让婚姻生活快乐的金钥匙

　　nanshengtichufenshouhaiyouwanhuidekenengma，dangyigenanshengjuerantichufenshoushi，ziranerrandihuirangrenchanshengyihuo：shibushihaicunzaizhewanhuidehaojihui？zheiyangdeshiqingjingchanglingrengandaokunhuohewunai，danshishizhengming，nanshengtichufenshoubingbudengyuyiqieyiwufawanhui。zhongdianzaiyuzenmekandaiyuchulifenshoudezhuyaoyuanyin，jiqinuligaibianhejiaoliu。suiranjubuweijian，danyiranhaiyoujihuizhongjianxinren、jiashenlejie，binghuifuaiqingdexingfu。zhiyaoshuangfangyijijidexintaizijintouruqinfen，bingxunzhaojiejuewentidefangshi，nanshengtichufenshouhouwanhuidegailvrengrancunzai。

　　nanshengquedingtichufenshoushiyizhongwufataobideshiji，erzaizheigewentizhong，dajiaxiangyaodedaodedaanshi：nanshengtichufenshouhou，haiyoumeiyouwanhuidegailv？suiranmeiyigezhuangkuangdouyoutateyouxing，danxialietaolundefangshiyexukeyijiniyixieqishi。

　　1. 深度思考分手的主要原因

　　nanshengtichufenshouhaiyouwanhuidekenengma，dangmianduifenshoushi，baochilengjingsikaofenshoudezhuyaoyuanyin。nanshengdechufenshoudeyuanyinkenengjiushiyinweigoutongbudaowei、xianghuzhijiandexuyaobuyizhi、cunzaiyanzhongderenjimaodundeng。zaizheigeshihou，huishouguoqu，tanxunwentidebenzhishihenzhongyaode。

　　2. 适时地反应冷静分析

　　dangnanshengtichufenshoushi，niyexuhuijuedeqingxudebodonghehunluan，danshijinkenengbaochilixing。bubizuochuchongdongxingweihuoyanci。jibicigenzijiyixiekongjianqusikaohepingjingxialai，rangbicidoukeyigenghaodilejiebicizhijiandezhenzhengxuqiuhetihui。

　　3. 寻找倾吐与支持

　　zaizheiyangyigeshiwanghedanyoudeyike，bubiyigerenmiandui。xunzhaozhidexinlaidehaopengyou、jiarenhuojishuzhuanyexinlifudaoshi，qingtunideqingxu。tamendezhichiyujianyinenggoubangzhuninenggougenghaodiyingduiyuchulifenshoudejiongjing。

　　4. 反省与成长

　　fenshoushiyigezhongyaodesikaoyuchengzhangdejihui。huiguzijizaiguanxilidexingweihexintai，kanyoumeiyouyouhuadeshineikongjian。erqie，genjuzheixiejingli，shenshizijiyaoqiuhesixiangshibushihelingyifangyizhi，yicinenggougenghaodixuanzeyusuzaoweilaizhijiandeguanxi。

　　5. 坦诚地沟通交流

　　hezuoshiwanhuiaiqingdezhongyaoyihuan。ruguonixiangyaowanhuinansheng，shizhehetatanchengdigoutongjiaoliu。zhengqiutadexiangfaheganshou，biaodazijixinlixiangfahexinyuan，changshixunzhaojiejuewentidefangfa，bingzhuyaobiaoxianchunidegenggaihechengnuo。

　　6. 维护保养自尊心和理解对方的决策

　　buguannanshengdejuecezenyang，zunzhongyujieshoutadetiaoxuanshihenzhongyaode。jiarutaquedingjianchibuxiefenshou，zhongshitadejueding，yezunzhongzijidexiangfa。xiangxinshijianhuizhiliaoyiqie，weizijizugoudeshijianququanyuyuchengzhang。

　　7. 重新开始和聆听心里

　　buguanfenshoudejieguozenmeyang，qingxiangxinrenrendouyouzhongxinkaishidehaojihui。bulunshiheduifangzhongxinkaishihuoshizhaodaoxinderenshengdingwei，douxuyaolingtingzijineixindeshengyin，xunzhaozhenzhengshihezijidelumian，tongshiyeweizijideaiqingqinfen。

　　nanshengtichufenshouhaiyouwanhuidekenengma，buguannanshengtichufenshoudezhuyaoyuanyinzenyang，haiyoumeiyouwanhuidegailvzaiyubicidenulihexinxin。zhongyaodeshiyaoweichijijidexintai，zunzhongduifangdejuece，erqiejianxinbuguanjieguoruhe，womenjiangkeyizhongxinkaishiranhouzhaodaoshuyuzijidexingfu。