女人要温柔体贴？你真的了解他的情感需求吗

 chuantongguannianranghenduoyiweinvrenzhiyouwenroutitiecainengdedaonanrendeqinglai，xianshishenghuozhongjubeizheixietezhidenvshengsihuyegengrongyichengweinanrendezeouduixiang，woxiang，dagaiyou99%denanrendouxiwangzijidelingyibanjubei“titie”detezhi，danzixixiangxiangdaodizenyangcaisuantitie?sihuyehennanhuida。

 erworenwei，suoweidetitiejiushidongdefaxianhemanzubierendexuqiu。faxianduifangdexuqiuyihoujutiyaozenmemanzucaishizuizhijieyouxiaodeni?

jintianjiujiangyijiang，wohuishoubashoudijiaonigaoxiaolvdimanzuduifangdexuqiu，rangnichengweititiedexiaoxiannv!

一、只是温柔体贴?你真的了解他的 情感需求 吗?

zhiqianwocengtidaoguo，dangwomenzhunbeimanzubierendexuqiuzhiqian，xuyaozunxunliangdayuanze：

1、xianfenqingzijidexuqiuheduifangdexuqiu。 ruguozheidianmeifenqing，nisuoyoudefuchuzuizhongdouzhineng“gandongziji”。

2、 shidumanzuduifanghelidexuqiu。ruguozheidianbuzhuyi，neimenidefuchujiuhuibiancheng“guitian”，lingguanxishiheng。

yishangyuanzeshikezhuyizunshou，zaibanidexiangfahexinyifuzhuxingdong。

ciwai，yidingyouhuiyounvxingduzhewen：

weishenmezongshiyaoqiunvrenxuexigaibianneimeduoni?

 wozhixiangshuo，zhiyaoyigerenxuyaoshejiaoguanxi，jiuxuyaozhangwomanzubierenxuqiudenengli，nanrennvrendouyiyang，suoyihoumianfenxiangdefangfahesiluduinanxingduzhetongyangshiyong。

ruguowoyijingmanzuduifangle，erduifangquebumanzuwozenmebanni?

 womenzuorenheshiqingdoubukenengdedao100%manyidejieguo，danwomenhaishiyaochangshi。ruguoqueshigandaofuchuyushouhuobuduideng，neijiujishizhisun，womenyongyuandouyongyouzizhuxuanzedequanli。

二、的满足情感需求是“体贴入微”

 youyigechengyujiao“titieruwei”，wodejieshishi：zaizuixiweidecengmianshang，tiliangbierendexinqing、chujinghexuyao，ranhoujiyushizhixingdeguanxin、zhaoguhemanzu。

worenweizheijiushimanzubierenxuqiuzuigaodejingjie，yinweiqizhongbaohanlexuqiumanzudeliangdazuiguanjianyaosu：

1、“yongxinxizhiguancha”——yinweijishishitongyigeren，zaibutongshijianheqingjingxia，kenenghuiyouwanquanbuyiyangdexuqiu;

2、“fuchushizhixingdong”——meiyoushizhixingdongdeguanxin，bingbunengchanshengjiazhi，gengbunengmanzuxuqiu。

 henduorendouwurenwei，zijimeitianwenhouduifang“chilemei?”“shuihaomei?”“chuangoumei?”“gongzuoleibulei?”dengdengjiushititieheguanxin，danqishihaiyuanyuansuanbushang，gengtanbushangshimanzuduifangdexuqiu。

 yinweizheizhongkoutoushangdewenhou，jibuxizhiyebuzouxin，gengjiameiyouweiduifangzuochushizhidexingwei。benzhishangzhishizaisuoquduifangdexinxihehuikui、shuacunzaigan，zhongjiuzhishizihaieryi。

三、所有的情感需求都不外乎这些

 genjumasiluoxuqiucengcililun，zhiyaoshirenjiuhuiyouxuqiu，zhishixuqiudecengcibuyiyang。fenbieshishenglixuqiu、anquanxuqiu、shejiaoxuqiu、zunzhongxuqiu、heziwoshixianxuqiu5gecengci。

 yinweinengdadaozuigaocengci“ziwoshixianxuqiu”derenheqingkuangbenlaijiubuduo，suoyizaiqinmiguanxizhongqitasigecengcigengjiazhongyao，ruguodounengjiduifangqiadangdemanzu，neimezheiduanqinmiguanxidezhiliangyijingzugougao。erruguobagaililunyunyongzaiqinmiguanxidangzhong，neimezhiyaowomenshaoweiyongxinguanchahesikao，liyongfasanxingsiwei，jiukeyihenrongyifajuechuduifangzaigegecengcishangdegezhongxuqiu：

