恋爱的不同阶段，你在什么阶段

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恋爱的不同阶段，你在什么阶段

阶段一：喜欢

 duifangjuyoumouzhonglingwoxihuandepinzhi，liruzhangxiang、fengdu、tantu、xueshi，suoyiwoxihuanta。yekenengshiyinweitazuolemouxieshierlingwoxihuan，lirutahenreqing，leyuzhuren，nenggoubaqifengaodehenhuoyue，duiwoguanxintitie。hexihuanderenzaiyiqi，wohuigandaoyukuai;hetazaiyiqigandaoyukuai，suoyiwoxihuanta。xihuanshiaidejichu。meiyouxihuanjiumeiyouai。danshi，xihuanbudengyuai。xihuanheaihaiyouyiduanhenzhangdejuli。yeyouyixierenfenbuqingxihuanheai，cuobaxihuandangchengai;xihuanyigeren，duitayouhaogan，jiuyiweizijiyijingaishangta。

阶段二：依恋

 xihuanyigerenjiuhuileyihetazaiyiqi，buzaiyiqideshihouhuichansheng“fenlijiaolv”，juedebushufu，kewangjixuhetazaiyiqi，zheijiushi“yilian”。xihuandaoyidingdechengdujiuhuichanshengyilian。yilianyouliangzhong，yizhongshisinian，buzaiyiqideshihouxiangta，fanfuhuiyihetazaiyiqidekuaile，yizhongshixianghetajixuzaiyiqidechongdong，laoxiangquzhaota。liangzhechengdubutong，houzhegengjiaqianglie。kantadechongdongdadaoyidingdechengdu，jiuhuizhijiequzhaota，fangfomeitajiubunenghuo，feichangjiuchan，zheijiao“yilai”。

阶段三：占有

 yiliandadaoyidingdechengdu，jiuhuichanshengzhanyouyu。zheishiyinwei，ruguotahebierenzaiyiqideshijianduole，hewozaiyiqideshijianjiuhuijianshao。weilemanzuwodeyilianheyilai，wobuyunxutabashijianhuazaibierendeshenshang。ruguobierenzhanyonglewodeshijian，wojiuhuijidu。ruguotahewozaiyiqideshihouxinbuzaiyan，wojiuhuichicu。

 weilewanquanzhanyouduifang，youderenhuicaiquyixiejiduandecuoshi，yibiankongzhiduifang，baduifanglaolaozhuazhu。genzong、diaocha、chengfa、chaojia、tiyaoqiu、xianzhirenshenziyoudoushuyubijiaozhudongheqiangyingdecuoshi，taohao、liyou、shikurouji、yaoxieshuyubijiaobeidonghe“ruanxing”decuoshi。

 zheigedengjihaiyouyizhongbiaoxian，jiushigaizaoduifang。suiranduifangzongtishanglingwoxihuan，danshi，duoshaozonghuiyouyixielingwobutaimanyidefangmian，yushi，wojiuxiangtatichulai，yaoqiutagaibian，huozhebangzhutagaibian，shenzhiqinzidongshougaizaota，batabianchengwolixiangzhongdeyangzi。zheiyangdegaizaoqishijiushikongzhihezhanyou。zhanyou、kongzhihegaizaodoushuyu“suoqu”。suoqujiushizhudongxunqiubeiai。

阶段四：交易

 “ruankongzhi”daiyoujiaoyidesecai，danyuzhenzhengdejiaoyiyousuobutong。jiaoyishizhi，weilerangduifangxihuanwoyidadaoduzhanduifangdemude，woyuanyizuoyixieshiqing，rangtakaixin，shitaziyuanerbushibeipodihewozaiyiqi。liru，bazijidazaodegengjiakeai，yingheta，taotahuanxin;shuncongta，guanxinta，bangzhuta，quyueyuta，rangtagengjiaxihuanhewozaiyiqi。jiaoyiqiangdiaogongping，fuchuduoshaojiuyinggaidedaoduoshaohuibao。ruguofuchuhenduoerdebudaoxiangyingdehuibao，kenengjiuhuizhuanxiangkongzhi。

