第一次见男友家长如何给自己加分

　　buxiangfenshouzenmeban，dangganqingzoudaofenshoubianyuan，youshiwomenrongyixianruwujindebeishanghejuewangdangzhong。danshi，mianduizheigewenti，womenyinggaijijiditanxunduice，sisuozenmewanhuizheiyiduanganqing。buyuanfenshou，womenkeyishizhejiaoliuyugoutong，lingtingduifangdexinsheng，gongtongjiejuecunzaidebuzu；womenkeyijijizhudongxunqiuzixunfuwu，xunqiuzhijipengyoudedalizhichihetiyi；womenkeyifanshengziji、jiuzhengzishenwenti，weiduifangdefazhanzuochunuli。wulunjiannanduoshao，xiangxinqijiyunulikeyijiejuemaodun，fujianwanmeideaiqing。

　　探寻共情与解决方案

　　buxiangfenshouzenmeban，dangwomenmianduiganqingchuxianliehenshi，womentongchanghuishenxianmimanghejiaolvqingxudangzhong，buzhidaozenmekandai。danshi，bukenfenshoubingbudengyuwomenjiuyaowujikeshi。zaiduidaiganqingkunjingshi，womenkeyishizheyixiajifangmianjianchibuxiedenuli，keyibangzhuxiufuyuairenzhijiandeguanxiherenke。

　　zuixian，womenyinggaixunqiugongqing，bingzhangwobierendeganshou。lingtinglingyifangxinlingshenchuzhenshideshengyin，yongxintihuitamendeqingxuyutongku。zheizhonggongqingkeyibangzhuwomengenghaodilejiebicizhijiandeyaoqiuheqidai，jineryingzaoyizhonggengjiamiqiehexianghuguanhuaideguanlian。

　　重新塑造沟通方式

　　youxiaogoutongshiweichijiankangganqingdeguanjiansuozai。danshi，wangwangshigoutongfangshibudangdaozhilebubiyaomaodunhechongtu。weilefangzhiganqingmaixiangjieshu，womenkeyishizhezhongxinsuzaogoutongfangshi。zuixian，yaoqingting，jiduifangzugoudeshijianlaibiaoxianxinlidexiangfahetihui。yucitongshi，womenyeyinggaiyongganbiaodazijidexuyao，danxuzhuyiyongyuheyudiao，fangzhinengrangduifangjuedejingonghuochize。ciwai，xuanyongkaifangxingdehuihuafangfa，shenrutantaojiejuewentifangshi。

　　寻求技术专业协助

　　youshi，dajiazijidenulikenengbunengjiejuesuoyouwenti，cike，xunqiujishuzhuanyexiezhushiyigezhengquedexuanze。jishuzhuanyexinlixuezixunshihuohunyinshenghuojiatingzhiliaoshikeyitigongkeguanxiangfahechengkendejianyi，xiezhufuqiliangrengenghaodilejieyuchulixianghuzhijiandenanti。tamennenggouyindaowomenzhaodaofangxiang，bingtigongxiangguanfangfahejiqiaozhuanyonggongju，bangwomengaijingoutongjiaoliu、jiejuemaodun，zuihouxiufuguanxi。

　　自我反省与改变

　　zhenzhengdeaiqingbicizhijiandeshier，zaiwomenguanzhuyuzishendechengzhanghegaibianshi，yenengduiganqingchanshengjijideyingxiang。womenyaozuohaoziwofansheng，shenshizijizaiganqinglidebianhuayuchengzhang，cunbucunzaiyixiehuaixiguanhuoxintaibixujiuzheng。womenkeyicanjiayixiegerentishengdekechenghuozhutihuodong，tigaozijideqingshanghejiejueqingganshangdeshuiping。genjuduizishendesikaoyugenggai，nenggouweixiufuyuairenjiandehexiegongchugongxianzijideyifenliliang。

　　高度重视友情和真情

　　chukaifuqijiandeganqing，womenyeyaoguanzhuheweihubaoyangshenpangdeyouqinghezhenqing。yujiarenpengyoubaochilianghaoguanlian，keyijiwomentigongjingshencengmiandeshiyongheanwei。yujiarenhehaopengyougongxiangnantihedanyou，yekeyibangzhuwomencongbutongjiaodukandaishiwu，bingdedaoxindesiluyujianyi。

　　buxiangfenshouzenmeban，zaimianduiganqingkunjingshi，buyuanfenshoubingbushiyizhongyaoyaowuqizhuangtai，ershiyinweiyoujihuiquwanliuhehuifuxinhao。genjuxunqiugongqing、zhongxinsuzaogoutongfangshi、xunqiujishuzhuanyexiezhu、ziwofanshengyugaibian，jiqigaoduzhongshiyouqinghezhenqing，womenkeyigenghaodiyingduiganqingjiongjing，weishuangfangzaojiugengmeihaodemingtian。jilao，aishiyixiangjijizhudongxingdong，zhiyounimenjijidequzhuixun，cainenghuodeaiqingdemanmandeshouyi。