1、生理需求：

 zheiyicengcishuyuzuijibendexuqiu，meigezhengchanghuozhederendouyijingdedaolejibenchengdudemanzu，ranermanzudezhiliangqueyougaodizhifen。zaiqinmiguanxizhong，duiyuzheiyicengcixuqiudezhongdian，jiushizainenglifanweineigenggaozhiliangdimanzuduifanggezhongxuqiu。

a)饮食方面：

 yigerenmeitianduzichiwaimaihekuaicangurankeyitianbaoduzi，dankendingmeiyounizaijiazuoyidunnashouhaocai、huozhejitazuoyifenaixinbiandangsuodailaidexingfugan。

 ruguoniyijingzuodaojibenmeitianjitazuofan，neioueryanjiujigexincaishi、huozhepeitadaotaxihuandecantingchiyidunhuanhuankouwei，yenengdedaoxinxiangan。

 jishinidoubujubeizuozheixiedeshijianhetiaojian，neiniqimakeyizaitamangzhejiabanmeikongchifandeshihou，titadianyigewaimai，qimabiezheduzijiabanqiangduole。

b)居住环境方面：

meigerendouyouyigezhuchu，wulunshihaozhaibieshu、haishixiaoxiaodechuzuwu，zhongjiushixiuxideguisu。

 suiranjuedabufenrendouwufaqingyijiduifangyigeyoudayouhaohuadezhusuo，youqizheiyebingbushinvhaizigaizhuyaochengdandezeren。danwomenqimakeyihuaxieshijianhetili，bazhusuoshoushideganjing、zhengqi、wenxineryou“jia”deganjue。

nvrenyaowenroutitie？nizhendelejietadeqingganxuqiuma？

c)睡眠方面：

 zheitongyangshimeigerenmeitiandouyaozuodeshiqing，danxianzaihenduorendeshuimianzhiliangdoubugao。ruguoninengyongxingdongrangduifangshuidegenghao，yejiugenghaodimanzuleduifangdexuqiu。

jiarushuiqianjitapaogejiao、ananmo，yexunengshuidegengxiang;

huozhezainenglifanweineiweitahuanshangzhilianggenghaogengshushidechuangpinhuoshuiyi;

youhuozhezaitachuangtoufangyigebangzhufangsongdexiangxun……xiangxinzheixiedoushijiandankecaozuodefangfa。

ruguonibingbunengzaitashuijuedeshihoupeizaitashenbian，neiniqimakeyibimianzaitaxuyaoxiuxideshihouyinglazhetapeiniliaotian;

huozheniyounenglidehua，keyijitachangshougehongtakaixin。

d)性生活方面：

 genjuwodeanlijingyanhexiangguandiaoyan，zhongguorendexingshenghuozhiliangpubianpiandi，wulunshiyihundefuqihaishiweihundeqinglv。zhuyaoyuanyinshixingguanniandepianchahexingjiaoyudequefa。

 erqiehaicunzaiyigepubiandemaodun，nianqingnanxingyouyuguozaoshouseqingxinxi(apian、xiaohuangwen)deyingxiang，yinciduiyuxingdexuqiuhekewangwangwanghuibinianqingnvxingyaoqianglie;ernianqingnvxingqueyouyuguanniandepiancha、zhishidequefayijidiyicidetengtongdengyinsu，daozhitamenduiyuxingshenghuobingburezhong。

 suoyi，ruhetigaoxingshenghuozhiliangshiyigehendadehuati，zaiciwufaxishuo。danduiyunvhaizieryan，zunzhongyuzhengshibanlvdexingxuqiu、baizhengzijidexingguannian、shidangtigaoduixingshenghuodezhudongxing，shitigaobanlvxingshenghuozhiliangdediyibu。

 zongjielaishuo，shenglixuqiushimeigerenzuijibendexuqiu，suoyiwomenkeyizuodeshiqingzuiduoyezuirongyi。zhongdianzaiyuxuyaocongduifangyi、shi、zhu、xing、gongzuo、yuledengdenggegefangmiandeshenghuoxijieshangfajueduifangdexuqiu。

zhiyaonengmanzubanlvzaizheigecengcishangde80%dexuqiu，jiuzuyichengdeshangshizhenzhengde“titie”le。

2、安全需求：

 renbuzhiyaochihelasashui，haixuyaozairenheshihouquebaozijigefangmiandeanquan。doushuo“nvrenquefaanquangan”，shijishangmeigerendouque，erqiewomenmeiyikedouzaixunqiuanquangan。

zhishiduiyunanxinglaishuo，zaiqinmiguanxizhong，zheiyicengcidexuqiuzhuyaotixianyixialiangfangmian。

a)banlv(jiating)guanxi：

 wulunnannv，douxiwangqinmiguanxizhongduifangzhuanyi、zhongcheng，suoyixuyaozaipingchangxiangchuzhongjiduifangyingzaozheizhongganjue。zaiqinmiguanxizhongsuiyitifenshou(lihun)、wanxiaoshi、shanchulaheilianxifangshi、genqitayixingjiechuguoduodengdeng，douhuijinanxingzaochengqiangliedebuanquangan。

 zai hunyin zhong，xuyaozhezhongbimiangenduifangjiatingchengyuanzhijieqichongtu、zhizaojiatingbuhedengdeng。wanyiqueshichanshenglemaodun，shouxianxuyaogenzhangfujiushilunshidigoutong，liangfuqixiandachengtongyigongshi，zaiyiqichulimaodun。

