恋爱理论，爱是不求占有的小心翼翼

 lianaimoheqiyoushenmeni？dajiadoulejieganqingdebiaodaxingshiyouqianwanzhongzhong，danhenduorendoubabijiaoyouxiandehuolihaofeizaituifanmengmeizhiyishang。aideqingkuangxiafenbugushen，shuideqingkuangxiamianchan，fenkaideshihouleiyanposuo，zuihoudanshizhonghuoleyuanxiaozhoubianruyuhouchunsundejiudiancanting，tigaolewoguodegdp。neimelianaineidianshiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanlianaimoheqidewenzhangba。

 huoxunishuoqiwotaiyongsule，zayizhangkoubianshuoshuimeizhi。danzongdelaishuo，putonggaozhongjizhiqiandajiadouhuiganqingyayiganzhongguolaile，tebieshizaixiangduledeputonggaozhong，shuobailedezhongdiangaozhong，buyaoshuochuduixiang，meigeyuedediyigezhouyiyelihaihuijixuchayannanshenghenvshengdexiufa、shouzhijiajiqishibushipeidaishipin。gengbuyaoshuonaxiexueshengtanlianaile!

 keqingchunnianhua，sheimeixiaiguoyigemeizhia!rutongkekebanban，sheimeimishangguoyigezhanan。jinjinwomencengjingbaaidouyanmaizailexinli，zhidaogaoxiaodeqingkuangxiajizhonghuabaofalebale。

keshi，yizhiyouchuwaide。

 jinguanrujinaidouyuelaiyuejianyilijile，kehuanshiyouneimayixie“chuantongshi”deren，baganqingzunweishenling，ganjueaishiyizhongxiuxinyangxing，shiwomenbianweiyigebuyiyangdezishendenengliang。

 dadeshigehaimanyouqideren，tazongganjuezishenheshenpangderenbeidaoerchi，lianaimoheqiyoushenmeni？queyouzaiqinfenheshenpangderenrongweiyiti。zheileirenduigudandejuedechuxianyichangxianzhu。tajingchangyigerenquyongcan，yigerenqushouke，yigerenqutushuguan，yigerenzaixiaoyuanlisansanbukancheshuimalong。

 zhihou，tacongpenyouneibiantingjianxinxishuo，youxierenganjuetayouqilengmei，nanyijiaowang。ta“a”dichayi，ganjuezishenshiduomedeqinfenzaiyurenjiaowanga。ruguonijigetangkuai，tajiukeyirangnixiaochuyiduohuaduolai。

tabianshineimeyigeren。zhizhitapengdaoleta。

 nilejie，mangmangrenhaizhong，yuchengqianshangwanrenqunzhongpengdaoyigeren，meiyouzaoyibudoumeiyouwanyibu，ninengjuededaonixuyaozhaodebianshineimayigeren。

暂且叫她Y吧。

 tashineileixiaoyuanneili，dajiadourengzaichuanhuazhizhaozhandefenxiyifukuzi，banhanriqingxinzirandeziranhuanjingli，jiuhuizaiwangshanggoumai“aka”deyifukuzichuandenvhaier。yixihuiheisedeyifukuzi，jiancai、secaidoukanqilaineimaguguai，hequanbuxuexiaohuanjingbeidaoerchi。tayoutazishendeqingdiao。

 taaichuanyijianhuiheisedeakadezhangxiulianyiqun，shenhouyoukongque，yongshengsuochuanchuzhongzhongdiediedeloukongdiaohua。kanshangquyouqixingganmiren。jiuyouyutadeyouqi，tajidadedeyinxiangshi，xiangyizhiheisedemaomiyiyang，chongmanlehunandelengmeiqichang。

tamenxiangyudefangfa，xiangjilequanbudexiaoyuanneinanhaihenvhai，keyouneimadibuxiang。

 quanbuxiaoyuanneinannvaideshuajie，tabianxiaoyuanneimeigemiaowurenyan，tamendoushihuizuo，ertamendaliangdeqingkuangxia，jinjinchenmobuyu，jiufangfoxinyoulingxiyiyangnenglejielingyifangdesixu。

