提了四次离婚老公依然与第三者保持联系，我该怎么办？

　　nanrenhelaopoganqinghenhaoweishenmehaichugui，suirannanrenyulaopojiandeganqingfeichanglaogu，danshitamenweishenmehaihuijixushenxianwaiyudequantao？zheizhongqingkuangyanjiulehunyinlideduoyangxingherenxingdeyoudian。chuguixingweihenyoukenenglaiyuanyubenrenxinliqiangliebumanhuochongdongyouhuo，yeyoukenengshiduizijidebugouchengshuyuduizhizededuobi。buguanyuanguzenyang，renzhihejiejuezheiyiwentibixuduidaihunyinlidebiciyaoqiu、qinggangoutongyubicizhijianmanzushuiping。genjuchongfenwajuezheiyixianxiang，dajiahuoxukeyizhaodaoheshidefangfalaiweichihunyinwendinghemeihao。

　　复杂心理：引诱与本质不满意

　　nanrenhelaopoganqinghenhaoweishenmehaichugui，hunyinlidechuguixingweijingchangrangrenkunhuo，tebieshizaiganqinghexiedeqingxingxia。danshi，chongfenwajueshencengyuanyinnenggoujieluchurenxingdefuzaxing。nanrenhelaopoguanlianyouliang，danweihetahaiyuanyimaoxianwaiyuni？

　　zaiyigezhangjiudehunyinzhong，renmentongchanghuijuedeshenghuozhongdekuzao、qinggandepingpingdandan。duiyuyouxiereneryan，zheileineixinshenchudekumenjianghuichengweiwaijieyouhuomiaochuang。bulunshizhichangshangdeyinyou，haishihejiuqingrendexiangfeng，xinxianganhecijixingduimouxiereneryanjubeibukekangjudeyouhuoli。zheizhongyinyounenggouchengweidadaobenzhibumanyidefangfa，shidetamenzaiganqingxiangduiwendingdehunyinzhongzhuiqiucijiyujiqing。

　　danshi，bushisuoyouchuguixingweidoulaiyuanyuwaijieyinyou。youshihou，nanrenyoukenengzaihunyinzhongjuedexinliqiangliebuman。zheileibumanyikenengjiushiyinweimouleiqingganyaoqiubingmeiyouhuodemanzu，biruyaoqiubeirenlijie、beiguanzhu、beizhongshideng。suiranyulaopoganqingyouliang，dantamenyexuganjueqianqueqingganlidelianjiedadao。zheishihou，nanrenyoukenengzaiwaijiexunzhaodadao，tanxunkeyimibuzheileiqinggankongbaideren。

　　义务躲避：成熟情况与自制能力

　　chuguixingweiyeheziwodechengshuqingkuangheshimingganxiangguan。jibiannanrenhelaopodeganqingyouliang，duihunyinchengnuohuoxubingbuzuyimingxian。yixierenhenyoukenengmeiyouyidingdezizhinenglilaijujueyouhuo，huoshitamenyexuqueshaoduizishengerenxingweihouguoshenzhongkaolv。

　　zaiyiduanxiangduiwendingdehunyinzhong，weixiguanxibixufuzhunuliheziwoyueshu。youshihou，nanrenhenyoukenengbeiganyaliyuzerentaizhong，takenenghuixunzhaotuolixianshidexingshi，erchuguixingweijianghuichengweitamenlinshibaituodebanfa。dangyudaocuozheyushibaishi，yixierenhenyoukenengtiaoxuantuixiezerenhemianduikunnandeqipo。

　　情感交流和自我提升

　　weilenengmingbaiweishenmenanrenhelaopoganqingyouliangquerengranwaiyu，dajiayidingyaozhongshihunyinlideqinggangoutongjiaoliu。jiaoliushiweichihunyinpingwendeguanjiansuozai，keyibangzhubicigenghaodelejiebicizhijiandeyaoqiuheqinggan。jiaruqingganyaoqiubingmeiyouhuodemanzu，nanrenhenyoukenenghuizhuanweiwaijietanxundadao。

　　chucizhiwai，yigerendechengzhangheziworenzhiyeshifeichangzhongyaode。nanrenxuyaokaolvneixindexuqiuyuqipan，bingbuduanpeiyangzijidegerentisheng。tongguotigaoziworentongheqingganzhili，nanrennenggougenghaodilejiezishendexiangwangbingqieyijiankangdeshenghuofangfabiaoshu，erbushiyongwaiyulaihuibiwenti。

　　nanrenhelaopoganqinghenhaoweishenmehaichugui，zuihou，hunyinlidechuguixingweibingbushijichuwenti。taqianshedaogerendejingshenshijie、qingganyaoqiu、zerenxinhegoutongdejiqiao。genjushendusikaohejiejuezheigewenti，nanrenhelaoponenggougongtongfendouweihubaoyangtadeganqingbinggoujianyigepingwenerxingfudehunyin。