恋爱的法则,婚姻是共同学习不是单向培训

 lianaidesigejieduanyoushenmeni？hunyindeyiyishihezuojingyingguoshenghuo，jibian leijileyixieyuanchou，jibian shitanlexianghudedaodedixian，yebubisuibianpengchunagejiexianhebaokuan。neimelianaidefazeyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanlianaideweidaodewenzhangba。

 penyoukaiguojiaxiaoguimonashuirendegongchengshejigongsi，qiansanniancengpinqingyiweichaoniubdeshouxishejishi，zheimingzhuguanyaoduxiangyijiangongsibangongshibilaozongdehaida，chukaipeibeidebangongyongpin，yeyaoyouchuangyoubuyishafa，youjianiangyouhuashu，zheimingzhuguanchengnianrenconglaibuzunxunyiqieqiyeyaoqiu，gongzuoshijiannenggousuibianrushuiyinjiukandianshiju，yongtaxiaideyiqiefangfaxuncijixing，meimingqiyuezhao“shejigousi”。xiaoshineishejishimenyouqiuyuta，shizhongshiyifuaidabulidechouezuilian。lianaidesigejieduanyoushenmeni？gukeshuxiadanjitamen，jihuquanshikanqingxuaijiebujie。dahuishanggongranfanduituantijianyi，gongbugenlaozongjiaoxiao，bubasuoyourenfangyanzhong，kuangwangzidaziaodaowuyiyanbiao。nazhegaodeherendexinshui，mojianyouduomedeniubdechanchulv。zuodejihuafangangukeyijiubumanyi，shucibeituihaifanxiu。gongzuozerenxinyiyangyinlaichengqianshangwanjubao。jishiruci，zaiyouxiurencainanxundesanxianxiaochengshi，laozongrengshiduitagonggongjingjing，guangjieshanyuan。

woxunwen：“zheileiren，benlingbingbudaxingzihenda，shengmingzhixiaqishinanfu，ganshenmeyaoliu?”

 lianaideweidao，penyouaishengtanqi：“shejifanganbutaihaozhao，jishiyouhaode，yexuxingzigenggao，yebuyidinggengqiangyong。couheba。”

 jibian laozongbeigongqujiedaoci，zheiminglaodayerengjiubugaoxing，zongsuanhuanshipaiyipaitunbuchaolelaozongdedayouyu。qudaolingyijiatongyangjingyingguimodeqiye，yiyangdegongzuozhongtongyangdezhiwei，quexiangfashengbianhuabenren，jingjingyeyejingjingyeye，andiangongzuozunguishouji，jingshenfengmaohuanranyixin。

jushenghuainanzeweiju，yubeizeweizhi。

renhuanshineiren，daotarenshoushangquebeipanwandetuotaihuangufufutietie。zheijiushiyiwujiangyiwu。jiukansheikeyijiangdezhu。

 wodehaopengyouduishuxiadefangrenherongrenchaoguolegegebumendejiexian。laozongjiuyinggaishilaozong，lianaideweidao，quanweixinghezizunbukesuoyourentiaozhan。chaoguojiexiandejieguobianshilingyifangyulaiyumingmuzhangdan。

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 gongzuozhongyihou，woyizhiqinpeiwodebossduiguanlituanduimingquetichudeguiding：buguanzhuadaoyibanaxiedepai，nengdahaocaisuanshibenling。

churuzhichang、hunyinshenghuo、ganqing、youqing，wubuzheiban。

zhichangzhong，youxierenbenlaizhualeyishouhaopaiquerengjiudadehenlan。

hunyinshenghuoli，youxierenbenlaizhaolehaonanrenqueguodexiangjialegehuaxinnan。

youyuqingshangzhishangbuzu?youyufangshiyiban?wozishizhizhongganjue，bizheizhonggengguanjiande，shijianjuhejiexian。

ganqingnengrangdiaosibiancaijun，yekeyirangshashibiyabianshagua。

nvxingyidanrulekafukachengbaojiufeichangrongyimeiyoulejianjuhejiexian，feichangrongyitaruerzhongjiduanhua。

 diyizhongshiziyiweishidaquanzhangwozaizijishouli，zongsuanyizhengciyandidengtangrushi，zhixiangjianghoubanbeizizijintourudaofenbugushendegengxingaizaohexunhuananrendedayundongzhong，youshoujiaoxuesheji，zuoshoupibian，fanghuanyuweiran，zhideyiman。

 nvxingxutaosuanbushangguoshi，nandeshijiangbijiaoyouxiandexingmingzijintourudaowujindezhaochaerzhongqu，hanzhe“weilegenghaodininhao”dehuangzi，naizhizuodehaobulijizhuanyesunren。nanrendeshentifafuwuyibubeizoushangbiaoshi，jixiangbeishouguiledezhanfu，youxianggongyingcongshouleibeiquanpeiyangleqinchu。nanrensuiyihaowu，zizundasao，nvxingqueshinongnongdetourugan：woweinixiangxiangganlezheimeduo，niyejiugaigengweishuoaiwo。

 dierzhongshiguoquleshierdiandehuiguliang，jijidiukuixiejia，laolaoshishidituodiaozishuijingwuxie，huandiaolaocubuyifu，benlaishidazhaiyuanlimingmeizhengqudezhengzhu，queshengshenghuobianchenghougongyuanlibeibierenyazishoumailaidejianbi，weinanrendemingshiyi，weinanrenmashoushizhan，yizhihunshugaodexiangqianlemaishenqi，shengjiushinideren，sijiushinidegui。henbunengrangnanrenxiangqijiguangdemamayiyangzaitashenshangcishang“jingzhongbaojun”sigecuzi，yizhengtazhisibuyu。

zheierzhongzhuangkuangbingjianerli，zuizhongdouburongyiyounaxiebudeshanzhong。

 diyizhongdebuliangyingxiang，yaobushinanrenzongsuanbukanqifujieganqiyi，nijiangzishendangnvwang，gaodejiaokubudieshenglingtutan，neimejiuwubilaiyichangchenshengwuguangnongminqiyi，dadaojiuzhengdang，fujianxinshehui。yaobushinanrencihoubeitian，beinishiyademeikuangyuxia，cihouhuodebannanbunv。

 lianaidefaze,dierzhongdebuliangyingxiang，shinanrendecunjinchi，meiyouyishudexinfuhecaihua，meiyouduliderengehefengcai，nibeiweidaochenaililiangegouweibahuayekaibuchulai，muqindeaibaibaidefanlanchengzaiyichang，liangetianluoguniangdoutanbushang，gengweizuoshilejianbidemingfen，youshihouxiangtaitoutingxiongzhiyaofanpan，gengluoge“jiaoqing”dechize。