阶段五：报答

 youliangzhongjiaoyixiandebuneimechiluoluo，tamenshiganenheganqingtouzi。ganenshibaodadeyizhong。woyijingcongbierenneilidedaolehaochu，xianzaibaodata。duifangyexubuqiuhuibao，danshi，wodehuibaokendinghuijitadailaikuaile，shitagengjiayuanyihewozaiyiqi。lingwai，duiwozijilaishuo，bubaodadehua，xinlihuibuan，zongjuedeqiantarenqing。baodakeyilequewodexinyuan，rangzijixintaipingheng。yujiaoyixiangbi，ganenbuneimegongli。

 ganqingtouzi，biaomianshangkanqilaishibuqiuhuibao，qishishi“fangzhangxiandiaodayu”。xuduojiazhangduidaihaizijiushiruci，“wusi”diaihaizi，quanshenxindifuchu，yixinxiwangtaguodehao。dengdaotazhangdachengren，zaimanmangentasuanzhang。yexutamenzaifuchudeshihouqueshimeiyouxiangdaohuibao，zheiyijinggou“wusi”le。fumuaihaizi，genbenyuanyinzaiyutashitamendehaizi，shitamendeshengmingdeyanxu，shitamendeshentideyibufen，aihaizijiushiaiziji，dangranwuxuhuibao。lingwai，fumuduihaizideaiyekeyishuoshiduihaizidekeaideyizhonghuibao。

阶段六：关注

 cong1dao5，jiaodiandoushiziji，cong6kaishi，jiaodianzhuanxiangduifang，zheishiaidebiaozhi。1dao5shibeiai，6dao10shiai。xihuanshiyinweitajiwodailaikuaile，yilianshiweilerangtatiantianshouzhewo，zhanyoujiushibuxutahebierenhao，jiaoyijiushiwodezuodianshenmeyibianrangtaduiwogenghao，zheisigedengjidoushiyitaduiwohao、wokaixinweimude，suoyishibeiai。

 beiaijiushisuoquhejieshou，shuyu“quefaxingxuyao”，shiyinweixintaichuxianlechizi，shiqueaidejieguo。zhenzhengdeaishi“fengfuxingxuyao”，qitedianshifuchu，zaifuchudeguochengzhongdedaokuaile。yibanlaishuo，zhiyouquefaxingxuyaodedaoshidangmanzuyihou，caihuichanshengfengfuxingxuyao。queaiderenshibudongdezenmequaibierende，tamenzhihuisuoqu，buhuijiyu，yanlizhiyouziji。shenmecaishizhenzhengdeaini?shouxianaiyigerenbixuyitaweizhongxin，shenqiediguanzhuta，batazhuangzaixinli，miqiezhuyitadeyijuyidong，jiuxiangmuqinduidaiyingeryiyang，“wodeyanlizhiyouni”。xiangfan，ruguowushiduifangdecunzai，duitamobuguanxin、yiwusuozhi，neijiubushiai。

阶段七：共情

 womenbudanyaoguanzhuduifangdeyijuyidong，haiyaoguanzhuhelejietadeneixinganshou，tashibushibukaixinle?weishenmebukaixin?tadefannaoshishenme?taxuyaoshenmeyangdebangzhu?zheijiushi“gongqing”，meiyouguanzhujiumeiyougongqing。duirenbulibucai，buquguanchatadeyantanjuzhi，zenmenenggouzhidaotadeneixinganshou?suoyishuo，guanzhushigongqingdeqianti。danshi，youleguanzhubuyidingjiunenggongqing。youderenguanchanenglihenhao，quedubuchuduifangdeneixinganshou，yinweitameiyoujinrudaoduifangdeneixinshijie。congmouzhongyiyishangjiang，gongqingjiushichuaimo，danqimudeshilejieta，yibiangenghaodibangzhuta，erbushiweiletaohaota，shitagengjiaaiwo。huanjuhuashuo，tongshichuaimo，gongqingshiweitahao，taohaoshiweizijihao。

qianguayeshiyizhongchuaimohegongqing，henxiangzhidaotazenmeyangle?guodekaixinma?xuyaobangzhuma?