cichudeguanjianshirangduifanggandaozijidezhongyaoxingheweiyixing。

b)财产安全：

jiandanlaishuojiushibuyaoluanhuatadeqian、huozheshichaochutadenenglifanweineihuataiduodeqian。

 youqishizaichuqilianaizhong，youxienvhaizizongxiwangduifangweizijiduohuaqian，yicijiadaduifangde“touzi”，zheiyangdezuofaduiyuganqingshibidayulide。

 zaihunyinzhong，qizidouqiwangzhangfu“shangjiaogongzika”，baqiandoujiaojizijiguan。zheiyangdezuofabingfeibuke，danqiantishiqizixuyaojubei“guan”denengli，duiyushenghuokaixiao、licaiguihuadengcaiwugongzuodounengdalihao，zheiyangcaibuzhiyurangnanrenduizijixinkuzhuanhuilaideqianchanshengbuanquangan。

3、社交需求：

renshiqunjudongwu，suoyibiranyoushejiao(jijianligezhongrenjiguanxi)dexuqiu。

 erlianaiyuhunyin，qishibenzhishangzhishishejiaoguanxideqizhongyizhong。yigerenjishilianaihuojiehunhou，yexuyaotongshijingyingjiating、pengyou、tongxue、tongshidengdenggezhongguanxi。

 youxiexuqiuganheyilaixingjiaogaodenvhaizi，zailianaizhongjiurongyifanzheigecuowu——bufenshijianchanghediyaoqiuduifangbazijifangzaishouwei，xianzhiduifangqitazhengchangderenjijiaowang。

 jishiwochangshuo，zaihunyinzhongyinggaibafuqiguanxifangzaishouwei，danzheiyeshizaijiatingguanxizhongeryan。ruguoyigeqiziyinweiyijianbingbujinjideshiqing，erzaizhangfudegongzuohenmangdeshihoubutingdadianhua，yeshibuhelide。

 yaomanzuzheigecengcidexuqiuyebunan，zhixuyaogenjumuqiantasuochudeqingjingfenxinazhongshejiaoguanxiyingdangfangzaishouwei。kanguoyixializijiunenglijie：

a.cikeruguoshitazhengchangdeshangbanshijian，neigongzuoguanxijiushishouwei;

b.jintiannigentayiqigenjiarenjucan，neitagenjiarendexiangchujiushishouwei;

c.tajintianxiuxi，dannandegenjigehaopengyouyuejianmian，neipengyoujiaowangjiushishouwei;

 d.jintianbenlaijiushishuyunimenlianggerendeyuehui，ertayemeiyoubiedegengzhongyaohuojinjideshiqing，neijiukeyiyaoqiutabanifangzaishouwei。

4、尊重需求：

 dangrenyouleshejiaoguanxiyihou，jiuhuiduishejiaoduixiangchanshengzunzhongdexuqiu。ernanrenzaiqinmiguanxizhong，zhuyaoyouyixiafangmiandezunzhongxuqiu：

a)性别角色方面：

shehuiduiyunanxingjiaosepubianhuicunzaiyixieqiwangheyaoqiu，biruyanggang、chengshu、wenzhong、kekaodengdeng。

 jiarunizaitadepengyoumianqianchuyuwanxiaohuodiaokanxintai，yongyuyanhuoxingdonganshitabugouman、bukaopu，jiushiduitadebuzunzhong。suoyinvxingduinanxingdekuazanyurenkezaiqinmiguanxizhongyouweizhongyao。

b)沟通言语方面：

 nvxingdeyuyanbiaodawangwangbinanxingfengfudeduo，yincinannvchaojiadeshihou，nanxingwangwanghuishujinvxing。ernvxingzaitebieqifendeshihouyerongyikoubuzeyan，shuochunantingdehua，shanghailenanrendezizun。

yincizaimaodunchongtunaizhirichanggoutongzhong，nvxingdouxuyaozhuyizijideyanyu。

c)自我空间方面：

 rensuiranxuyaoshejiao，danyexuyaoshidangdeduchu，nanxingduiyuziwokongjiandexuqiudugenggao，ernvxingzaiqinmiguanxizhongwangwangduinanxingdeyilaiduyehengao。

 yincixuyaozhuyi，ruguoyiduanshijianzhinei，tayijingpeilenihenjiu，niyijingganjuedaotachengxianchupibeidezhuangtai，neimenijiuxuyaojishidijitaduchukongjian。yibantaduchugouleziranhuizhudonglianxini。

四、了解与磨合是通往幸福的必经之路

 yishangwoyijinglisuonengjidijidajiafenxianglemanzuxuqiudesiweifangshiheshicaofangfa，xiwangnibujinchidaole“yu”，yexuehuile“yu”。

 yinwei，rende qingganxuqiu suiranzai5gecengcizhong，huiyouwushudebiaoxianxingshi，yehuizaibutongdeqingjingzhongbuduanbianhua。

zuizhongyaode，haishiyaoyongxinqulejiebici、fuzhuxingdong，bingqiebupashoucuocainengzhujianmohe。