ganqingbuhaozenmewanhuihunyinni,ganqingpolie,sihushiyisouyiqianlaogudechuan,xianzaiquezaibaofengyuzhongmishilefangxiangheyongqi。danjibianshimianlinjietideguanlian,zhixulianggerendouxiangyaoqinfen,dounengzhaodaoshiqiqingyi、xiubuliefengdefangfa。neiyang,zenmewanhuibingtiwenpoliedefuqiguanxini?dajiabufangcongjigedudaodeyanguanglaitansuozheiyiwenti。
1. 从“彼此之间要求”考虑:重学喜欢对方的表达

youxieshihou,fuqiguanxideliekailaiyuanyubiciwufazhunquelijiebingmanzubicizhijiandexuyao。meiyigerenyuyanheganshouaifangshibutong,ruowufalejieduifangde“aiqingyuyan”,wangwanghuizaiwuyijiandaozhiwujieheshengshu。
yekeyicongzheiyijiaoduchufa,zhongxuebingtansuoduifangdexuqiu。shiguanai、shouhou,huoshizhichiguli?tongguozhijiedejiaoliuhuoguancha,lejiebicizuikewangcongwozheierdedaodeshishenme。aibushidanfangmianjiyu,fanershilejieduifangdexuqiuhou,zuochuyoumudexingdexingwei。zhongxueduifang“aiqingyuyan”,budannenglajinbicijianju,haihuirangduifangtihuidaobeirenlijiehezhongshi。
2. 发散思维:寻找彼此之间的“相互依存权益”
dangganqingpolieshi,bufangcong“xianghuyicunquanyi”deshijiaozhongxinshenshinimenzhijiandeguanxi。aiqingjinguanchuangjianxiangaiyishang,danshizhangqidehunyinshenghuohaiyaogongtongmubiaoyuliyizuozhicheng。
dajiakeyizuoxiatantaobicizhijiandegongtongdemubiao,liruhaizichengzhang、weilaishenghuozhengtiguihua,huoshilianggerengongtongdemengxiang。genjutaolunzheizhong“xianghuyicunquanyi”,dajiayehuifaxian,xianghuzhijianrengranyouhenduoguanjianlianjieyuhezuokongjian。zheileihezuohuobanguanxibujinkeyirangdajiazhongxinzhaodaogongchudeshijiyiyi,haikeyizaigongtongdenulizhongzaiciyinranaiqinghuohua。
3. 以“第三者角度”重构爱情:假设一个中立的观测者
youshi,qingganshangdeenyuanlingrenshenxianqizhongbunengziba。zheishihou,changshicong“disanzhe”deshijiaolaikandainimenzhijiandeguanxi,kenengdailaiyigexindedongxi。
jiadingzijishiyigejuwairen,guanchadajiazhijiandegoutong。zheiyi“disanzhe”yehuifaxianyixiedajiapingchanghushidexiaoxijie,lirugoutongjiaoliuzhongdeyixiefangshi、fanfuchuxiandezhenglundian,naizhibicizhijiandewuyishixingwei。tongguogezhong“waizaimeijiaodu”,dajiakenengjiandaoganqingzhongde“mangqu”,congerxunzhaogenggaoxiaodeduice。
4. 重温过去的美好记忆:让记忆变成爱情的窗口

hunyinshenghuolaidaopoliedebianyan,changchanghuibeixiaojideqingxuzhegai,danbiewangji,dajiacengjingyouguohenduomeihaodeshike。zheixiechongmanaiyidejiyiliyiranzainimendexinli,jiushibeizanshixingdezhengchaoheyihanzhegaile。
womenkeyitongguozhuiyizheizhongnanwangdehuiyi,gouqilingyifangxinlidewenrou。fanyuelaozhaopian、zhongzoudajiayiqianzuixiaidelujing,huoshiyiqifanhuidiyiciyuehuidedidian。rangzheixiejiyibianchengyizuoqiaoliang,bangzhunimencongguoqudexingfuzhongjiqujingshenliliang,jianlixindebicizhijianderentongheyikao。
5. 从“个人发展”下手:先修补自身,再修复关系
aiqingdeliekaiyebansuizhegeshentineidepijuanmitu。yaoxiufuguanxi,zuixiankeyirangzijizhongxinzhaodaopinghenghenengliang。zaihunyinlideyiqiegenggai,douyingconggerenzhujian。yekeyichangshigenjugerentishenglaiwanhuihunyin。
ganqingbuhaozenmewanhuihunyinni,biru,womenkeyitongguoxuexipeixunxindejineng、fazhanxingquaihao、canyuxinlifudao,laitigaozijideqingxuguanlinenglihegoutongdejiqiao。ruguoniyiyigegengjiachengshu、gengjiazixinzitaiyingduihunyinshenghuoshi,duifangnenggouganshoudaozheixiebianhua,qiebeinidezhengnengliangganqi。nimenzhijiandeguanxizaibuzhibujuezhongjiuhenyoukenengdedaoxiufuhetiwen。
6. 提升日常惯性力:生产制造神秘感
zhangjiudehunyinrichangshenghuohuixianruguanxinghejiandan,danzheixierichangde“pijuan”kenengzhengshihunyinpoliedemiaochuang。yaowanhuiaiqing,nengtongguodapoguanxingli,zaiciyinjinxinxianganheshengmingli。
dajiakeyichangshiyixiecongmeizuoguodeshiqing,liruyiqixuexixindexingquaihao、fanganyiciyixiangbudaodelvyou,huozairichangrichangshenghuoyinjinyixieyouqudexiaodianli。zheileidapochenguidejudong,nenggouweinimendehunyinzhuruxinxianyuansu,nengrangduifangzhongxinduizheiduanganqingganxingquyuqidai。
7. 依靠第三方力量:寻找婚姻咨询或家庭调解

dangfuqiguanxifashengposunshi,xunqiuzhuanyexiezhubushiweiyizhongyouxiaodebanfa。hunyinzixunshijijiatingrenmindiaojieyuannenggoutigongzhuanyedezhidao,bangzhunimenxunzhaoganqingzhongdenanti,tongshitigonghaoyongjiejuefangan。
genjuhunyinzixun,dajiakeyizaiyigeanquanxing、duiwaikaifangdehuanjingli,tanchengdibiaoshufenbiedetiyanyuxuqiu。zaizhuanyerenshidezhiyinxia,nimennenggougengmingxiankandaobicizhijiandeyoushihebuzu,congergenghaodixiufufujianaiqing。
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