阶段八：支持

 youlegongqing，womenjiunengzhidaoduifangxuyaoshenme，yinggaizenyangbangzhuta。zhiyouzheiyang，womencainengweitatigongzuiyouzhidefuwu，womendebangzhucaishiyoudefangshi，duitaqueyouhaochu，nenggourangtakaixin。xuduorenbangzhubierenbushicongduifangdexuyaochufa，ershibazijixihuandedongxiqiangjiajiduifang，yuanyinzaiyuqueshaogongqing。meiyougongqingdebangzhushiwudefangshi，qiangrensuonan，lingrentongkubukan、youkunanyan。

 zheizhongrenduirenhenreqing，xihuanbangmang，keshirenjiabulingqing，duitabieryuanzhi。buguo，yulengmoxiangbi，reqinggengjiejinai。buguanxiaoguoruhe，aixinkejia。meigerendouleyiweixinaiderenzuoxieshi，ruguozheiyangzuoshiweilerangduifanggengaiziji，neijiushijiaoyi;ruguozheiyangzuojinjinshiweilerangduifangkaixin，buqiurenhehuibao，neijiushizhenzhengdeai。huanjuhuashuo，aishiwuchangfuwu、yiwulaodong，yinweifuchuermanzu，buxuyaoewaidebaochou。bangzhukeyishiwuzhide，yekeyishijingshende。jingshenbangzhujiushiqingganzhichi。

阶段九：奉献

 yibanqingkuangxia，rangduifangkaixinhaishibijiaorongyizuodaode。danshi，ruguoduifangdexingfushijianlizaiwodetongkuzhishangde，neijiunanbanle。ruguorangtakaixin，zijijiuhuihentongku;ruguoburangtakaixin，neijiubushiai。yinci，dijiujishiyigeliangnanjingdi，zhiyouneixieyongyuziwoxisheng、juyoufengxianjingshen、lvedaijifenzinvehebeijusecaiderencainengdadao，jutibiaoxianweizunzhongduifang，jiduifangyidingdegerenkongjian，rangtaziyou。yuguanzhu、gongqing、zhichixiangbi，fengxiancaishizhenzhengdeai。guanzhu、gongqinghezhichibuhuisunhaizishendeliyi，erfengxianjiushiziwoxisheng，suishizhunbeixishengzijideliyi。

 zheigedengjidelingyizhongbiaoxianshizunzhong、xinren、baoronghejiena。xiangxinduifangyounenglichulihaozijideshiqing，tadejuedingyidingshizhengquede;jishishicuowude，neiyeshitadejueding，wobixuzunzhongta。tademouxieguandiankenenghewobuyiyang，danshiwonengbaorongta，jienata。zunzhongbierenbushiyijianrongyideshi，gaobuhao，duifanghuiyuanzougaofei，huozhepadaowodetoushang。

阶段十：和谐

 ruguoduifangmeiyouyuanzougaofei，meiyoubazijidexingfujianlizaiwodetongkuzhishang，shuomingwomenyizhixingbijiaogao，jianrongxingbijiaohao，buxuyaokeyiweiduifangzuoshenme，renheyigedongzuo、yijuhuayu，suixinsuoyu，xinshounianlai，dounengrangduifangkaixin。buxuyaofengxian，buxuyaoziwoxisheng，buxuyaofuchu，buxuyaohuibao。lianggerenyijingheweiyiti，nizhongyouwo，wozhongyouni，nijiushiwo，wojiushini，bufenbici。nidekuailejiushiwodekuaile，nalihaifenshiheshou、fuchuhehuibao?