试探他是不是真的爱你 喜欢一个人的四个阶段

　　fenshouleweishenmefangbuxia，dangyiduanganqingzoudaozuihou，gebendongxi，weishenmeyouderenquenanyifangxia？yexushijiyilidemeihaoshike，yexushiqingganshangdecanyu。fenshouhou，renmenchangchangshenxianwujindesinianwoxuan，zhuiyichixupanraoxinzhong，rangwomenwufabaituo。shiyinweiduiguoqudeyilaicainanyishihuai？huoshicaiyiziwonanyishihuai？yihuozheshipajimodebuming，juedezhiyouzaiguoquxiangxiangzhizhongcainengfaxiankuanwei？buguanyinsuzenyang，liulianyufenshoudejiyizhong，womenyinggaixuehuijieshou、yingduijinerfangxia。

　　无法学会放下：放不下的背后原因

　　huiguguoqu，cengjingdeaiqingruhongchenlihuaduo，zhanfangyouhendiaoling，dajiadoucengjingliguofenshoudekuchu。danshi，youderenquebaituobulezheiyiduanyiwang，zaicichenjinyushiqudedongxiqingxuli，yizhiwufafangxia。fenshouleweishenmefangbuxia？shiyouyuneiyiduanganqingzuimeihaodehuiyiyiranzaixinzhong，huoshineixinshenchudeyilaishifangchulaibushang？zaitansuowentideshihou，womenyexukeyicongyixiajigefangmianqusikao。

　　失去的东西借助：放下是一种丧失安定感考验

　　dangliangrenlaidaofenshoubianyuanshi，congqiandejiezhuhezhichijiangyaoxiaotui。zheileishiqudedongxijuedetongchangjirenyizhongmimangyubuan，nanyishiyingzheileicubujifangdegenggai。fenshouhou，womenxiguanlekuaiyigerenkeyiqingtu、yikaodejuede，dangzheizhongyikaobuzaicunzai，womendoujuedeshiqulefangxiang，nanyiyangzhang。yiner，fangxiakenengyiweizhemianduigudu、zaiciduziyirenmianduishenghuokaoyan，yeshiwomenfangbuxiadeyuanyinzhiyi。

　　未尽的服务承诺：放下代表着舍弃未完成承诺

　　zaiyiduanganqingzhong，henduorendouhuijiduifangfuwuchengnuo，yitongduiweilaidechongjingdemeimiao。danshi，dangfenshoulailindeshihou，zheizhongbaozhengyewanrupaomosuliaoyibanhuimie。dajiawufashihuaideyibufenzhuyaoyuanyinshifangxiadaibiaozhexuanzefangqizheizhongweiwanchengchengnuo，xuanzefangqiyitongzhuiqiudemengxiang。zheileiwufashixiandeyihanshiwangrangwomenwufawangque，congerdaozhidajiawufafangxiayiwang。

　　不真实的极致：放下是接受现实的考验

　　zaifenshouhou，henduorendouhuichenjinzaiguoqutianmidehuiyizhizhong，changchanghuainiancengjingxingfuhemeihao。danshi，womenyinggaimingbaiyidian，neiyiduanganqingbingbushiwanmeiwuxia。fenshoujishiyouyubicicunzaidebuzuhuofenqi，womenbuyinggaibatachedilixiang。fangxiadaibiaozhebixuzhimianxianshi，jieshouheyingduibicizhijianchedijieshu。zheileishijichongjiyerangwomenwufashihuai，fangbuxiayiwang。

　　害怕将来：放下是担心从此再无好一点的感情

　　fenshouhou，womenchangchangxianruhaipa，danyouzaiyejianbudaoxiangcengjingneiyanghaoganqing。neixierenmenzaiduqinshenjinglibeishangdefenlichulai，danyouzaidufushang。zheizhongkongjushiwomenzhanqianguhou，meifashifangchulaixinzhongdeqiangua。womenyinggaigaoqingchu，fangxiayiwangbingbudengyuyiwangjiushihenhaode，fanershiweilejizijigenghaodemingtianliuchukongjian。

　　摆脱的开端：学会面对和放开手

　　fangbuxiayiwangbingbushiwomendecuo，danwomenxuyaoyishidaole，congqiandeganqingyijingchengleyiwang，gaibianbule。bufangxiafanerhuirangwomenwufaxiangqian，shiwomenzaihuiyizhongtutiantongchu。dongdejieshouxianshi，shifangchulaizheixiejibanwomenzijideqingxu。jinyoufangxiayiwang，cainengzhenzhengdeyinglaixindejiyuheweilaidexingfu。

　　fenshouleweishenmefangbuxia，huidayexufanza，quebingbushibunengchuli。genjuqingchuzijifangbuxiadezhuyaoyuanyin，ranhouzhaodaomianduihefangshoufangshi，womenkeyimanmanbaituo。fangxiayiwang，mianduixianshi，weiyouruci，dajiacaikeyihuodeneixindeningjingyujueduideziyou。