经营婚姻：二婚家庭的幸福法则

　　fenshoumanvpengyouhaoma，zailianggerenshenxianfenshoubianyuanshi，qingxubuwendingqingkuangxia，yourenkenenghuixincunbulizhixiangyaotongguomanmadefangshiqubaituoneixinshenchudetongku。danshi，womenbunengyouyuyishidechongdongershanghailianggerendeganqing。fenshoumanvpengyoujuebushiyizhongmingzhidexuanze。zaifenshoudeguochengdangzhong，womenyaobaochilixingyuzunzhong，zuihaoyiwanshandefangshichulifenshoushixiang，bimianercishanghailingyifang。zhongjiu，yigekeaiderencengzailingyifangyanlishanliang。yiner，suiranqingxuzaoyiyizhibuzhu，kandaifenshou，shizhongbukeyiwangjiaiguoneifenzhenxinshiyi。

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　　“不言造成的伤害”——情绪一瞬间无法控制

　　fenshoumanvpengyouhaoma，dangliangrenlaidaoqingganshangdejiaojiedian，mianlinfenshouxuanzeshi，qingxudebianhuashizaisuonanmiande。yexushicongqiandekuailehexingfuzhujianxiaoshi，yexushishoudaoshanghaidezizunnanyirenshou。zaizheiyishunjian，youderenhuixuanzeyongmanmadefangshiquhuanjieneixinshenchudetongku，yidianyebukaolvbierendeganshou。danshi，zheizhongzuofazhihuijibicizhijianchanshengwujinshanghaihouhuimoji。zaifenshoudeyike，lengjingchenzhedijienazijideqingxushishifenzhongyaode，bunengrangyishidewufakongzhicuihuiyiqiannanwangdehuiyi。

　　“短暂摆脱”——痛苦造成伤害

　　fenshoumanvpengyoudexiangfatongchanglaiyuanyutongkuyuwuzhudejuede。zaiyidingchengdushang，koutoushangdemazanghuakenenghuishixinlilveweihuodeduanzanbaituo，danshizheiyuanyuandijiejuebulebenzhiwenti。fanguolai，zheizhongshanghaihemanmazhihuijiashenbicizhijiandetongkuhezenghen，rangfenshoubiandegengjiafanzahenanyixiubu。gengweiguanjiandeshi，womenbunenghulveshanghaitarendedaijia。yaolaoji，beimadechuangkouyexuhuizailingyifangneixinshenchuliuyouyongjiuxingdeyinhen。

　　“重视更加成熟”——理性应对分手

　　dangquedingfenshoushi，womenyaobaochilixingyulixing，yiwanshandexintaiyingduifenshou。suiranqingxuwufakongzhi，quewufahuiyinciluorushanghaitarenxianjing。fanguolai，womenyaoyaobaochizunzhonghehulianghurang，yongwanshandefangshichulifenshoushixiang。hezuoshichuliwentidehexin，lingtingbingshizhelejiebicizhijiandeguandianhetihui。jiusuanfenshou，dajiayekeyiyiyizhongyouyidexingshiwanbi，bingbaoliulingyifangyiqianfuyuwomenzuimeihaodehuiyi。

　　“留恋的目光”——爱惜曾经爱过幸福

　　zaiqingganshangdecanrenjiaohuichuzhong，womenbunengwangdiaozuichudemeihao。haishibeisunhai，danwomenyiranyingdanghuainiancengjinglingyifangyanlideshanliang。burongzhiyi，lianaizhongdetongkushizaisuonanmiande，danzheibingbunengchengweidajiashanghaitarendeliyou。womenyaoaixicongqiandeyanshenheweixiao，ganxielingyifangweiwomendailaidekuaileshiguang。fenshoubingbudengyuaidejieshu，fanershibicizhijiandechengzhangyumeihaojiyidejingli。

　　“后悔不已”——思考与后悔净重

　　dangnaonuhechongdongyiwang，houhuijingzhongzhujianyingmianerlai。womenyishidao，fenshoumanvpengyoufanerhuirangshierbiandegengzao，tishengxianghuzhijiandeshanghaijiduandezhuiyi。wangwangzaisikaozhong，cainengzhenzhengdekanjianzijideguoshi，nenggouyishidaolelingyifangneixinshenchudesunhai。danshi，houhuimojigenbenwufawanliuzaoyidailaideshanghai，zhiyouyerangwomengaoqingchuzunzhongyulizhidebiyaoxing。suiyuemeifaniliu，womenyaozuodejiushicongcuowuzhongxuexi，bingzaiweilaideganqingligengqiangdikandaibicizhijian。

　　“维持包容与调解”——摆脱分手阴影

　　fenshoumanvpengyouhaoma，fenshoumanvpengyoushiyizhongzisihejigongjinlidejudong，jishuangfangliuyoushenshendisunhai。danwomenbunengshizhenggecuowudejuedingzuaidajiajixuqianjin。womenyinggaiweichibaoronghediaojiedetaidu，jienayiwangwufagaibiandekeguanshishi，bingbuduanxiangweilaimairu。fenshoubingbudengyuwomenyinggaihenlingyifang，fanershiyaodongdeshifangchulaizengexingshanghai，tanxunneixindepingheyudiaojie。weiyouruci，dajiacainengzuodaozhenzhengbaituofenshouyinying，zhongxinzhaodaozijideaiqing。