情感专家：不必太在意过去而改变自己

　　nanrenchuguizuipaqiziganma？zheihuachongfentixianleqizidezhongyaojiaose，tamenjianqiangyuzhihuikeyizhenhannanrenneixinshenchudehuihenyuaohui。qizidejingjuexinbujinjinshiduihunyindezhongchengshouhu，gengshiyizhongduizhenaidekeshouyuzhuiqiu。dangnanrenpanbianhunyinchengnuoshi，qizidelizhiyuguoduankeyirangtamenbengkui，shidetamentongchuzhuihuimojizhongsheng。qizidexingweibujinjinshizishenzunyanquanlidebaowei，yeshiduihunyindexinnianyufuwuchengnuo。nanrenyongyuchugui，padejiushiqizidezhanwenlichanghebeishangwunai，zheiyangcainengzaochengtaneixindejingyanyudadong。

　　nanrenchuguizuirangqizihaipade，moguosangshiduifangzhenzhihezhongshi。zaiyiduanhunyinzhong，zhongchengshigoujianlaogugenjideguanjianyaosu，erchuguiwangwanghuishizhenggegenjichedibengkui。qizisuojuyouderenxinghecuoshi，nengrangzhangfuchongfenrenshi，chuguiduihunyindekunjingxingshanghai。xiabianjiangzaiqizidexinxin、jiazhongdedalizhichiheneixindetishengsangefangmian，jinxingdui“nanrenchuguizuipaqiziganma”detaolun。

　　妻子的信心——让男人感到焦虑和无奈

　　qizidexinxinshididangchuguidezhuyaowuqizhuangbei。tamenbuhuiduizishenjiazhiheyouhuolichanshengzhiyi，chongchizhedulihejiaoaodiyingduizhangfudechuguigerenxingwei。qizizhujianzhongshizijideshenghuoyuxingqu，xixinzhaoliaozishendezhangxiangheneixindefazhan。tamenyongziliziqiangderenshengtaidu，xiangzhangfuchuandichuyiguzixinhefengcai。zheigezixinxinrangnanrengandaojiaolv，tamenyishidaolechuguibudandanshihuodeqizizhixiaodenanti，gengjiashisangshiqizideneixinjiezhuhejiatinghemudaijia。zixinqizixiangzhangfuchuandichuyigenongliedexinxineirong，neibianshitamenduiyuzishenjiazhihehunyindegaoduzhongshi，bingfeiliqutamenbianwufashenghuodegengjiameihao。

　　一个家庭的适用——构建砖墙、筑起门闩

　　qizidangmianduizhangfuchuguishi，yigejiatingdeshiyongjuyouzhiguanzhongyaodezuoyong。jiazhongshiyigepingwenerlaogudeqiye，nenggouweiqizijiyuxinlizhuangtai、qingganyuwuzhishangshiyong。qizikeyiliyongjiatingdeliliang，yuchuguidezhangfujinxinggoutongyumianduikunnan。yigejiatingdeshiyonghaikeyitongguojiaqiangfuqijiandehunyinguanxi，goujianzhuanqianghezhuqimenshuan，bimianchuguishiqingzaicichuxian。yingduichugui，yigejiatingdeshiyongrangqiziyongyouyilihexinxin，gengjiandingdibaoweihunyindejiexianhedaodedixian。

　　内心的顿悟——不会再忍受、挑选从头开始

　　qizideneixintishengyinggaishizhangfuchuguidezhongyaohaiji。tamenhuiguoduandihechuguidezhangfujiangchi，burenshoutadepanbiangerenxingwei。neixintishengdeqizihuibaohuhaoziji，shouzhudixian，guoduanwanjuweizhangfudechuguigerenxingweizhaoliyouyubaorong。yingduichugui，qizihuigongxianzijideyifenliliangtiaoxuan，bulunshiliyihaishixuancongtoukaishi，tamendoubuhuizairenshouchuguiweizijizaochengdeshanghaiyutongku。neixintishengdeqizihuitanxunzijideaiqing，buhuizairangzhangfudechuguiheiyinglongzhaozhezijideneixin。

　　nanrenchuguizuipaqiziganma，zaihunyinzhong，nanrenchuguishiyizhonghenyanzhongdeshanghaipanbian。erqizidefanyingcuoshi，naishiquedinghunyinmaixiangdezhongyaoyinsu。qizidexinxin、jiazhongdedalizhichiheneixindetisheng，douhuirangchuguidezhangfutihuidaohunyinderenxinghebiyaoxing。zaizheiguochengzhong，qizidexingdongyutiaoxuan，jishiduizijizunyandixiandeshouwei，gengshiduinanrenchuguiweifaxingweidezuiyouxiaodejinggao。nanrenchuguizuidanxinde，shiqizijiandingbuyilichanghejuerandecuoshi，yinweizheishitamenneixinzuibuganmianduideshiji。