zenmewanhuikuaijieshudehunyin,hunyinshenghuo,shilianggerengongtongzhidemeilimengxiang。danshi,dangxinlaidezhongyaoqiantichuxianliehen,zheiduanganqingbianhenyoukenengxianrukunjing。yingduizhangfudelengmo、shengshu,naizhiwaiyu,henduolaopogandaowulihemimang。zuoweiyimingwanhuiaiqingleiyunyinggongzhonghaozhe,wohenqingchuzhongjianxinrenjuefeiyishi,danshitongguoshentilixinghezhenchenggoutongjiaoliu,zheiduanganqingyirancunzaixiufuhenyoukeneng。xiamianwomenjiufenxiangyixiehaoyongjiqiao,bangzhuzijizhujianfujianfufuxinlai,rangzhangfuzhongxinaishangni。
一、接受现实:认可问题的存在

zaihunyinwentizhong,foudingwentidecunzaishizuichangjiandecuowu。henduolaopohuixuanzechenmohuohulvenanti,qidaishizhangnengjiejuewenti。danshi,zheizhongxingweifanerhuirangliefengyeyuelaiyueda。zhongjianxinrendediyibushijieshouxianshi,renkewentidecunzai。
1. ziwofansheng:wentichuzainali?
zaizuochurenhexingweiyiqian,womenxuyaopingjingxialai,kaizhanshenkeziwofansheng。wenziji:
liangrendeguanxishicongshenmeshihoukaishichuwentide?
wozaihunyinshenghuozhongbanyanzheshenmeyangdejiaose?
zijishifouhushilezhangfudeyaoqiuhetihui?
zijishifouzaihenduofangmianzuodebugouhao?
genjuziwofansheng,ninenggengmingxiankandaowentidebenzhi。zheibujinyouliyunilijiezhangfudetihui,yekeyiweihouxudegoutongyuxingweidaxiajichu。
2. mianduixianshi:buyaoqingyibingqiguoqu

wulunguoqufashengshenmeshi,douyigaibianbule。mianduixianshishizhongjianxinrendezhongyaoyibu。womenxuyaoxuehuifangqicongqiandezenghenhebuman,zhuanzhudangxiayuweilai。rutongzhumingqingganzixunshi、zhongyuanchuangshirenkangnachangshuo:“heairenshencengcijiaoliushi,jiangwentideyuantouyinzaizijishenshang,nengrangduifangkanjiannidechengzhi,ganjuedoushiwodecuo,ranhouzaiyinchulaizhuyaoxiangtaolundeduifangnanti。zhenchengshilihaidewuqi。”
二、真诚沟通交流:敞开心扉,复建联接
hezuoshizhongjianxinrendeguanjiansuozai。zaihunyinwentizhong,henduofuqizhijiandegoutongdefangshizaoyizusai,shenzhiwanquanzhongduan。ruoxiangxiufuguanxi,nixuzhongxinchangkaixinfei,yuzhangfukaizhanzhenchengdejiaoliu。
1. tiaoxuanheshideshijianhedizhi
goutongjiaoliudeshijixiaoguozaihendachengdushangqujueyushijihedizhi。tiaoxuanyigeanjing、lianghaodehuanjing,baozhengbicidouyouzugoudeshijianjinglikaizhanshenrujiaoliu。quebaozaiqingxuguojihuoleideshihoukaizhanguanjianjiaotan,youyuzheikenenghuidaozhichongtushengji。
2. biaodaganshou,erfeichize
zaigoutongzhong,biaodaganshoubihuxiangzhizegengweiyouxiao。biru,yekeyishuo:“wohaipaguduhebeihulve,youyuzuijinwomenzhijiandegoutongyuelaiyuedi。”erbingbushi:“nicongbuzhaoguwo,yizhimangzijideshi。”
genjubiaodaganshou,nirangzhangfuzhangwonideneixinshijie,erfeirangrengandaoshoudaogongji。zheizhongfangfagengrongyiyinfagongminghelejie。

3. lingtinglingyifangdeshengxiang
goutongjiaoliushishuangxiangde,budanyaobiaodazijideganshou,haixuyaolingtinglingyifangdeshengxiang。zaijiaotanzhong,jiyuzhangfuchongfendeshijianbiaoshutadeganshouhexiangfa。bubidaduanta,yebuyaojizhebianbo。naixinqingting,shizhelijietadeguandianhetihui。
4. yingyongkangnadelichang:zhenchengshilihaidewuqi
zaigoutongzhong,yingyongkangnadelichangzhiguanzhongyao。ruguoniyuzhangfushencengcijiaoliushi,nenggouchangshibanantideyuantouyinzaizijishenshang。biru,yekeyishuo:“wocaiyishidaowozaihenduofangmianzuodebugouhao,henyoukenengrangniganjuedaobushouzhongshi。”yongzheizhongfangshi,nirangzhangfukanjiannidechengzhihechengxin。
suihou,ninengyinchulaizhuyaoxiangtaolundeduifangnanti。biru:“danjiushijuedebicizhijianyoudewentiyaojiejue,liruwomenzuijindejiaoliuyuelaiyuedi。”zheizhongxingweibudannengjiejueduifangfangyuxinli,haikeyiweixiayibutantaochuangzaoyigelianghaodeqifen。
三、身体力行:重建信任的重要前提
hezuoshizhongjianxinrendezhongyaoyibu,danzhiyougoutongjiaoliuhaiyuanyuanbugou。shentilixingyiyangyouweizhongyao。tongguoyixieshijixingdong,nikeyizhubufujianzhangfuduinidexinren。
1. duixiannuoyan:yanxingyizhi
xinlaidechuangjianlibulechengnuoheduifu。bulunshizairichangrichangshenghuohaishijiweizhongyaodejueceshang,yidingyaozuodaoyanxingyizhi。niyaoshibumingquenengbunengduifumouyifuwuchengnuo,jinliangbuyaosuibianzuochu。duixiannuoyanshigoujianxinrendeqianti。
2. jiyushineikongjian:zunzhongduifangdezijuexing
zaihunyinshenghuozhong,jiduifangzugoudeshijianhezijuexingshihenzhongyaode。buyaoqingyicaozonghuodiaozhenglingyifang,zhongshitadegerenshenghuoyugerenaihao。genjujiyushineikongjian,nirangzhangfukanjianniderentonghezhongshi,zheiyouzhuyuzengqiangdajiadelianjie。
3. gongtonghuodong:zaojiunanwangdehuiyi
zenmewanhuikuaijieshudehunyin,gongtonghuodongshizengjinfuqiganqingdeyouxiaofangshi。anpaiyixienimenyeyouxingqudezhutihuodong,rulvyou、jianshenyundong、kandianshijudeng。genjuzheiyangdehuodong,dajiakeyidailaigengduonanwangdehuiyi,tigaobicizhijiandeqinmigan。
4. xunqiuzhuanyexiezhu:buyaodanxinxunqiubangzhu
jiarunimendeguanxiliefengbijiaoda,jinjinyikaozishenliliangkenengnanyixiubu。zaizheiyangdeqingkuangxia,xunqiuzhuanyexiezhushiyigezhengquedexuanze。zhongyuanhunyinzixunshinenggoutigongzhuanyedejianyiheyindao,bangzhunimengenghaodijiejuenanti。
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