冷爱：离婚后遇到真爱 我该选择孩子还是爱情

　　fenshouzenmewanhuinvpengyoushihenduoshilianlenanhaizixinlidouzhengwenti。dangmianduifenshoudekuchuhebuganshi，tamenkewangranqiaidehuomiao，qidainenggoumibucongqiandebuzhengque，zaiciyingdexinainvpengyou。wanliuyiduanfenshoudeaiqingjuefeiyishi，xuyaonaixin、zhenzhiheqinfen。congjiaoliuyugoutong、ziwofansidaozhongjianxinren，zhuduoxingweidoushiweizaicigoujianqixianghujiandeguanianheyilai。fenshouzenmewanhuinvpengyoubujinjinshiyichangzhengdeaidezuozhan，gengjiashiduizishendechengzhanghegaibiandehaojihui。

　　1. 回忆与自我反思

　　fenshouzenmewanhuinvpengyou，fenshouhou，xiangqiyiwangdelangmanhemeihaoshikeshihenduorendechangtaihua。danshi，zhuiyibuketingliuzaijuannian，haixuyaojiangqizhuanhuaweiziwofansidehaojihui。fanshengzijizailianaizhongdewentihebuzhengque，yishidaozijidenanti，erqieyouyishidexunzhaogaibian。zheibudanshiwanhuinvyou，yeshiweilebenrenchengzhangdejihui。

　　2. 再次取得联系

　　weichiyouxiaodegoutongshiwanhuinvyoudeguanjiansuozai。zaifenshouzhihoudechenmoqi，jiyubicizhijianshijianyukongjianlengjingfenxishifeichangbiyaode，danbunengshenxianshizhongmeiyouhuashuodekunju。henvyouzaiciqudelianxi，keyishidangdituisongwenhaohuoguanzhuduanxin，danbuyaotaiguojijihuoshijibicishiya。chuangjiandatidelianxihou，keyishizheyaoyuenvpengyouchulaipengmian，biaoxianzijidegaibianhechengxin。

　　3. 亲身抒发情感

　　wenbentidaibuleqinshenchuandadeqinggan。zaihuifuyuanlaidejiaoliuhou，mianduimiandigaozhinvpengyouzijineixinchuangyixiangfaqingxu。zhenchengdaoqian，jiduifangbiaodazijiaigenxuyaozhongxinzaiyiqidexinyuan。guanjianshiyaobiaodachuzijidegaibianhechengzhang，jiqikeyiweilebicizhijiandexingfuerfuzhunuli。

　　4. 摆脱老旧印像

　　fenshouhou，henyoukenengbicizhijianduilingyibanyouleyidingdegudingbudongyinxiang。weilenengwanhuinvyou，bixubaituozheizhongluohoudeyishihelijie。tongguozishendegaibianyuxingweilaizhengmingzijideyongqihechengxin。jijizhudongzhanxiangerenchengzhanghechengzhang，rangnvpengyoukandaoyigegengchengshu、pingwenheyouqucengjingdeziji。

　　5. 重建信任和共同的目标

　　fenshoutongchanghuishanghaidaobicizhijianderenke，ruoxiangwanhuinvyou，jiubixunulixiufuxinrendeqianti。genjuzhencheng、fuzerendegoutongjiaoliu，chuliyiqiandenantiranhouzhaodaoyitongjiejuefangan。yucitongshi，weilefangbianmianxiangweilai，yitongzhidingmubiao，rangshuangfangtihuidaoqianxingdedongliyumubiao。

　　6. 时长耐心的必要性

　　wanhuinvyouxuyaoshijianhexixin。buyaojigongjinli，buyaoqidainenggouhenkuaijiudedaohuiyinghuozhongguiyuhao。fujianyiduanposundeaiqingxuyaoshijianquyuheshangkou，xuyaoshuangfanggongtongdenulihejianchi。zaizheiguochengzhong，weichilianghaodexintai，bingqiebuduanbiaoxianzijidechengzhanghegaibian，jianxinzuizhongdouhuihuodechenggong。

　　fenshouzenmewanhuinvpengyou，zaiwanhuinvyoudaolushang，zuizhongyaodeshizhenxinshiyi、zhenchengheyongbufangqijuexin。wulunjieguoruhe，genjuzheiyiguocheng，womennengchengzhang、gaibianerqieweizijiderenshengdiandingjichu。jilao，ganqingxuyaofuzhunuliyujingying，wanhuinvyouzhishiqizhongdeyigequanguocheng，guanjianshikeyizaibuchenggongzhongxuedao，erqiezhongxinzhaodaozhenzhenzhengzhengshuyuzijidexingfu。