花镇情感咨询 被骗，如何柏拉图式拥抱？

 xiangyongyiweinanshideqiadangfangfashisha，huazhenqingganzixun beipian，zaiyuniliangshishaguanlian，jiqiniyaoxiangchuandishayisi。yingduinanshiqinpenghaoyouhuoshinanxingpengyou，niyinggaiyongsuibian、bolatushidexiangyong。yingduiniqingxinhuoshilianaidenanshi，nixuyaoyigegengqinmiwujiandexiangyong。

1、掌握你相拥的人。

 xiangyongyigenanshiqinpenghaoyouhexiangyongnanxingpengyoudefangfashibuyiyangde。yibanlaijiang，jiarunibaojinnidejiatingzhuyaochengyuan，ninengbaodejiuyidianerqiegenggerenhuayidian，danjiaruzheiyiqinpenghaoyoujiushinidejiarenbingfeixueqin，zuihaoshihuanshirangxiangyongsuibianxie。

2、不必生产制造焦虑不安氛围。

 yangeyiyishanglaishuo，yunanshilaiyigebolatushidexiangyongyingdangshifensuibian。bubizuoyiqiehuijizheiyinanshibuzhengquelejiedezishi，lirufumotadeshoubeihuoshidingzhutadeshuangyan。xiangyongyinggaishiduanzanxingershunshisudude。xiangyongdeyuezhang，yuefeichangrongyitishengdajiazhongjiandejiaolvbuanfenweihetadeqidai——jiarutashiyigebuxianggandenanshi。

 •jibian shijiatingzhuyaochengyuanzhongjian，niyeyingdangfangzhishengchanzhizaojiaolvbuanfenwei。niyexuburongyidianranhuomiao，keshihuishizhuangkuanggengweidenankanernanshou。ninengjiexiangyonglipindetupokoukuaisuxiangyongyixia，huoshiyanchidaonijuededangrandeqingkuangxiazaixiangyong。

3、试着先以一个更随便的姿势来为相拥做铺垫。

 ninenggenjuyigezishigoujianniliangzhongjiansuibian、youshandeqifen，chuandiyizhongqingqingsongsong、youhaodeqinggan。ninengzaiyutaxiangyongqianliangzhezhijianshuangkuaipaizhang，huoshizaiaijinbingxiangyongtayiqianqingqingdizhuangtayixiahuoyongwoquanchuitadejian。zheizhongzishiyibanbingbunuanwei;fanguolai，tamenhenbuxuanbuqieyibanshinanshizhongjiancaiyongdegerenxingwei。huazhenqingganzixun beipian，xuanyongzheizhongzishikeyijinikanqilaishi“nanshizhongdeyifenzi”，neiyangniyejiuquelilebolatushixiangyongdezhuxuanlv。

4、将你的手臂围绕他的颈部或是就放到肩膀下列。

 nishoubeidebuweizaiyuzhuduodeyaosu。ruguoshiyizhonglaorenguanlianhuozhenihenyoushandanjuebunuanweideren，ninengjiangnideshoubeiweiraotadejingbu。shubuzhi，tashiyizhonghengerenhuadefangfa，youyuneiyanghuirangnideliangengaijinta，rangnideaiqiahaozaitadexindeweizhi。ruoshiyigeyuanfangqinqi，yibanpengyou，huoshibiedenibutailejiedeyixingpengyou，xiangyongshijiangshoufangdaotajianbangzhengxiafangyidianhuigengshufu。

 •niyenenggouzaixiangyongshishuangshouyishangyixia。yishouzaijianbuzhishangyishouzaijianbuzhengxiafanglaixiangyong。zheiyizitaiyixieyudun，youyunibukeyiyizhikuaisulejieyingdangnayigeshoufangrunayigeshouzaixia，danzheishiyigehensatuodexiangyong，erqiegengheshiyibanpengyouheyimianzhijiao。

 •cewoxiangyonghuoshishangbanshenxiangyongshilingyigekexuanjihuafangan。cewoxiangyongshiyongyigeshoubeiweiraozheiyinanshidejianbu，rangliangrendebuweibingliehuoshibingjian。yibanshinanhaiziduinvshineimezuo，danjiarunihezheiyinanshiyiyanggaohuoshinigaoxie，niyenenggouneiyangxiangyong。shangbanshenxiangyongjiushizhiyongyigeshoubeiweiraonanshidejingbuhuoshifangdaojianbang，lingwailingyizhishoudangranxuehuifangxia。zheihecewoxiangyongchanshengdejuedeleisi，danzheiduixiaogezinvxinglaijianggengqiangshijicaozuo。

5、让相拥简洁明了干脆利落。

 jinanshichuandicuowubaogaodegengkuaidefangfa，bianshizaitadehuailizhongliuliantaijiu。nimeiqidaixiangdichutadechupengyiyangcongtahuaizhongmengdibaituo，keshizaihuaizhongdaihenjiuhuichuansongjitamenyizhongniyaoxiangdaliangdexinxineirong。xiangyongdeyuejiu，jiuyueqinmiwujian。jiaruniyaoxiangweichibolatushideguanlian，tigaodajiaerrenzhongjiandeqinmiwujianshiyigehuaizhuyi。

6、留意你的身体语言。

 fangzhiguoduoxiangtaqingkao。bubirangnideshouhuoshoubeisichuxingzou。bubihetaliangtuipanraoerqiebubikaoxiangta。huanjuhuashuoyaochupengdeqingqian。biededaliangdegerenxingweihuianshizhejinidaliangdechongdong。

7、适度的中断。

 dangdajiafenkaideshihou，dangranhoutuibingquhuiliangshouxuehuifangxia。bubirangnideshouliulianyutadejianbuhuoshixiongkou，yebubijinjudingzhutadeshuangyankan。houtuiyiliangburangniliangkongchuyigeshufudejianju。

8、之上标准也是有除外。