2getaibuyiyangderen，dayuezhongjiuyaoxiangfengba。

 talaiyuanyunongcunyibandejiazhong，talaiyuanyushengwaidedachengshijiazhong。taduitadejiazhongjuedeshenweihaoqixin，tazongganjuetashishengzaiyigechuantongshidejiazhong，daodishiruhedechuantongshini?taquecaibushang。

 tameiyicidouwenqi：“dajiajiashifouhuiguazhehongdenglong，huoshiyouxierenyizhezhangyi，haoxianglaiyuanyuminguoshiqihuoshiqingchaowanqi。”jiangwanyihou，tajiukaihuaidaxiaoqilai，taquejinjinzaiyipanghaixiudixiao，suihoukanjianta，ganjuefangfoyaoshitagaoxing，tazenmejiangtadouxiangyaojiena。

yganjuedadexingzoubuhaokan，dazaojiupianyaozoujitakan，suihoujiukanjiantakaixindixiao。

 bijiaozhixia，dadegengchenwen，eryquegengwaixiangyixie。ketamenduibiqingchunnianshaomanmandexiaoyuanneieryan，youkanqilaitaibuyiyangle。

 tamenyelipaodaoyuanxiaohoushanding，zaidaoluludengweixiaodemingliangxiajiangguigushi。tamenzaiyikejidadehuangjueshushangjiandaotiejinyizhangxiaozhitiao，shangbianmingxixiezhenaxie，dazaojiuwangshangpakan。“xiaoeryeku，daijunniandu。xiaohaimeiku，xiejunwanshun。”dadenianjiyting。

 dadeshuokongbudianyingli，zaizheileiqingkuangxia，dixiatouxiangzhezishentuijianwanghoumiankankeyijiandaociwaidequanqiu。tayifushenshendaodaodemoyang，dingzhuta，xiangbeiguifushenleyiyang，jianjiandidixiatouxiangzhetuijiankan。zaitadouhaimeizhenshidikanyiwangyiqian，tajiuzaixiang，biequeshikandaoleshabuyinggaikandeba。cikeyzaoyisayazipaole。

yuanbenxiangkongheydedade，huranzishenyegangkaishidanxinqilai。suihougensuipaochushanqu。

yjingranyexiangxiaoguniangyiyang，chenguaidimadade。dadexinliliquegaoxingzheni，ganjueneiyangdezeguaifangfoyeshimaimeng。

dadediyiciqinwendenvhaierbianshiy。

 neijiewenduitaeryan，zhongshennanwang。neishizaiktvlibian，yiqunhaoxiedepenyou，dajiadoulejietamenlianghennuanwei。tamenzhengyegechang，tiejinshenyedeqingkuangxia，zaoyishuidaoleyipian。yzuozhedadedetuishang，fangfoyiqiedouneimashunlichengzhang，tabazuichunxianggaigongzhangyiyanghuanhuandejingquedigailexialai。

dadejuedezhenggeshijiedouhuiliang，xiangleidianyiyang，dazhongta，quanshentandaoxialai。

dandaozheili，tahetazhongjian，conglaimeiyouyiqinglvdezhenshishenfenjianlixianghudeguanlian。

 zheiyiwen，jiledadeqidai。neiyiyehuilaiyihou，tamendouxinglaihenwan。diertiantaxiangtagaobai，taquejujueleta，haozhangshijianyemeiyouchuxian。

 dadelejieyshiyigelengmeidenvhai，shiyigechongmanlemaoyiyangmeihuonengliangdenvhai，shiyigeshitachimidenvhai。benlaitajuedelaidaoxianghuzongshixihuanzhelingyifangde，kezaitarenweiyiqiedoushunlichengzhangshi，gaobaidejieguoqueshizaijian。

 tawufashihuai，ganjuezheichaoguoletaderenzhinenglifanchou。taduozhetadeneiyizhou，tabazijiguanjinlesushe，menzheshitadexintaichixufachun。taburongyiyinjiu，quebazijihezui，tudedanyedouchulai，suihoushenyeqilaifanweichufanzhechihongdeyouxue。taganjuezishenkuaifengle。zhengzhengdeyizhou，tajiubeiwanquanjibaile。

 taquchuxiaodaozaizishenshoulikeshangletadexingming。taganjuejinyoutongtengcaikeyichuliquanbudeyilv。tongtengcaishitajuedezishenfangfohuanshihuozhude。

 taxiangquanbuxiaopengyouyiyang，aidaoshenchukaosunhaizijilaibiaoshuxinxin，bingyaneryouxindiganjue，tayaorangtalejie，yaorangquanqiulejie，taaita。

 tajitatongdianhua，tabujie。tajitafaxinxi，tameihui。dandangtalejietaganleneimafengkuangdeshiqingyihou，tadaizhujijinkenqiudeyudiaojitamenhuidianhua，shitabiezheiyangzi。

