大丈夫能屈能伸

 “dazhangfunengqunengshen”chuzi《zhouyi·xicixia》:“chihuozhiqu，yiqiuxinye；longshezhizhe，yicunshenye。” chihuoshiyizhongedeyouchong，yangziyoudianxiangcan,tabashenzibuduanwanchenggongxingzaifangzhi，rucifanfu，suoyitacaideyiqianxing。

 dazhangfunengqunengshen，renzaishishangyaoxiangganchuyifanshiye，zexuzheizhong“qushen”dejingshen。qu，bingbushishibaihoudetuisangzibeiheqienuo；shen，yebingfeigongchengminglihoudeaomanzifu，muzhongwuren。zheishibirangfengmang、daijierfadeqianrenzhihui，shishenzhengwuwei、leguanzixindexintai。weirenyingruci，chushiyirushi。

一、能屈，是一种谦和容忍

 qu，bingbushiyizhongzibeihetuisangdezitai。zaishunjingshibaochi“qu”，shiyizhongdidiaoyuqianxu；zainijingshi“qu”，zeshiyizhongrennaiyubaoquan。

 jingjudashimeilanfangcengjingzaiyanchujingju《shaxi》shi，zaizhongduohecaijiaohaoshengzhong，tatingdaoyougelaonianguanzhongshuo“buhao”。meilanfanglaibujixiezhuanggengyijiuyongzhuanchebazheiweilaorenjiedaojiazhong，gonggongjingjingdiduilaorenshuo：“shuowobuhaoderen，shiwodelaoshi。xianshengshuowobuhao，biyougaojian，dingqingcijiao，xueshengjuexinwangyangbulao。”suihoumeilanfangfushenjugongxuxinqiujiao。

 laorenzhichu：“yanxijiaoshanglouhexialoudetaibu，anliyuanguiding，yingshishangqixiaba，boshiweihebashangbaxia？”meilanfanghuangrandawu，lianshengchengxie。congcizhihou，meilanfangjingchangqingzheiweilaoxianshengguankantayanxi，bingqingtazhizheng，chengtawei“laoshi”。

 zheishimeilanfangdashide“qu”，shiyizhongqianxudebiaoxian，wulunzijiqudeduodachengjiu，zaoyiyouduogao，tayebuhuizhigaoqiang，shengqilingren，fanerduirengengshigongjingheai。dazhangfunengqunengshen。

 yuewanggoujianwoxinchangdanyeshi“qu”，zuizhongxielingsanqianyuejiaqitunqiangwu，yijuchengweichunqiubazhu！hanxinshoudaodekuaxiazhiruyeshi“qu”，dangtapufuxiadi，zaizhongmukuikuizhixiacongeshaokuaxiazuanguodeneiyike，tasuorenshoudeshiyibanrensuobunengrenshoudexiuru，yinciyezaizuihoudedaoleyibanrendebudaoderongguang！

 congyishangkanlai，“qu”bushiqienuozibei，ershijinnengxuhuairuogu、tuinengrenrufuzhong，ernenggouzuodaocibandechongrubujing，neimeyouhechoudashiwuwei。

二、能伸，是一种身正无畏

 dangyigerenshikebaochishenzhiyaoban、shenzhengwuweidezitaishi，tabingbushizhigaoqiang，muzhongwuren。gengduodeshishiyizhongzuohuaibuluan，nengqunengshenzhe，shiyizhongzizunzixindeleguanxintai。

 《yanzichunqiu》lijizailezheiyangyizequshi：yanzibeipaiqiandaochuguo。churenzhidaoyanzishencaiaixiao，zaidamendepangbiankaiyigexiaodongqingyanzijinqu。yanzibujinqu，shuo：“chushidaogouguoderenconggoudongjinqu，jintianwochushidaochuguolai，buyinggaicongzheigedongjinqu。”yushiyanzibianangshoukuobucongdamenjinqu。

 hourenwubuchengzanyanzisuijiyingbiandezhihui，tongshiyeweitaburuzizundeqijieerzantan。zaixianshishehuidejiaowangchushizhong，guoyuweiweisuosuonanmianbeirenqiaobuqi。zijizixin，bierencaihuiduiniyouxinxin。nengqunengshenzhe，libaide“tianshengwocaibiyouyong”， sushide“yisuoyanyurenpingsheng” ，jieshiruci，nengshencainenghuochushengmingdejizhijingcai。

 “qu”，bushiwuyuanzedeyinghebieren，gengbushibabajiejie，ershiyizhonglianglierxingdenuli，shiyizhongqianxushoujiaohoudefansheng。“shen”，bushimuzhongwuren，gengbushideyiwangxing，ershiyizhongweihuzizunhemanhuaixinxindemingzhizhiju。

 wulunchuyushenmefuzadehuanjingzhong，douyaoshikejinji“dazhangfunengqunengshen”，nengqunengshenzhewulunduomededeshihuozheshiyi，douyaohaohaoxuehuizhei“qushen”zhongdeweirenchushizhidao，chongrubujing，xiangxinyiqieruyiyuanhaodouhuixuxudaolai。