爱哭的我,一场完整的恋爱分为四个阶段

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你，充足有耐心吗?

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 neiyangdexiaogushiguoduo，xuduo lianrenshenxianleduanlianyuyan，tamendangzhongdabufenyequanshihuaizhemeihaoyuanwangqijigengchijiudizaiyiqi。jinjinzaizheigexintaixinfuqizaodeshiqili，tanyichangjuebutichufenshoudetanlianaihaoxiangqueshinanyi。dajiahebuxiantaolunyixia，duanliandaodishizainagejieduanshangchulenanti。

yichangxiangxidetanlianaifenchengsigehuanjie：

第一阶段：并存

langqingqieyizhishi，henbunengyitian24xiaoshinizaiyiqi。

第二阶段：反依赖

yifanggangkaishixiangzhengdesuiyishijian，lingyifangzegangkaishibumanyiyuzishenbeilengdan，douhuiyinsuoshibaofazhengzhi。

第三阶段：猜疑

 youdiergehuanjiezaicifazhanqushi，aikudewo,yifanggangkaishibarichangshenghuozhongxindiancongtanlianaiqianyidaogongzuozhong、jiaopengyouhuobiedexihao，lingyifangzejuedelingyifangyiqingbielianle，bushandaizijile。zheishifeichangrongyibaofayulunyali。

第四阶段：相互依存

ganqingdaliangdezaoyizhuanhuanchengyikao，huxiangzhaoguxianghukuanrong，xiangchijiudezhenqingqingkuangmairu。

juedabufendetanlianai，doushiyouyumeitingguodierhedisanjieduan，erxuanbujieshu。

dierjieduanhedisanjieduanyoudianerxiangjin，danyoubuwanquanyizhi。

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