不要用爱情的方式维系婚姻

　　nanshengtifenshouhouduojiuzuirongyifuhe？zheishiyigerangrenfanhutuwenti。fuhedeshijianduanzaiyuxuduoyinsu，baohanfenshouyuanyin、gerentishenghejiaoliufangshi。youshihou，shijiannengzhiyutongku，tuidongtamenzhijiandelijiehediaojie；eryoushi，taizaofuheyexuzhishichuanchenglefenqinengliangxunhuan。yiner，wufajichuzhunquedeshijianduan。danshi，guanjianzaiyushuangfangdouxulizhihuiwang，mianduikunnanbinggongxianliliang。zhiyouxiankefulefenshouyuanyin，youhualexianghujiandenanti，cainengjifuhetigonggenghaodejiyu。

　　nanshengfenshouzhihouduozhangshijianbijiaorongyifuhe？zheishiyigexiangdangchangjiandexianxiang，keshihuidabushidanchundeshuju。fuhedeshijianyezaiyuzhuduoyaosu，baohanfenshoudeyuanyin、bicizhijiandegerentishengbianhua、goutongyuwentijiejuenenglideng。xiabian，womenjiangyaoconggegejiaodutaolunzheizhongqingkuang，zhangwonanshengfenshouzhihoufuhedekenengxingheyixieguanjianguanjiandian。

　　1. 情感上的冷却期

　　fenshouhou，shuangfangdouxuyaoyiduanshijianlaipingjingxialai，sisuolianggerendeguanxiyuweilai。zheiyilengqueqinenggoubangzhujianshaozhengchaoheqingxuhuagerenxingwei，weifuhezaojiugengyoulideziranhuanjing。zheigeqijianyibanjiangchixujizhoudaohaoduogeyuedeshijianye。

　　2. 自我反思与成长

　　fenshouzhihouzheiyiduanshijian，nanshengkeyijiezhuqujinxingziwofansiyuchengzhang。tamennenggousisuofenshoudeyuanyin，shenshizijiyantanjuzhi，bingnuligaibian。genjugerentisheng，nanshengnenggouzhongshuxinxinhetigaoyouhuoli，congerweifuhezaojiulegenghaodejihui。

　　3. 处理分手原因

　　fuhedeguanjianshichulifenshoudeyuanyin。bicibixuzhenxinchengyimianduikunnan，bingzhudongxunzhaojiejuefangan。zheiyexuxuyaoyiduanshijian，baohangoutongjiaoliu、rangbu、genggaigerenxihaodeng。zhiyouzaifenshoudeyuanyinhuodehelijiejueshi，fuhecaihuiyougengwendingdejiben。

　　4. 欠缺时间期限

　　bingmeigudingshijianxiandinglaijuedingnanshengtifenshouhouduojiuzuirongyifuhe。meiyigezhuangkuangquanshiyuzhongbutongde，meigerendouyoubutongdechengzhangdesuduyuxuqiu。youderenkenengmashangjiufuhe，danduiyubieren，fuhekenenghaixuyaohenzhangdeshijian。guanjianzaiyushuangfangdoubixutanranditanxunbicizhijiandetiyan，binganzhaozijibufaqianxing。

　　5. 沟通的意义

　　bulunshenmeshihoufuhe，goutongjiaoliudoushizhiguanzhongyaode。nanshenghenvshengzhijianbixukaifangzhenqiedigoutongjiaoliu，biaoshubicizhijiandetiyanyuxuqiu。youxiaogoutongnenggoubangzhubicigenghaodelejielingyifang，bingjianliqijijizhudongdehudongmoshi。

　　zongtilaishuo，nanshengtifenshouhouduojiuzuirongyifuheshiyigefuzadenanti，bingmeiyoumingquededaan。fuhedeshijianyezaiyubujiqishudeyaosu，baohangerentisheng、wentigaijin、goutongjiaoliudeng。zuizhongyaodeshishuangfangdouxubaochichengxin、reqinghezhongshi，yichixugaijinguanlianbingxunzhaofuhedegailv。buguanfuheshijianzhangduanzenyang，zuizhuyaodeshibicikeyigenghaodechuliwenti，maijingengjiajiankanghewendingdeguanlian。