不是败给出轨而是这三件事！男人拖着不离婚对策有那些？

nanrentuozhebulihunduice，tangruoyigenvrenduinishuo，wanhunshiernian，lihunhoudeganyan，jikuatahunyinshenghuodedaohuoxianjibingbushiwaiyu，yebushihuiji，jinjinquanzidongxiyijiliyiduibuxidezangyifu，laopolihunwuxiao，nijianxinma?

zaidajiaxueshengdeshilili，qianshedaoliyideshijishanghenshao，danzheigegushiwotexianghedahuoergongxiang。

xiaozhao(biming)shiyijiaguwengongsidezhonggaoceng，tadezhangfuzhangcheng(biming)shiguojiagongwuyuan，xinshuisuibugaokeshixingqingshifenrouhe，meiyouyiqiebuliangxiguan，lianggerenjiehunhoutingxingfukuailede。

kezidaxiaozhaojinshengbianmang，zaijiashanghaizichusheng，shierzhujianchanshengbianhua。

xiaozhaopobudeyicongchuruzhichangnuochufeichangdahuolizhaoliaoxiaohai，zhangchengqueyiranbaochizheshenghaiziyiqiandeshenghuofangshi，xialebanrengjiuqujianshenhuisuo，chiguofanwangshafashangyizuokandianshiju，xiaozhaohoulehaojishengcaixinbuganbukenqushuawan，youshixiaohaidebingdoudetaxiujiadaidaoyiyuan。

lihunhoudeganyan，neiyiduanshijianxiaozhaoyijingjingtouxinxiangmu，mangdaoniaoniaoyinshuidoumeikong，huijialezhufanxichuangdandaiwa，mangwanzaicijiabanjiadian，xiaozhaodoubuqingchuzishenshizenmetinghuilaide。

zhizhijingtouwandeneiyitianhuijiale，zuozhezuobianqishangdetajiandaoquanzidongxiyijimanmandeyiduizangyifu，bengkuile，mingquetichuleliyi。

jiarunijuedezheishiyigeqichuqizidexiaogushi，neimejiuxiangbudui。

meiduojiu，xiaozhaoyourouguaduan，buxianglihunle，laopolihunwuxiao，jieguozhangchengbutongyile，jianchilihunle。

daozhangchengyibaliubitiyibaleichanshizhehunyinshenghuodebiequ，congzhangchengzuizhongwotingdaolelingyigegushidebanbenhao：

qizizidajinshengzhihourutongfashengbianhuabenren，zhigaoqiyang，zhushikanzhangchengbukanbuguan，wuyuanwugubianshuo“zhangcheng，nikannineifubu，youniganqushile!”

zhangchengbeicijixingquyundongjianshen，qiziyoubujianrong，shuotabubangzhudaiwa，youfengcitajiranneimexian，weihehenshaoxiangyixiangweijiazhongzhuanqian，yitiandaowanbianshixiangruhetaoqian。

zhangchengshuotarujinyayigandeyaodefengzi，huidaojiayijuhuadoubukenduojiang。

wozishizhizhonghaijidezhangchengduixiaozhaoshuodezheijuhua：“nibianle，niyijianshiduizheiyijia，zaiyebuwenroule。”

qinggandeshiera，shizhongbushiyigerendenanti，shiliangrendeshi。

yihandeshi，richangshenghuoliyeyouzhechengqianshangwanxiangxiaozhaozhangchengyiyangdehunyinshenghuo，liangrenningbazhe，jiangjiuyixia，sunhaozhe。

难题究竟出在哪呢?

shijishangzaihunyinguanxilibian，shiyouyigekanbudaode“ganqingzhanghu”de。

“ganqingzhanghu”dedingyibingbuxinxian，xiangcaiyongkangbianshuoguo：

“renherenzhijianshiyouyigeganqingzhanghude，meiyiciranglingyifanggaoxing，chuxujiuduoyidian，ermeiyiciranglingyifangshangxin，chuxujiushaoyixie。bubiyiweidicongzhizhongtiling，jiaozongdiganjuenideqianshizhongfangzongbuwan，bingbushide，chuxubianweilingdeqingkuangxia，bianshilingyifanglikaizhihou。”

nanrentuozhebulihunduice，hunyinguanxigengshiruci，liangrenjiaowangshijianyuezhang，jiuyuenanyishidaoyigenanti：dajiadeganqingzhanghubujingyijianzaoyifukuisunle，youyudajiadouzhizhuanchu，zaiyebuwanglicunkuanle。