恋爱中的人如何爱?

 lianaizhongderen，ai，shiyaoyongxingdongqubiaoshu，yongxinting。shubuzhi，aiyouyizhongmeifajulilunzhengdeshizhi。tabaohanlelianmin，tongqing，xinxin，renshou，shiyong，xinrenganjiqidaliang。jiarunijuedemimangbuzhidaoruhequai，juedebushangshenai，neimayueduwenzhangbenwen，yexuninenghuodeyixieshejilinggan，ninenglejieruheaiziji，ruheaizheishijie，ruheaibieren。neimelianaiyuhunyinyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanlianaiyizhounianwenzhangba。

方式1:爱是什么样子

1掌握爱的总宽。

 aibujinzhilanmandeganqing。jiaixiayigexiaxiaodejiedingzongshijiuyouziqudirangnizijicuoguoleailiaokuodehanyouwenxin。aishidajiaherenxiangchushi，yudangranchupengshi，ganshoudaodeganqing。yaoshiyoufaxianaideshuangyan，niyejiuhuifajueaijiuzaishenbian。aicunzaiyushishikeke，meiyigeren，meiyizhongqingkuangdangzhong。

aishiyongyugongxiangde。babamama，xiaohai，xiongmei，zhixiqinshu，airen，qinglv，penyou，gebilinjuyouyuquanburenrenmen。

aicunzaiyunidezhutihuodongzhong，baohannidegongzuozhong，xingquaihao，zhiyuanfuwuhuodongzheilei。

 ruguonixiangyongrichangshenghuo，lejieshijieshijian，ninengganshoudaorichangshenghuodexingfu，lianaizhongderen，quanqiudefuzaduobian，zuizhongyaodeshi，ninengganshoudaoai。

aicunzaiyuziranjiezhong，zhujiuletiandiwanwudeshengxifanyan。

ailaiziyuwusidefengxian。zailurenzuibixudeqingkuangxiawusifengxiandishenchuyuanshou。

aichanshengzairuguonichangkaixinfeijienashiqing，ganshoutamendemei。

2要了解什么叫爱的表达，哪些并不是爱的表达。

dazhishuo，aishibuqiuhuibaode，yonghengbubiande。erbushi：

zisizilidechongdong(liru，meiyouganqingdexingyuwang)

zhanjuhuoshizhangkongyu(xianghuyikaohuoshikongzhi)

qiangpodeyoulv(guoduoyoulvbukeyiduixiaohaifangkaishoudejiaoyufangshihuoshijiankongzhixiqinshudeyijuyidong)

yikao(meiyouanquanganhuoshizizunguodi)jiqigeshuyijian

aibingbushiyongyuweiyijizhisieryunyongtarenhuoshijushutarendezhuanyonggongju。

方式2:好好爱自己

1从善待自己刚开始。

 jinyoushandaizijideyouxiurencailejieruheaitaren。bubirangmeiyouanquangan，kebianxing，tongchudengfumianxinxideganqingzhanyounidexinli。youyujiarunidexinliyouzheizhongxintaizhanyou，nizongshijiandaotarenxiaochendeyimian。

 shandaizijibingbingbushijiangzishenfangdaotarenqianbian。shandaizijidezhuyaobiaoxianshi，zishenzhongshi，chajuezijideyoudian，bingchengzhidichongfenfahuizishennenggouguoyisheng。

2宽容自身，为自己做错事的机遇。

 bubitaiguoposhizishen。lianaiyuhunyin,shengmingduanzan，fazhanshixuexipeixundequanguocheng。buzuocuoshijiumeifahuodegongzuojingyan。rongxuzishenfancuowu，jienazishendeyouquehan。

jiarunishandaizijiyouyuniganjuezishenhenjizhi，neimaniwuhuile2jianshi：

 zijuededejizhibingbuyiweizheniqueshihenjizhi。keyishuo，quanshijiemeiyouwanmeiwuxiacideren。meiyigerenyizhiyouneimayixiecanquebuquan。

 niyongqiangdaoluojiduidaizishenhetaren。nimeiqidaitarenshijizhide，weihehaiguidingzishenbaozhengjizhini?yaoyongyiyangdeguifanlaikandaizishenhetaren。

3yaolejieshandaizijishishajuede。

 yidannizhenshihaohaoaiziji，nikendingbuhuiweitarendequdechenggong(biaocengdehuoshizhenshidequdechenggong)erwangzifeibo，nikendingbuhuijingchangnazishengentarenjiaowei。ninengwujuwushudiyutarengongxiangzheifenai。jibian dangqingxudiluoshi，nihuanshigerenganjuehenyouliang。niyinyiweihaodanbukuangwangzida，suiyidanbumamu。niyaoganchouqi。

 lianaiyizhounian,zhenshidongzuiaiderenbudanshiyougongzuonenglijiyuai，bingqieganyudakaixinfeijienaai。nixuyaolejie，nizhideshenai。niyueganjueyongxinquganshou，yueganjuezishenshenaizhe，nicaiyuekeyiquaitaren。