老婆出轨怎么办？小伙伴们都劝我离异，我该怎么做

 huaiyilaopoyouwaiyu zenmeban?jinanshengdejidiantiyi：laopochuguileshiqingbuguangezainajiananshengshoushangdouhaowuyiwenshi1gezhongbangzhadan，yexumeiyinanshengdefanyingbuyiyang，danqizichuguizheijianshiqingjinanshengchanshengdexintaizhuangtaichongjixingshiyiyangcunyoude。

 zuoweinansheng，zuidanxindemoguobeidailvmao，danruozheizhongshiqingqueshichanshengle，yezhiyouquyingduita。dajiayiqilaikanyixiaxintaizhuanjiayouguanxifuchuguilezenmebandechudemouxietiyi。huaiyilaopoyouwaiyuzenmeban?

 qizichugui1nianle，wobujiufajue。wohelaopowanhun3nian，youyugongzuozhongguanlian，woshizhonggongchuchuwai。jiuzaiqianjiriwofaxianqizichuguideshier，wohenfahuo，keshinianjixiaohai，wobuxianglihun，lingyigewoduitayeyeyouqinggan。nizhidaomazishenzheiliangniangongchuchuwaicuxindayileta，danshitayebukeyizuoneiyangbaoqianwodeshiera!

 rujinxifuyebuxianglihun，keshixintaimeishenmegaijin，woneixinmeibanfajiena。meiyicixiangqitaheneigerenyiqideqingjing，neixinjiuganjueexinxiangtu。shenpangdepengyouqinrenwangzheworijianxiaoshoudouquanwoliyi，woneixinhenfenqi，buqingchuxubuxuyaoheqiziliyi?

 zuoweinansheng，jianghuizuihaipadezuidanxindejiushishuozishendenvxingweizijidai“dailvmao”le。zheileiqianyishizhongdejihuihehaipa，haoxiangshenzhizaimeinanrendeneixin。laopochuguizenmeban?yingbuyinggaihelaopoliyi，tarenruhejuedebuguanjian，guanjiandejiushinizishendetihuihehengliang。

jinanshengjidiantiyi，qinghengliangyixiaxia：

首位，考虑到自身的心里可否均衡

 zaizuofufuzixundegelizhong，tongchangcunyouneiyang1geguilvxing。jiarubicimeiyou“yuanzexingdenanti”，tongchanghuimoheqihao、xiubuhao。erjiarulingyifangchuxianle“yuanzexingdenanti”zezheixiehunyinshenghuojiangzaoyuyanjunkaoyan。waiyuhehunhouchugui，xianeryijianshi“yuanzexingdenanti”。

 youyu，qiziwaiyuzheizhongshiqing，duobanhuidaozhilaogongxinlijidadebupinghengli。jiurujingdiangushizhongnanzhurenwengxinlidejidabiequ、yuanqidengbupinghengli。jiaruyuanyihunyinshenghuojianchixiaqu，neimabixushiyaokeyijunhengxinlizheileitongchuhebupinghengli。

 jiarujunhengbushang，neimazhihouzaiyishizhuxingheyingduixianghushi，bicideguanlianjiuhuichuzaizheizhongshidiaozhong，wufazhangqifazhanqushi。youshi，yushijingzishuaihuailejiuqueshisuilewufazaihaiyuan。fuqizhijianyongyouhunhouchuguihuowaiyuhoudesunhaitongchangjiushishuozheiban。

其次，刚开始自我反省

 “wenchongbudingwufengpinjiededan”huacaolibucao。bixuqixiandajiadehunyinshenghuochuxianlenanti，suihoucaihuishihunyinshenghuozhongdezijixunzhaohunneichuguijiyu。yinci，qidaipengdaoxifuchuguinanrenkeyijingxialaixiangxiang，zishenzaihunyinshenghuozhongshifouhaozhangshijianhushilelaopodetihui，huoshijinjinyixindeyizhaozishendejuedequaita，danzishenjidebingfeilaoposuoyuanyide。

 neiyangxiangxiang，jianghuihuijiangdimouxieduiwaiyulaopodenaonuheyuanqi。laopochuguizenmeban?yiqiyehuiranglaopoganjuelaogongkeyiduitayixielejie，duixiubuliangrendeqingganshiyouxiezhude。

最后，再次思考大家中间的情感

 congzuoyoujingdiangushizhong，renmenkeyitihuidaodeshilaogongxinliduilaoposhenshendideai。jiusuantazuochuneiyangdesunhailaogongdeshier，laogongyiranyuanyizaici。shubuzhilaoposhibushiyetongyangdeailaogongshizuigaisisuode。

 jingdiangushijirendejuedeshi，laogongailaopobilaopoailaogongyaoduoyidian，huoshiduoyixie。laogongbixusisuoyixiaxiazishenjiyutadeai，queshishitasuobixudeaima?yaobushi，niyebixuchenxialaixinyongxindelaixiangxiang，niliangshibushiqueshiheshiyiqi。

最后，看老婆对婚姻生活是不是有确立的心态

 yaowoduizuoyouhunyinshenghuobukailangdeshiqiziwaiyuzaibeifajuehoudexintai，tadexintaimeiyouxianzhudegaijin。yaowozaiyixietichuzhiyitashibushihaiaizhezishendelaogong，yetichuzhiyitakandairujinhunyinshenghuodexintai。

 huoxuliangrenbixuwanquandehaohaoditantan。laogongruxiangzaicihunyinshenghuo，zuixianyaojiandaolaopoduihunyinshenghuozhihoude1gequelidexintai，tadexinshibushiyiranzaizheiyihunyinshenghuozhong?huozuishaoxiangyaozaicifanhuizheiyihunyinshenghuozhong?zheihenguanjian。buran，laogongdekuanrongjinjinweizijizaicipengshangdejiyubale。

 zongjie ：nanrenxiangyaokuanrongzishenqizichugui，bixushizheiyinanshengshenshenaizhezheiyinvxing。keshizhiyouyigerendeaiqingshibunengweichihunyinshenghuode，yinciaiyoushihouyehuichanshengsunhai，qingnanshengmenshensishulvkaoliangshangbianjidian，suihouweilenidehunyinshenghuozuochuzishendejuece。