挽回老公感情

　　wanhuilaogongganqing，hunyinjiushiliangyigerendechengzhanglvtu，nanmianhuichuxianfengchuiyuda。dangguanlianchuxianliehenshi，kexuefangfabimangmugenfengqinfengengweizhongyao。ronghehunyinxinlixueyanjiuyushijiangongzuojingyan，xialieqigeduicenenggoubangzhufufuzhongjianxinren、zhongxindianranaidehuoyan。

　　一、创建「爱情地图」：从了解到了了解

　　hunyindejichushibicirenzhinengli。luobote・getemandeyanjiubiaoming，xingfufuqibicizhijiandeshenghuoxijieleranyuxiong，zheilei「aiqingditu」keyizengqiangqingganlianjie。changshimeixingqihua 30 mingongxiang：

　　shenghuozhongdexijie：airenjinqigongzuoshangdekaoyan、haoyoudeyouqudeshi;

　　jingshenxuqiu：yong「yuannineng……」juxingbiaoshuxiwang，bingfeichize;

　　chengzhangyutuibian：xunwenduifang「jinqiniduizijiyoushenmexinfajue?」

　　biru，laopokeyizheimeshuo：「wozhuyidaonijinqijiabanjiadianjingchang，shifouxinxiangmuyalifeichangda?bixuwolaibangnifentanshenmema?」zheileizhudonglejiehuirangduifangtihuidaobeiguanzhu，fujiangoutongqiaoliang。

　　二、储蓄练习：用「5:1 规律」滋润关联

　　getemanmingquetichu，hunyinlichengzanyuzeguaibilixuchaochu5:1 cainengbaochipingwen。richangjiaoliuzhong，duoyuedu「qingxuchuxu」：

　　shijizanyang：「nijintianzuodewanfanyouqirenzhen，wohengandong」bi「nizhenhao」gengyouliliang;

　　xiaojudongguanai：zaoshangweibicipaoyibeicha、linshuiqianqingqingdixiangyong;

　　jiluxingfu：yitongxie「xingfukuaileriji」，meirijiluyijianlingyifangshizijiganrendeshi。

　　zheileichixubuduandezhengmianfankuinengxiangdifenqizaochengdeshanghai，rangguanlianzhanghuzishizhizhongchongying。

　　三、非暴力沟通：把斥责转化成要求表述

　　jiatinglengbaolishihunyinshenghuodeyuanxiong。liaoningshengshengweijianweidelizibiaoming，yong「keguanshishi + tihui + yaoqiu」fangshigoutongjiaoliu，keyishixianghupeiheyixiangtigao 60%：

　　cuowuzuofa：「nizenmeyouwangjilejiesonghaizi?nidexinlidaodiyoushenmezheigejiating!」

　　qiadangbiaoshu：「jinrixueshengzaixuexiaodengdailesanshifenzhong，wohendanxin。xiayicinengbunengtizaoshezhinaozhong?」

　　guanjianzaiyuyong「wokanjian……woshengan……xiwang……」dejuxing，fangzhigongjibierenrengetezhi，zhiliyuchuliwenti。

　　四、化解冲突：从对战到合作

　　maodunshihunyinshenghuodepulushi。huangweirenyishengzhuzhong，jiejuemaodunxuzunzhao「chuxuyouxian」biaozhun——xianjidianqingxuxinlai，zaijiagongmaodun：

　　zhongzhitizhi：dangqingxubengkuishi，chengnuo「womenxuyao 10 minlizhi」，fangzhijiangchushangxindehua;

　　lingtinglianxi：yifangqingtu 5 min，lingyifangzhuanshujutineirongzhizhilingyifangquedinglejie，zaijiaohuanjiaose;

　　gongtongdemubiao：jiang「shifeiduicuo」zhuanhuacheng「womenzenyangyiqijiejue」，biru：「cicizhengzhitixianchuduiyucaiwuyucechuxianfenqi，xiaxingqiyiqizhidingyusuanbiaogezenyang?」

　　五、造就一同实际意义：让婚姻变成发展共体

　　yibojiaoxuedexinlizixunanlishuoming，yiqichengzhangkeyiyouxiaodikangzhongnianhunyindezhiyejuandai：

　　shuipingxiangfuxiangchengxuexipeixun：yiqixuexisheying、pengzhihuocanyufuqigoutongyantaohui，zaihezuozhongzhaodaopeihemoqi;

　　shenduduihuatizhi：meiyueyici「wushoujidahui」，gongxiangrenshengdaoluqidaiyukunhuo;

　　huanjieshikaoyan：lieju「weiwancheng 10 jianshiqing」，rulusu、xuexipeixunxinyuyan，meigejiduwanchengyixiang。

　　yiqijinglixinshiwunengjihuoduobaandefenmi，ranqibicizhijianyanlideguanghui。

　　六、解决家庭关系：摆脱代际传递的方式

　　wanhuilaogongganqing，hunyinlidefenqitongchangtixianlezaonianjingli。biru，jiaolvxingrengezhehenyoukenengfanfubamadekongzhifangshi，erhuibixingyilianzhewangwanghuikaobeilengdanhuifu。genjuyixiabuzhoujiejue：

　　ziwolejie：jilumaodunshihoudexinlixianxiang，zhuishuoshibushiherenshengjinglixiangguan;

　　yiwufenlichulai：duizijishuo「lingyibanbingbushibabamama，wobuxuyaoyongjiufangshijiejue」;

　　yiqitansuo：fufuyiqiyuedu《muaidejiban》dengshuji，tantaojiatingguanxiduizijideyingxiang。

　　dangbiciyishidaole「nantimeiyouzailingyifang，danzaifangshi」shi，bijiaorongyixieshoubingjiangenggai。