夫妻吵架怎么办？试试这4个技巧

 jinjinianlai，fuqichaojiaerdaozhideanquanshigubuduanchansheng，xiangfuqichaojiajializhehuohefuqichaojiatongshitiaohezheixiexinwenbaodaoyeshiwangshangfengzhuan，fuqichaojiashuhudayibianchanshengzheizhongzhuangkuangle，daodifuqichaojiagaizenmeban？

一、不逃避、不扩张、限定時间和主题风格。

 taobidebenzhijiushishuodikang。zhenduimaodunbutaobi，keshinenggoucaiyongmouxiefangfa，lirulinshichechuhuoshiyongfengqudefangshibazheiyijiekaiqi。zailianggerenyoufenqideneishihou，fengquhebufengquderenshijianchulijianghuijiongranbutong。fengqunenggouqiadangdibamaodunhuazuowuxingzhong。chaojiakeyixiandingzhengzhideshijian。jiusuanyoumouxiezhengchao，haikeyixiandingshijian：“hao，neimarenmenchao20fenzhong，nixianjiang，wohoushuo。”

二、不提过去、不斥责

 chaojiazenmehuiyulaiyushengjini？changchangyouyutiguoqu，tieshangbiaoqian——“niyizhineiyang”。chaojiazhongbunengyong“niyizhi……”“meiyici……”neiyangdejuzi，fanguolai，yingdangyongchangkaishijuzi，biru“wojuede……nikankanni”denghuiyingnanti，tansuo“ruhejiulingrenmanyi？”

三、陈述自身的信息

 chenshuzishendexinxiyousanliucheng：“dang……wojuede……youyu……”yiyaoxushuzishenganjuekunhuozaodongbuandegerenxingwei，biru，“niqiwodemotuobayoukuaiyongjinle。”zhixushugerenxingweizishen，bingfeichizegerenxingweidebeigaofang。ershichenshuzishenduijianghuidebuliangyingxiangdetihui，biru“wohenfahuo”。sanshichenshubuliangyingxiang，biru“youyuwubiqujiyou，zaochenshangxiabanjianghuihuiwandao”。wodexinxidegoutongmoshiyixia：“dang……wojuede……youyu……”neiyang，tashuodeshishishigui，duishibuduiren，lingyifangjiaoweibijiaoguanxin。shuo“hunyinshenghuojiushishuoganqingdemuzang”，dadishimeiyouganwudaojingyinghunyindefangfa，zaihunhoushenghuozhongzaoshoulenantimeiyoufeichanghaodeshutongchuli。

 jiaruwuxuzheiyifangshi，neiyangshuodehuashijixiaoguojiubutaihao：“zheigerenruheneiyang？qisiwole。niyebuqingchubayoujiaru。”yi“ni”weidatou，jiufeichangrongyibianweichize，nongbuhaorutongxinwenbaodaofuqichaojiajializhehuohefuqichaojiatongshitiaoheneibanbukeshoushi。

四、再多体会，少说了解

 xuduorentongchangzishende“juede”zaoyifamale，zaiyingduidaodifuqichaojiagaizenmebanzheiyinantishi，xujizaiduoshuozishendetihui，jiushishuochangchangzhishuojiushishuozishende“niantou”。zaichaojiadequanguochengzhong，jiarutashuonizishendetihui，ru“wojuedenineimelejiewowoyoudianerbiequ”，neimalingyifanghaowuyiwenxianggaoqingchuweihebiequ，tahuitingxiangqushuo。shuonidetihui，suihoujiashang“nikankanni”zheileizhengqiudekouqizhong，nenggourangrenjuededafugan，denghoulingyifangdedafu，jilingyifangbianbodejiyu。

 youyuchaojiademudijiushishuoyaohuiyingnanti。nantihuiyingyihou，jiugaitanxunruheban，xianghuqidairuhe，suihoushishi。chaolejiuyingdangyougejieguo，bukeyichaogehulihutujia。lianggerenfenbiefahuonaizhilengbaolihaojiri，douhuiliuyouheiyingde。zailengbaolidequanguochengzhong，lianggerendexintailijingzhenzhuo，jianghuigengbijiaoyanzhong，shichaojiashengji。