心态改造：想爱又不敢爱

　　laogongquktvzhaopeichangsuanchuguima，danglaogongquktvzhaopeichangshi，henduorendouhuizaochengyihuo：zheishifousuandeshangchugui？zheigewentiyinqilerenmenduibanlvguanlianyudaodejiexiandetansuo。yifangmian，jiangchuguijiedingweiyubierenfashengguanxi，neiyangjinjinxinshanggechang、yulexiaoqiandejudongshifouweichugui？lingyifangmian，yeyourenrenwei，bulunshifouchanshengzhitijiechu，zhenduiqinggantouruhebeichijiatingyalidouxingchenglechuguidejudong。yiner，gaizhengquededaanbingburongyi，yinggaigenjufenbiedeguannianhebanlvzhijiandechengnuolaiqueding。

　　时代背景：对出轨界定的模糊不清界限

　　laogongquktvzhaopeichangsuanchuguima，zaidangjinshehui，banlvguanxilichuguinantiyizhibeishouzhumu。buguosuizheshehuisixiangdegaibianhexiuxianyulefangshideduoyuanhua，zhenduichuguidegainianyebiandegengjiamohubuqing。zaiqizhong，"laogongquktvzhaopeichangsuanchuguima"zheiyihuati，zaihenduorenzhongyinqilereliedetaolun。

　　见解1：以个人行为为区分规范

　　yixierenjuede，jinyouzaihebierenchanshengroutiguanxideshihoucainengsuanshichugui。zhenduilaogongquktvzhaopeichangzheileijinjinzhishiyulexiaoqiandejudong，zaitamenkanlaibushuyuchuguifanwei。tamenchanshulegerenxingweidebianjie，renweizhankaileyuqingganhexingyouguandeqinmidongzuo，caikeyibeichengzuochugui。

　　见解2：以情感资金投入为评价指标

　　lingyixierenzebachuguideyaoqiufangdaoleqinggantouruhebeichiyiwushang。zaitamenkanlai，jibianmeiyouchanshengroushenchupeng，danshizhiyaolaogongduipeichangzaochengqingganfangmiandetouru，hulvelejiatingyali，haikeyibeichengzuochuguigerenxingwei。tamenchanshuleduibanlvlianxidezhongshiheqinggandechuncuixing。

　　伴侣之间的承诺和观念的危害

　　bulunshishiyonghuoshidizhilaogongquktvzhaopeichangsuanchuguideren，dounengjieshoubanlvzhijiandeyuedinghesixiangzhenduipandingzheiyixingweishifenzhongyao。meiyigebanlvguanliandouyougezidezhiduhejiexian，meiyouyigetongyongxingdehuida。youdefuqihenyoukenengbianyibaorongyubaorongdexintailaikandaizheizhongzuofa，eryoudefuqizeshizhiweihenyanzhongdepanbian。

　　开放和真诚的交流：

　　yingduizheigewenti，fuqiliangrenyingdangjijikaizhankaifanghezhenchengdejiaoliu。tamennenggouyitongshangyi、zhidingqingchudezhiduhejiexian，yifangzhirihoujiufenanjian。fuqizhijianderenzhihezunzhongshiweichibingzhidingshenxinjiankangbanlvlianxidezhongyaojichu。

　　结果：

　　laogongquktvzhaopeichangsuanchuguima，buguanlaogongquktvzhaopeichangshibushisuanchugui，zheigewentidehuidaqujueyubanlvzhijiandeyitongrenzhihechengnuo。fuqiliangrenxuyaoyigoutongjiaoliuyuzunzhongweizaiti，shenrutantaochuguidebianjie，bingyijuzijidejiazhihebanlvguanliandexuyaozhidingchuxiangduiyingbiaozhun。zuizhongyaodeshi，shizhongbaochixianghuzhijiandebaorongyulijie，yichuangjianpingwenerxingfudebanlvguanlian。