 taganjuetamenbuyi，taqipanshenai，quebingbuganjuezishenpeiyouzheneiyangjianyidanchunxingdexingfukuaile。tadanxinneiyangdeqinggan，tadanxinjinxinjieliyihou，daxuebiyehaidezaoyutichufenshou。tadanxindanfufenbugushenaidedaijia。

 yinci tabenrenweinenggouzaineibannuanweidexingfuliyizhixialai，zhizhitagaobaile，talejietaqipandeneileizuixingfudeaidefangshihuimiele、taxianle。

 tasunhaizishen，yidaodaoxialai，yehaoxiangluozailetadeneixin。tashuo：“nizaineiyangxialai，haipazuizhongdajialianpenyoudouzuobulai。”

 tameizaijianghua。dianhualiangbianananwenwen，taxinliquexintaiqianwan。tahaipashiquta，xingba，nipawotaipianzhiershizhongbubijianwo，neimewotuiyibuba。dadetiaoxuanledaotui，taqidaiyuqinguzong，hainenggoubianchenghaopengyou，hainenggoubazheifenqingganjingjingdiyanmaizaixinzhong。

zongsuan，dadebiye。tahaiwantayiniandaxuebiye。

 tagangkaishizaiwaimianzufang，kaishishangbangongzuozhong。dadeyoushihouyiranhuiheyyiqiwan，yiqichifan。jinjintaneixinzaiyebuhuiyiqiandeneileiqingqingsongsongnaizhixingfukuaile，xuduo qingkuangxiatajinjinpasangshita，erjiazhuangshashidoumeiyoudemoyang。

 taxukantashoulikeshangdexingming。tabuyuanyi。tazaiguiding，tajiushenshoujitakan。takandeshuangyandouhongle，ketaquekanqilaishouzuwucuo。

 shuqideqingkuangxia，tameiyouhuijiale。tazaiyihaoxiedeshuangxinglianqinqijiajiezhu。huranshuangxinglianpenyoudenanpengyouhuijiale，tameidiqukequ，wendadeshibushinenggoushourongta。

dadeganjue，yaoshishitamingquetichudeguidinghaowuyiwendoudetongyi。

tabanzhidadezheierlaizhule。dadezheieryejinyouyijianfang，tahetashuizaitongyizhangchuangbian。

kuanyimiwudechuang，tahetagongchuyishi。aidehaojinhaojin，queyouhaoyuanhaoyuan。

 jinguantatongyita，tuiyibu，dahuoerquanshidepengyou，ketazhidaotaxinlingshenchuwangbudiaodeqinggan。ketajianxinta，zaiwujiakeguideqingkuangxia，tiaoxuanleyouqiuyuta。neiyiduanshijianli，tameiwandoushuibuzhejue，ziranbingbushichongdongzuoguai，erjinjinxiangkanjianzheiyinvhaierdegudubeiying，juedeaiyinyinyueyuedeshenying。

 haoshuci，lianaineidianshi,tahenxianghuaizhetashui，ketadanxin。qingdaoshenchu，zuihoubianchenglehaipa。danxin，danxinzishenquanbubushandegerenxingweilijizaocheng zishenshizhongsangshizheiyinvhai。youyitianwanshang，taguzuoshuijuele，shenchushoudazailetadeshenshang，tafanpan，tayoumenbayizou。tapatashizaiwenminglimaoditishi。

haozhangdeshijianli，tadoujinjinneibanjingjingdikanjiantabeiduizishenrushuidemoyang。

 meiyicitahuijia，huijitazuochide，tayoushihouyehuijitamenzuoshanzhangdeqiangguomian。neiyigeyuedeshijian，tajuededaochuxianyichangdixingfukuaile，ganjuefangfozishenyiqianyizhizhuiqiuwanmeideai，rutongpingpingdandandeshenghuoyiyang，queshijiushitadeshenghuo。keneibandeshenghuo，zaineiyiduanqingganhuoshineiyiduanqingchunnianshaoli，taiduanzanxing。

 lianaililun,duanzanxingdetaxunsuxinxueqikaixue，banchuletaneibian。zaiquanbupenyoudoucaiyitamenzhongjianfashengshenmeshidezhuangkuangxia，tabuyuanduozuobiaoshu，tazhidao，tameiyouyueleichiyueleichi，tameiyousangshita。