婚姻，要学做这三种聪明的女人

　　zainannvganqingzhong，yiqianyouzheiyangyijuhuachuanchu：“nvpengyoushuonilejiufenshoule。”zheiyijujianjieminglequecitengneixindeyanyu，shuochuleyigexianxiang：dangnvxinggandaoyanfanshi，nvshenghuihaobuyouyudejuedingfenshou，buguanlianggerenyiqiandeganqingduoshen。zheisihuchengweileyizhongkanqilailengmoerjueqingdexingweizhunze，yinqizherenmendesisuo：shiainiaibugoulaogu，huoshiduibicidetibuqixingqu？zheizhongqingkuangyerangrenmensikao，ganqingshibushizhishiyishidereqing，yeshixuyaozhangjiudefuchuyuyunying。nvyoudenigan，shibushiyeyushizhenanpengyoumenzaijiaoliushihuipengdaoshencengcidewentihetiaozhan？

　　nvpengyoushuonilejiufenshoule，zheihuayijianjiedexingshishuochuleyizhongxianxiang，rangdajiajinbuzhusisuonvxingyanfanganqingshihoudejuerantiaoxuanbeihouyinzangzhezenyangdeyuanyinjixinlizhuangtai。bansuizheduizheigehuatideshenruyanjiu，womennengchupengdaoqingganshangdeduoyuanxing，yenengkandaorendebenxingdeduoyanghua。

　　情绪变化：从恋爱到腻烦

　　aideqishidiantongchangshirexuepengpaidelianaijieduan，langmanderizihaoxiangyongyuanmeiyoujintou。danshi，suizheshijiantuiyi，bierenshenshangdequexianxingweixiguanmanmanxianchu，shenmiganyezhubutundiao。nvyoukenengzhujianzaochengnifanqingxu，zhenduizheizhongxinqingbianhua，henkenengshiyinweitatihuidaolepingpingdandanhekuzaodeshenghuo。

　　冷却期存在的必要性

　　dajiadouyouqingganshangdebodong，bixuduchudeshijian，yisikaoyudiaojiezijidexinqing。dangnvyoushuonilejiufenshoule，yexushiyinweitagandaoxuyaoyigelengqueqilaidiaozhenghaozijidexintaihezhongxinsikaozheiyiduanganqing。zheiyilengqueqiduiyushuangfangeryandoushibiyaode，suoyizhiyouqinshenjinglileyiduanshijiandelengbaoli，caikeyigengqingxidiyishidaotamenzhijiandezhenzhenzhengzhengganjuegenshiyongjiazhi。

　　感情需求的差异

　　nvxingzhenduiganqingdexuqiuyunanrenkenengcunzaichabie。dangnvyoushuonilejiufenshoule，takenengzhengzaizhuixunshenduheguangduhegengyouyiyidechuanqizhifuchengxu，erbuzhishibiaocengderechenlanman。tayexuqipangengduoguanzhu、lejieheguanai。ruguozheixiexuqiubukeyihuodemanzu，takenenghuikaolvfenkai，xunzhaoyigekeyimanzutadeneixinxuqiudebanlv。

　　个别差异所导致的挑选

　　meiyigerendouyouzhezijidexingqing、jiazhiguannianxuqiu。nvyoushuonilejiufenshoule，qishibingbuyiweizhequanbudenvxingdoushihuizheiban。zheiyeshibijingdajiajiejueganqingnantidefangfashibutongleixingde，tayexugengpianzhongyulijimianduikunnanerfeituichixialai。danzheizhonggebiechayishiwomenyinggaizunzhongde，youyurenrendouyouzhipeiquanzhaodaoshihezijideshenghuofangshiheairen。

　　重新审视自己的心态

　　dangnvyoujuedingfenshoushi，chukaisikaoduifangnanti，womenyeyaoshenshizijidezuoshitaidugerenxingweishifoucunzaicunzaidebuzu。yexuwomenzaipingdanshihulveleduitaguanzhu，hushiletaxuqiuhetihui。zheishihou，bufangshizhezhongxindakaihetadegoutongjiaoliu，lingtingtadexinlixiangsheng，daijitagengduoguanzhuheguanai。

　　zaihuigunvpengyoushuonilejiufenshoulezheijuhuashi，womenyaobaochilixingdetansuohelixingdetaidu。jinliangbuyaoquganpaichihepaichi，eryinggaijijizhudongdizhaoxunzijigenduifangzhijiandewenti，erqienulidequjizheiduanganqingzhaodaoheshidejiejuefangfa。lianaizhongdemimanghekaoyanshizaisuonanmiande，zhiyouxiankeyixianghuzhijianbaorongyulijie，caikeyizaiaidedaolushangzoudegengyuan。