijieping，zhaonanyoujiangchi。

zuizhongliangrenguanlianpolie，tayexiangbudaohuilijibananyoubifenshou，yincicaixiangqiyaoxunzhaowanliu。

wojuedejiyouzheileigerenxingweidewulunnanhaizihuanshinvshengshuoyiju：

 weixinpengyouquanbuguanzhu、bu@ni，bingbukeyishitabuainiledezhengshi，yebushiyiweizheyulaiyuyanfan。zhishitadejuedebeizhujiandunhuachulile。

如何来了解呢?

bianshizaiyikaishitazuozheiyijianshierdeqingkuangxia，shitianmanreqingheshenmigande。

 keshi，zhangqifanfutongyijianshiqing，huizhujianjiangtadeshenmiganxiaoshidaijin，zhangjiuyiwang，dangtadeshenmiganbeixiaoqiandeleisideqingkuangxia，dangranjiugangkaishijiangdizhenduimoushiqingdeguanxinhezhongfulvle。

yinci ，tabingbingbushiyanjuannini，zhishitazaoshoude“cijixing”gangkaishiyuelaiyueshaole。

 zaizheileizhuangkuangzhong，shenmecaisuanai?nenggoushizhezhequgenggailiangrendexiangchumoshi，lveweirangzishensagouliangdefangfayouyidianbianhua，tishenglingyifangdeshenmiganhecijixinggan，caisuanshiguanlianchijiubucuihuadegenbensuozai。